Weekly Chat June 14-20 - Page 3

[*Amy*]

And now, all the birth horror stories begin!!

We're going to Texas next week to visit DH's family so I'm kind of dreading that as well. Don't get me wrong - I love his family, but I just know I'm going to hear *evvvvvveryone's* birth story, and how I'm crazy to even think about natural birth or water birth or whatever. I'm not as all crazy defensive as I used to be (thank god I'm getting some of my sense of humor back) but the truth is, seriously, I don't want to hear all of the negativity!! Well at least DH's mom had him naturally, so I won't get any guff from her (though she did give me shit about co-sleeping but I think she realized in that conversation that I am pretty comfortable with the decisions DH and I have made about parenting so I don't need her second-guessing me).

Chrissy, I have Tricare too (DH is in the Navy) so I can understand what a hassle it is, but STILL!! Sounds like you've totally been getting the run-around and that just isn't right. And as for the rhogam, I thought that was at 28 weeks as well. Thankfully DH and I are both A- so I won't have to worry about that one.

Jenn, any news on DH's new job prospect?

I haven't had much to say to anyone this week; I've been really moody and tired and just not feeling up to much.

Hugs and belly rubs to all!

[BensMom]

Hey Amy and Mary, I saw this great button at a birth faire a couple weeks ago, maybe you need to have one made.

"No negative birth stories, please. The baby is listening!"

No news on the job. DH played phone tag with the CEO all day Weds but when he called the office, the lady there said the CEO was leaving on vacation the next day. (Why did he wait til the day before vacation to start to contact DH???) So no word this week. We are hoping it was a quickie-long weekend type of vacation and he is back in the office Monday. If he is out all next week too, I think DH and I will die from frustration!

[snugglebutter]

Amy - where in TX???


Jenn ((((((HUGS))))))

[samsmamma]

I literally can not see straight at the PC. My eyes get all blurry. I wish i didn't have to sit in front of a computer all day at work!

Trip to DC was good yesterday - the meeting was productive and the lunch was yummy. I find that I can't really eat at night, I'm just not hungry and then I wake up with an upset stomach.

I'm getting kidn of neurotic again about whether or not the Turkey is ok. I think I did this with Sam too...I'm really not feeling regular movement yet and it is starting to freak me out a bit. I know that with Sam I felt movement by my 20 week sono, and that is 3 weeks from today, so I figure I have time. I had a bad dream last night that the Turkey got strangled in the umbilical cord in the womb and there was nothing I could do. I need to clear my mind of these thoughts, but I'm having a really hard time doing it! I know that I'll just feel better after I start feeling regular movement or after the 20 week sono, whichever comes first.

Looking forward to the weekend...then I have abusiness trip to Indiana next week from Tues to Thurs, so you won't be hearing from me for a few days!

[DreamsInDigital]

Erica, I totally agree with you that I will feel better when I start feeling regular movement. I've had one m/c and I don't ever want to experience that loss again, so I'm very panicky if I don't feel the baby kick. Fortunately, most of my giving birth dreams have been good so far, and a lot of them have made me feel better about my choice to UC (although I'm seeing a midwife for prenatal care, she just doesn't know we won't make it for the birth) but I'm anxious to see this little one on the ultrasound just for the comfort and peace of mind it will give me.

[*Amy*]

Sara, we'll be in Houston, Austin, and Carthage (East Texas) throughout the week. Anywhere near you?

[meagen]

Hi everyone!

Just wanted to let you know that out little Halloween bundle is a BOY!!! I'm so darned excited, I just can't stand it! Good thing dd is sleeping, or I'd be out shopping right now Wooo Hooo! :LOL

[flapjack]

Hey! The first boy of the-erm, batch? Bundle? Congratulations!!!

[snugglebutter]

Amy - we live right outside of Dallas. Too bad - that would have been fun to get together (and give you a break from the silly labor horror stories).

[*Amy*]

Sara, my MIL actually lives in Dalls so I'm sure we'll be around that way eventually.

Wait, I thought we had another boy besides Meagan's? I was thinking maybe we should do a sticky for that.

[Kavita]

Well, DH and I went and registered at (horrors!) Babies R' Us today. We figured that we need something mainstream for some of the relatives and coworkers! There are some things there that I actually want--like Medela washable nursing pads and a nursing stool, a nursing pillow, some clothes and washcloths, etc. I put for the arrival date simply "November" because I'm totally against giving anyone the actual due date. It will just be a pain when that arbitrary date comes and goes and the baby isn't there, and then everyone will start bugging us with the "when are you going to have that baby" routine! So anyway, I come home, look it up online, and they put "November 15" as the due date!! Which pisses me off doubly because it is my actual official due date, which I don't want anyone to know!! I may just call them and tell them to either take it off, or forget the whole damn thing!!

Other than that, things here are pretty good! DH was supposed to work at his 2nd job last night, but they were slow so they told him to either cancel someone else or himself (he's a shift manager.) So he decided to cancel himself and we got to spend the evening together. We've been so busy lately with the house and work and everything else that we haven't spent any significant relaxed quantity of time together in a long time, and it's putting a strain on our relationship. So it was really nice to have a long uninterruped evening. We were planning a date night tonight and were going to see Mr. and Mrs. Smith, but we ended up going to see it last night instead. We were going to go do other stuff tonight, but we're both feeling somewhat tired so we're just hanging out at home.

Also, DH got called last night by a potential job, a part-time faculty position at an evening university for working adults!! That would be so good for him!! They are seeming very interested--he submitted an inquiry, and they emailed him requesting a resume, and after he submitted that this lady emailed him the next day asking a few follow-up questions, which he responded to, then she called him last night for an informal phone interview, and then requested that he meet with her in person and then attend the next stage of the faculty screening process at the end of July. So we'll have to keep our fingers crossed!!!! If he gets this it will allow me to stay home full time with the baby!!! Yay!!!!

[flapjack]

Yay! Jobs and money are good (well, necessary.)
My kids rock- seriously, I am so proud of the way they behaved yesterday. Considering we're having a heatwave (temperatures of 88 degrees were predicted, which is a LOT by Brit standards) and they spent 2 hours sat in a car, they were brilliant. No, wait, they were brilliant full stop- no conditions! We got there, they sat, they played, danced, ate tea, the bands started, they watched, danced some more, made new friends and were the cool, together, friendly, open little boys I knew they could be. My 4yo now wants his own electric guitar (short men should stick together and idolise one another) A fantastic, happy, night.
And apparently I am now an honorary man- any woman who can teach not 1 but 2 men-in-training to wee standing up deserves to be one. I thought that was quite funny.

[PicnicBear]

I totally hear you about the negative birth stories thing -- I just got the hypnobabies program and it says how important it is not to hear them, which is exactly what I had been thinking all along. It also talks about the importance of visualization of the birth -- this sounds important, too. Without even realizing it was called visualization I have been doing this since I can remember. It's how I'm getting through grad school -- by imagining, quite often and vididly, me accomplishing certain tasks by certain times and then they do get done. I want to do this for the birth, but I do have some school things coming up that I have been concetrating my visualization on, so maybe after they are over I will focus more on the actual birth since I do think it helps.

An annoying thing for me is that I came down with diarrhea from antiobiotics and whenever I have gotten that before it cleared up in a few days but this has been almost two weeks, my main symptom now being cramping. I'm so bummed I want to eat all these yummy veggies and things but I am on this boring diet and it doesn't seem to be helping even. I am on probiotics, don't know if it's doing anything. One more week on this other antiobiotic (which didn't seem to bother me -- it was when he switched my meds when I got it, then I switched back) and this nasty infection sould be wiped out so that I can get off it. Does it seem like every little thing that would be minor when non-pregnant is so much worse during pregnancy?

Oh, we're meeting a potential doula tomorrow night here at our apartment!

[3for3hb]

I really haven't gotten a chance to get online in a while this week. Well, we have officially chosen our midwife team and my FIRST, yes, I said first :LOL prenatal is in a week and a half. My midwives work as a team so both of them come to the birth. One is young, unpartnered, and really cool, and both are all into organic living and yoga etc. She's really strong in nutrition too (which I am starting to feel I need someone to check in on that department for me). The other one is older (or should I say matured) has had 8 children, all at home. SHe's the warm, motherly but ultra hip (in a cool hippy sort of way). They are such a good combination. We went to a open house potluck yesterday (took the train into Philly, and let me tell you, for a non-city girl like me, it was a little unnerving) and all their clients had such wonderful things to say about them. The only downside is that I have to drive into South Philadelphia (traffic, trying to parallel park in tight spaces, keeping the toddler occupied during the ride and during the prenatal, and the like) for about an hour or drive to Maryland about an hour and twenty minutes for my prenatals. But I like them so much and my intuition is just telling me that they are the ones to attend the birth. I feel so good that Pennsylvania doesn't have the stupid mandates on birth (for the midwives to follow) that SC did. It has gives me the chance to experience midwifery for what it really is and not for what the government is forcing it to become.

Other than that, no real news. We went to dh's aunt's house this afternoon to meet up with family. It's so weird how mainstream they are. I feel like I don't really have a voice sometimes with them, but I guess it's their loss.

Okay, hopping over to Talk Amongst Ourselves board to vent about something non-pregnancy related

[BensMom]

I learned a lesson this weekend. LOTR: Return of the King is NOT a good movie to watch when you are hormonal and pregnant. (Already saw it in the theater, but it was our first chance to watch the extra length DVD.)

OMG. I cried so much. And we finished it tonight, the last half hour or so. So I think I cried the whole time. When they all bowed to the Hobbits, I think I was crying out loud!

And this from a person who rarely cries at movies when I am not pregnant!

[MommyJad]

Good Morning everyone! How are you all doing? I just got back from a very long 4 day weekend with my parents and youngest son. I dont think I'm gonna do it again anytime soon. They were driving me nuts!!! Maybe it's because I'm hormonal right now I dunno. I did want to say thanks to everyone for caring about what happened.... Me and baby are doing good. We have our 20 week US tomorrow at 220. Today however I am having issues with trying to get into a high risk OB because tricare is being a pain in the butt and telling me I dont know what i'm talking about and that I have to keep my OB. I refuse to keep mine so I'm frustrated. Thats ok though. We will get through this. I will talk to you all later. I hope you all had a wonderful weekend!

Hugs
Chrissy

[*Amy*]

Hi mamas. Happy first "official" week of Summer!!

I am all aches and pains the past few days. My uterus seems to be growing SO fast the past week or two and I'm having ligament strain which causes lower-abdominal cramps, and I think my uterus is starting to smash my intestines so I've been having this feeling like intense gas all day long. On top of that, my leg cramps are back with a vengence and I didn't have any bananas the past few days. I drank Gatorade yesterday but it kind of made me sick to my stomach from all the sugar. I went straight to the store this morning and got a banana though, so I'm hoping that will help for today. Then last night, my carpal tunnel flared up terribly in BOTH arms and I was just miserable. I finally gave in and took Tylenol ( : ) but it helped, thank God, and I was able to go back to sleep. Woe is me!!!

I probably won't be around much this week so I hope y'all are feeling good, get the good news you want, and have perfectly-behaved angelic childrend and husbands! :LOL

[memory maker]

we had a busy weekend. we drove 4 hours to my parents on saturday because my cousin got married yesterday. The wedding was at 7 pm on sunday night and then we had to drive home. LONG night for us! Today the kids are so tired. My other cousin was there and is due in Aug. I swear I am almost as big as she is.

Tomorrow is my dd Emmas birthday : It doesnt seem like she should be 2 already. It seems like she was just born and the little baby in my arms. We are having a small party this coming weekend, so I hope that will be fun!

[Kavita]

Originally Posted by flapjack

Considering we're having a heatwave (temperatures of 88 degrees were predicted, which is a LOT by Brit standards)

I'm laughing--here in Southern Arizona it was 107 degrees today. Heck, here 88 degrees is a cold spell! :LOL It's hot, hot, hot! I am dying if I even have to be outside for a little while, and wondering how a couple of years ago I used to bike around in this blast furnace of a desert! I told DH that next time he has to knock me up in September! :LOL

Things are good here otherwise. Not much to report--we are working through some relationship issues but I think we are making progress. We had a really nice night yesterday, and a good day today. DH is off at work now, and I utilized the time to shave and bathe one of our dogs. She is kinda uneven, but cleaner and at least should be cooler and not shed so much. I need to groom her more frequently, that way it won't be such an ordeal for both of us! Since we got the tile we're noticing how much hair she actually is getting on the floor, hence, the shearing!

I went with a friend last night to see "Melinda & Melinda." It was a good movie--I really enjoyed it.