Is there anyone else in my predicament? - Page 3

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by the_lissa

What evidence? The rant of a really offensive person? I know two people in a similar situation, and the guy keeps saying stuff like OP, and he is so off.

You're right..."evidence" was too strong a word for it. All I meant is that people are dismissing the possibility that he may have been tricked and/or lied to, just because he's being offensive. If that is the case, it may be part of why he's being so obnoxious about it. It is interesting that he hasn't come back, though.

Also...with respect to the "if you have sex, you take a chance on babies": This is true, but many people don't know it. I've known many men, and quite a few women, who honestly believe that the pill is 100% effective, and that there is no possibility of pregnancy.

Anyway, I obviously see this differently than most of you - probably because of a couple of particular cases I've seen, which almost totally destroyed the father's life, while the mom sat around complaining like he'd taken away her pills and raped her then abandoned her. It's made me more than a little sour on this topic.

[Kavita]

I'd just like to point out here that the interval between "gettin' it on" and "I'm pregnant" is generally about two weeks. I'm assuming that the OP's realization that his GF is "from the wrong side of the tracks" (UGH!) and that he doesn't want to pursue the relationship is not something that came about within those two weeks . . . .

I agree that it's good that he's interested in remaining involved with the child and providing support. So I hear an intention to take some responsibility when the child is born, but I don't hear in the original post any notion of being responsible for the pregnancy occurring, and that sort of ticked me off. If this young lady is so reprehensible in so many ways, and the relationship is "dead', why have sex at all???? It seems that there is a level of hostility, arrogance, and disrespect that is likely to affect the child's life if the OP doesn't work out his responsibility for the pregnancy--even if there was some deception involved. No woman can "dupe" a man into getting her pregnant if he isn't having sex with her, right? Whether the pregnancy was intentional or unintentional is a moot point now, because the fact is that either way, she's pregnant and having his baby. As far as ignorance that birth control is not 100%, well, to me that is not an excuse. Information on the efficacy of different contraceptive methods is widely available, and part of being sexually responsible is to consider the possible consequences of sexual activity. One of which, for a man, is the possibility of being "trapped" by and unwanted pregnancy.

[Tata]

So, I've been kinda' readin', hangin' back, and wunderin' where's the OP? There's been a lot of good things pointed out and a lot of things that he could address. Just wunderin'.

[tug]

my troll meter is ringing...

[Cynthia Mosher]

And my namecalling meter is ringing. :

I've removed posts that are inappropriate.

Since the OP is obviously, and understandably, not responding - thread closed.