Sex bracelets - Page 3

[mommyto3girls]

I teach 6th grade in the inner city and some of the kids were using the red and black jelly bracelets in this manner. One girl innocently wore them and a boy snapped a black one and when the other kids told her what it meant she freaked out. Screaming, crying, etc. We had a big meeting with the school counselor and needless to say the jelly bracelets are now banned from our school

[Fi.]

The jelly bracelets thing (in general) is a load of crap. I've been wearing them since high school and they have no meaning. I got my first one at a concert, it was a gift from someone. I aquired more through friends and trade, I've never bought one.

Never once has someone tried to rip them off and demand a BJ.

[rryman]

I have to say I have never heard the bracelet one, but I have heard the wear green and it means your horny and the pop tabs, that was all in during my teen years too, how funny this all seems now Everyone is right its usually just for say and not for doing.

[Storm Bride]

This bracelet thing is weird to me, because my 12-year-old wears them all the time. But...he's a he. They're not quite as popular this year, but the boys in his 6th grade class wore them more often than the girls did.

[harakka]

Seems we don't have these here in Finland. What do they look like? Is there an image on the web?

[CookieMonsterMommy]

This is what they look like. They sell them in lots of stores, and they come in diff colors, as well as with sparkles, glow in the dark, etc...

http://1fashionsinjewelry.com/fashio...ybracelets.htm

[harakka]

Oh, I'v seen those in fashion magazines andn movies ect. But I thought them to be just jelewry.

[Pinoikoi]

Ok, I have read through all the posts, and I agree that most of this is media hype.

However, fads and danger signs change all the time. One day students weren't allowed to wear camo because someone died that was alleged to be of the little soldiers crew gang... (from out of state I guess, but killed here) Anyway, all students the following day that showed up wearing camo were sent home to change clothes. Which is funny since many parents were wearing camo gear- for work.

It is a daily changing thing though, the symbols that can mean your child may or may not be safe. In my social impacts class a police officer that works in the gang field said that at one point in time- red shoelaces were a symbol of gang membership as well as bugs bunny wearing baggy clothing. Also, the fox symbol (snowboarding gear??) was a symbol that that person uses or sells Oxy (oxycotin).

Parents really need to stay on top of these things- i guess...

I am a little worried about the OP though. I think you are taking the wrong approach to sex education with this teenager. I don't believe there should be a "sex talk". Discussions about sexuality should be an ongoing process. Hopefully whomever had her before got those discussions going, and you should be building off of them. If they didn't well, then you have some catching up to do.

For example, my 2yo knows that babies come from mama's belly. My 7yo would say that his parents had sex (he says it is becuase they are married- but he put that in not me), and daddy put the baby in mama's belly (although he doesn't know ALL the details) and that is where baby's come from. I really think that building off of discussions in this way takes the scariness out of it. I have read that it is a valid approach. I wouldn't put off talking to that niece of yours.

[SunRayeMomi]

When I was in highschool (all of 5-7 years ago ) we wore these all the time and not once did I hear them referred to as sex bracelets. They were more a part of the growing goth and rave scenes than sex. Which I suppose may also freak some parents out However, Hump Day, the color green, and F**k tabs were definitly the game I doubt this is something to worry about. Just a silly little secret language that kids use to either hide messages from grown-ups, or freak them out and laugh about it

[LizD]

Originally Posted by KermitMissesJim

Wow, forgot about the pull tabs...and that if you wore green on Thursdays, you were horny.

OMG I forgot all about wearing green on Thursdays.....! But really, did anyone think about it enough *not* to wear green on Thursdays? I didn't. And the bracelets, well, I wear them, my dh wears them and was wearing one black one for years when I first met him. In some circles you'll hear it comes from wearing cock rings. I've heard that from a lot of gay men but have never met anyone who confesses to wearing sex aids on their wrists in the hopes of attracting attention.

Doesn't anyone in authority, don't any anxious parents realize this stuff is on the level of "step on a crack" or that eating olives "helps you make out good with the girls," to paraphrase Judy Blume? Would that mean all teenage boys eating olives had ulterior motives? My neighbor believes all this nonsense when her kids tell it to her (and they tell her there are condoms on the hall floors at the local high school, which was in the top 10 in the country for its IB program) and doesn't realize their joy in scandalizing her.

If the bracelets were banned at my kids' school we'd have a problem. I don't believe in banning clothes or jewellery or things like that. But I grew up in NYC. That kind of thing didn't get banned at my high school, so I have a really hard time believing that anyone puts up with it anywhere else. My suburban Floridian neighbors think I'm delusional, as you can probably guess.

[~Nikki~]

I remember the pop tab thing. It was just pure silliness. You'd pull one off, and if the ring was in tact, all of your lunchmates would go "ooOOOOooo" and giggle about it for a few seconds. We wore them as necklaces sometimes, but truly, it didn't mean anything. I'm sure the bracelets are the same thing.

I agree with the person who said that if kids are going to have sex, they're going to have sex. They don't need a bracelet, or a pop tab, or a green sock as incentive.

[snarfywarning]

DH and I both wear them! (we are still only 20 and 23!) I wonder what black and red mean..maybe we can incorporate this into our nights out!

Hmm..whoops. guess I should have finished reading the thred first.. aparatnly "all the way" and "BJ's only"

What fun!

[sapphire_chan]

Off topic:

One of the school districts here forbade pink for awhile because some adminstrator heard a rumour that it was a gang color. I was thinking that if I were the students, I'd come to school in a very very fine checked red and white gingham, looks pink from a distance, but no one could ever claim that it was pink.

[Butterflymagic]

I wore these in high school and I am 50, it is just a thing to shock parents and it worked...I think if you communicate with your child,then they don't need to shock you...just my humble opinion