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post #101 of 212
Jenne said, "Ya can't please 'em all, even part of the time."

How would one go about not offending ANYONE? Goodness gracious!
post #102 of 212
Jenne~
It isn't about walking on eggshells and not offending anyone, it's about apologizing when you do and trying not to do it again. It's called awareness of other people, places, things other than those that we are accustomed to.
post #103 of 212
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Originally Posted by Jenne
Jenne said, "Ya can't please 'em all, even part of the time."

How would one go about not offending ANYONE? Goodness gracious!
One wouldn't. But one would hope that if one was told that one had been offensive, one would face that head on rather than trying to convince the offended party that their offense didn't count. One could explain oneself and agree to disagree, or one could come to understand the other person's point of view.
post #104 of 212
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Originally Posted by Potty Diva
Jenne~
It isn't about walking on eggshells and not offending anyone, it's about apologizing when you do and trying not to do it again. It's called awareness of other people, places, things other than those that we are accustomed to.
I think there is even room for agreeing to disagree.
post #105 of 212
It's all about the "blame the victim" mentality.

If that Asian didn't have such a darm cute accent, none of this would have happened!
post #106 of 212
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Originally Posted by annettemarie
You are really annoying.
I am insulting? Have I personally attacked you? No. I just disagree with you.

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someone who has absolutely nothing to add to this conversation but rudeness and sarcasm.
I did add something. I wrote a long thought out post and you chose to acknowledge it in a few sentences, then you continued to push your ideas and refuse to even consider seeing it from another perspective.

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Why don't you do surf the web and let us work this out?
Do you mean that I should leave so that you may attempt to convince everyone that the post is wrong and bad without an adversarial perspective?
post #107 of 212
Wow. You must think I am really powerful if you believe that I am going to make everyone accept my point of view. Thanks!
post #108 of 212
I don't know about that, but I do know there is room for sleep...
Camping tomorrow..caio for now.
post #109 of 212
Okay pottydiva. Sure, in real life, if I offend someone I tend to appologize for it. Especially if my intent was not to offend. I guess irl I've never had someone call me out on telling a story. I have called people out, namely relatives who use what most of society consider to be offensive terms based on race, religion, sex, creed. When called out they do tell me to get over it. Freedom of speech, you know, I don't get upset I just stop caring what they have to say.

Sorry, I got a bit off topic there, my point was that rl is different from being online. Anyone could read any post and be offended. Not offending ANYONE is nearly impossible. I don't just mean that a spanker could read something written by a non-spanker and be offended, I mean, what if someone was offended by the ridicule Past has received for her story? Then there are 2 diametrically opposed viewpoints. Who gets the apology?

Jenne
post #110 of 212
Everyone.....play nice
post #111 of 212
I said it bothered me, I never said it was racist.

I agree we can enjoy differences in accents. But if you don't think that the story was poorly worded, think about this. Would you tell this story, as it was written, to someone IRL, imitating the accent and the grammar mistakes? I can't imagine that many people would, because it would come across very badly and be considered rude and condescending.
post #112 of 212
Past_VNE, I would love to discuss this further with you any time to see if we can find some common ground. Have a great night.
post #113 of 212
Thread Starter 
annettemarie,

That is where I feel like we are. I see what you all are saying, but still feel the same. I meant no disrespect, had no ill motivations or prejudices and meant no belittlement. So, while I see that there was offense taken, I don't feel the need to apologize for my actions. I feel that, "I'm sorry you feel that way," kind of response would be appropriate, but I HATE that phrase and feel like it says, "Gee, tough crap." I don't feel that way towards the offended party, so I won't say that. So, I guess it comes back to, agree to disagree.

This thread HAS been enlightening, though.
post #114 of 212
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Originally Posted by AngelBee
Everyone.....play nice
I agree
post #115 of 212
Gotcha. I agree about the "sorry you feel that way".

I'm sorry we couldn't see each other's point of view. I have had some insight into other ways of thinking on this thread as well.
post #116 of 212
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Originally Posted by annettemarie
Wow. You must think I am really powerful if you believe that I am going to make everyone accept my point of view. Thanks!
I believe you misquoted me. I wrote: "so that you may attempt to convince everyone"

post #117 of 212
Yay - lets talk about the latest pouches, MeiTais and wraps in town!!
I can't afford to buy any right now, but it sure is fun to talk about them :LOL
post #118 of 212
Kozy.....I am dreaming about it polihaupt!!! :
post #119 of 212
[QUOTE=Potty Diva]It's all about the "blame the victim" mentality.QUOTE]

Hmmm. Interesting point. Who was the victim in this? The nice Asian man? The person/people who read the story and were offended? The OP? I guess I don't get it.

Maybe this has to do with a difference in viewpoints between the right to never be offended because one will never hear/read/see anything offensive and the freedom within limits of self-expression.

Jenne
post #120 of 212
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Originally Posted by polihaupt
Yay - lets talk about the latest pouches, MeiTais and wraps in town!!
I can't afford to buy any right now, but it sure is fun to talk about them :LOL
Blessed are the peacemakers, huh? :LOL
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