Originally Posted by annettemarie
I think the best we can do is face things head on and hash them out.
Do you think the details in the op's story were not pertinent? Did you think the story would have been better if it were made more PC for this forum? You yourself say above that we should 'face things head on and hash them out' so let's do that.
Imagine I describe a scenario to you by saying 'a car ran me off the road.' Now, let's imagine I use more descriptors. 'a red car ran me off the road while the female driver talked on her cell phone' both statements are true, one just happens to be more descriptive than the other, but this does NOT change the facts. If you choose to perceive that I am somehow saying that females can't drive, you would be making a determination based on YOUR OWN biases. Perhaps I was indicating that cell phones are dangerous, or that it is dangerous to pass on-coming red cars.
What if the op's character would have been a black Jamaican woman with a thick accent...would that not be important to the story? I think it would be just as pertinent as saying that this was a chinese man, some people may find that offensive, but those are still the facts. You shouldn't hide from the truth, only strive for accuracy.
Take for example a little book by a little know author, Huckleberry Finn, by Mark Twain.
****** Jim (that's not a typo folks!) says and I quote:
"'Ef you got hairy arms en a hairy breas', it's a sign dat you's a-gwyne to be rich. Well, dey's some use in a sign like dat, 'kase it's so fur ahead. You see, maybe you's go to be po' a long time fust,en so you might git discourage' en kill yo'sef 'f you didn't know by de sign dat you gwyne to be rich bymeby.'
He is referring to the value of money. Is he being portrayed as stupid or is he being made fun of? Neither. Twain is showing him as an intelligent slave, black no doubt. But he is more than intelligent, he is charismatic and full of wisdom, yet he speaks like a slave and not in 'the Queen's English'...go figure...that's what he IS.
Twain portrays ****** Jim in the same light as the op does her subject.
Point being: The world is full of stereotypes if you choose to look for them.
Don't let YOUR OWN judgements and choices taint your perceptions. Those who were offended by the op's statements CHOSE to be offended and missed the true point.