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post #142 of 161
No. Never.
Has anyone read about the molestation cases of troop leaders? That freaks me out more than their official position on gays.

I also do not want to support an organization that is so disrespectful to others.
post #143 of 161
I will not join or associate with organizations that discriminate in any way. So no, I would not allow my child to join the boy scouts.
post #144 of 161
No and it really upsets me because I believe that scouting can do so much for a kid. We've just begun to look into alternatives however.

It's interesting to me, so many of our friends have their boys in scouts yet seem to share the same ideals as we do. I think I'll start asking them why. Not that it will change my mind, I'm so adamantly opposed to the Boy Scouts as an organization, but perhaps I can understand my friends a bit better.
post #145 of 161
My son just joined tiger cubs because he really, really wanted to. His little buddies are all in it, and the leader is his best friend's daddy, and it's run out of our church, so their was some subtle pressure to join.

I am in a state of disequilibrium about it.
post #146 of 161
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Originally Posted by Potty Diva
No. Never.
Has anyone read about the molestation cases of troop leaders? That freaks me out more than their official position on gays.

I also do not want to support an organization that is so disrespectful to others.

Yeah and I think the two are tied together. Ya know very few are hiding the fact that they are a child molestar by announcing they are gay. I'd rather have an openly gay man with my child than one who might be hiding something!
post #147 of 161
No. Based on their stance regarding Atheists (which we are) and homosexuality I would NEVER allow my children to be a part of their orginization. We frown upon bigotry, we don't condone it because we might like to camp or what have you.
post #148 of 161
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Originally Posted by SugarAndSun
Would you let your ds join the Boy Scouts? Why or why not?
I have only read the OP. Absolutely not. Why not? Because the Boy Scouts are anti-gay.

Namaste!
post #149 of 161

nope

nope.
post #150 of 161
No. I do not agree with their position on issues important to me.
post #151 of 161

Yes to the Boy Scouts!

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Originally Posted by patricefgay
I'm surprised at the high level of antagonism toward the Boy Scouts. They are what they say they are and that is one thing I like about them. They are a group set up to honor God and country. I have a 7 year old boy who just finished his first camp experience. It was a really fun week-- there were not enough men there though-- too many women made it more fussy I think. I'm a Christian and not a homosexual hater nor do I hate anyone-- I do not look to the Scouts for anything more than camping, skills and fun. I'm also an Army wife so I probably offend many with my support of the troops. I am also an Army veteran who served 6 years. God Bless~
Ditto all that! I won't say much more about it because I wouldn't want anyone to call me a homophobe or close this thread because of my post.
post #152 of 161
No, we are athiest so I don't think we'd fit in very well. We will probably try Guides instead, they seem pretty popular around here. Guides are through the YMCA, which is technically Christian, but they seem far less religiously oriented than Boy Scouts. I have occasionally bought things from the Boy Scouts. To not support them at all in this way would feel too much like punishing the little boy who was trying to sell something.
post #153 of 161
I just read through all the posts and have a couple questions:

1. Why even debate the Boy Scouts if there are other, less questionable scouting groups like Spiral Scouts or (someone mentioned) Roots and something (sorry, there were 8 pages of posts!)? I mean, why even have the question? Why not just automatically seek out the organizations that fall in line with your beliefs instead of struggle with the morals of BSA?

2. I couldn't help but wonder if part of the reason the gay issue is not an issue in GS is because gay women aren't seen as molestors the way gay men are. I mean, that is what got it widespread approval, even if the ultimate reason was religious. That is merely conjecture and something I was hoping for some insight on from those of you familiar with GS and more familiar with discrimination against gays. And probably totally OT.

And my two cents is that my sons (and only children) will not support a bigoted institution, I will find other ways to expose my children to camping and knot tying, etc. BS isn't the only place kids can learn things about nature...
post #154 of 161
For whatever reason, in general, women seem to have less fears about homosexuality than men do. Prejudice against gay men is greater than against lesbians. People are often less accepting about gay men than they are about lesbians. Sometimes, I think it is because they don't take lesbians seriously. They look at it as a phase or they haven't met the right man yet thing.
post #155 of 161
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Originally Posted by mattjule
1. Why even debate the Boy Scouts if there are other, less questionable scouting groups like Spiral Scouts or (someone mentioned) Roots and something (sorry, there were 8 pages of posts!)? I mean, why even have the question? Why not just automatically seek out the organizations that fall in line with your beliefs instead of struggle with the morals of BSA?

I Love the idea of scouting. I grew up in Girl Scouts. LOVED it. I would love if there were a scouting organization for my future sons too. The problem is that none of those organizations have anything in my area. And BSA is HUGE. Even if they got a start up group, they have no camps, no big gatherings, etc.

just my $.02

-Angela
post #156 of 161
No.
post #157 of 161
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Originally Posted by Rhonwyn
For whatever reason, in general, women seem to have less fears about homosexuality than men do. Prejudice against gay men is greater than against lesbians. People are often less accepting about gay men than they are about lesbians. Sometimes, I think it is because they don't take lesbians seriously. They look at it as a phase or they haven't met the right man yet thing.
Well, it's the patriarchy, Rhon. Men need to be (seen as) strong and dominate other men. Homosexuality is seen as a form of weakness.

This attitude, however, is lessening as the patriarchy gradually weakens these days. The lines are less clear cut, aren't they?
post #158 of 161
My ds is too young for boy scouts, but we've already decided against it... unless they change their stance on gays... and if they would be cool with an agnostic family joining

It's kind of a bummer, dh and I were both in scouting, it is too bad we can't share this piece of our childhood with ds.
post #159 of 161
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Originally Posted by DaryLLL
Well, it's the patriarchy, Rhon. Men need to be (seen as) strong and dominate other men. Homosexuality is seen as a form of weakness.

This attitude, however, is lessening as the patriarchy gradually weakens these days. The lines are less clear cut, aren't they?

I agree Daryl and I believe that this is a hopeful thing for Boy Scouts. Scouts has so many wonderful aspects but I don't believe that the bad stuff will change unless their is change also coming from inside the organization. As more and more boys grow up accepting gays, I think there eventually will be a change at BSA.
post #160 of 161
She's a glass half full kinda gal! Rhon.
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