Originally Posted by 3babiesin2years
1.So of course she gained weight when we went to the dr. He was very happy about it. We were discussing what I had been doing and such.
2.He told me that she was losing more calories by nursing than she was getting from the breastmilk.
3.Then we are discussing the fact that she is 3 months old and has started rolling across the room already and is scooting backwards.
4.he says something to the effect that it is only by the grace of God that she is doing as well cognitively as she is considering that she was malnourished when we were not giving her formula.
5.He basically said the formula is putting weight on her so why continue to nurse?
6.Also he was falling all over himself b/c he knows this is all b/c of her being tongue tied. He was talking about how hard it is to see in a baby and how he just sent a newborn to the ENT last week for it just to be safe.
7.The other thing with the ped today was he commented on how she is behind on her shots.
Hi, I just read this today.
Wanted to comment on the above quoted blurbs, in order.
1.What would this guy be doing if you hadn't been so honest with him? If you'd just said "nope, this is all breastmilk, things are going SO GREAT since I saw the LC and had the clipping done." What would he have done? If you decided to go back, what if you tried that?
2, 3, 4, and 5. I would LOVE to actually see the test to determine if this is true. It has always sounded like utter nonsense. And I did caloric tests in college, being an Exercise Science major. First you gotta hook the baby up to a system where you capture all the air going out, and know how much air is being breathed in. You'd have to capture all the heat coming off the baby. You'd have to know the EXACT caloric content of the milk going in. And they'd have to figure out how much heat and air is coming off of you vs the baby.
I can almost guarantee that no one has EVER done this study, and they are all talking out of their behinds when they spew such nonsense as the act of eating is taking more calories than is being eaten.
Also, are they doing calorimetric (totally making up that word LOL) studies on your breastmilk? Say, over the course of a month, finding out the caloric (and protein and fat and vitamin and and and) content of your milk? A sample from each feeding, of course, as milk changes and is amazing and magical. Only then could they POSSIBLY make any sort of judgement on your milk. Have they done that? Have they offered to do it?
As for only taking an ounce in a feed-and-weigh, milk changes. Sometimes it's dense, sometimes it's not. What if the ounce of milk at that particular moment had a HUGE amount of calories in it? What if the ounce a few hours later was lighter in calories or nutrients or fat or whatever, and so instead of just an ounce, she drank 5 ounces? Has anyone ever mentioned that milk changes? I was just reading the other day that when lab animals are given food that is low in calories, they will instinctually eat more. When the food is higher in calories, they will eat less. If lab rats can do this, isn't it very likely that a baby can, too?
She's eating more breastmilk than formula, right? Well, that means that most of her calories are coming from the breastmilk.
And what is with this emphasis on weight? Has she grown TALLER during this time? What was her length at birth, and how tall is she now? Have some of those calories gone to grow her longer, rather than to chunk her up? I know most of my son's calories went towards his height, rather than weight. Why is it that doctors focus so much on pudge, when they are looking at GROWTH charts? Which include height?
And what about all this mobility? He thinks that the mere act of eating somehow sucks up the calories? What about moving around the room? My extremely active and long guy didn't even roll over until well into 4 months. Your girl is moving everywhere! What about the caloric expenditure in THAT?
This ped isn't thinking at all.
Your baby has grown, changed, and started moving very early, with mostly breastmilk. All the formula seems to have done is fattened her up. Is this THAT important? Why does he think so?
I know you mentioned you were worried about dehydration so you supplemented, but it *is* hot outside. Are YOU getting enough water?
6.What if you mentioned you were thinking of suing him b/c he missed such an important diagnosis? Not that you'd do it, but just mentioning it? Since he's falling all over himself now to likely "over"diagnosis tongue-tie, he's obviously very reactive. He's also SCARED. And he's making decisions for his patients out of fear. That's NOT fun to be around.
7.This guy isn't an AP-friendly doctor. He's assuming you don't know what you're doing. He knows nothing about variations of normal in breastfeeding, and the things you can do to help rather than destroy the nursing relationship. He's urging vaxes, and since I assume you'd at least once said a version of "no" to him about them, he's not listening to you. Now, even our naturopath, who is our family doctor, legally has to *mention* vaxes to us at every visit. But when I say "no thank you", she marks it down and moves on. She doesn't sit there urging them. She's done her legal duty, I've done mine, nothing more to be said.
I say find someone, anyone, new. Even if you're not going to stick with that person, find a new ped. Then tell the old ped that you're leaving, and they can send the records to Dr. XYZ. That gets any fear of him calling the authorities, as he'll see "oh she's simply changing doctors" rather than anything else. And then you can decide from there what's going to happen. But since this guy is spending WAY too much time on something that isn't even, really, in his realm (doctors graduating NOW get one, maybe two, classes in general nutrition. they didn't get that probably 10 years ago. so anyone who is an older MD likely didn't get a single class in nutrition, and you can bet your bippy that NONE of them received a mandatory class in infant nutrition), and he definitely isn't seeing what IS going on with your child, which is that she's thriving, despite all these gene-caused (frenulum issues) and doctor-caused problems.
Pant pant pant. Hope all that came out right.