I recently joined MdC and i just found this forum today. I moved here 5.5 years ago, am married to a sabra and expecting a baby boy any day now. Unfortunatly what should be a joyous time for DH and I has become a time of real stress and turmoil and i could use the advice of people that live in Israel, which is why i am posting this here rather than on another forum.
After a lot of careful and thoughtful consideration, DH and I decided not to prefrom brit milah on our son after he is born. DH comes from a not very religous family. I didnt grow up in a particularly obsevant houshold either, but i was always proud of my judaism and have enjoyed the traditions. both DH and I are athiest (but with appreciation for heritage and history). When we told his family there would be no brit, they freaked. MIL tried to persuade us with a lot of arguments that just didnt hold any wieght as far as both of us are concerned. she us unhappy about our choice, but she is willing to try to accept and move on (although i doubt the matter will be dropped completely). DH's father on the other hand (who in general is rather irational) insists that the boy wont be jewish, despite the obvious statement that what makes a jew is being born from a jewish woman. He kept saying that we are going to raise him christian (even though DH pointed out that we are atheist) he than said that DH is betraying him and he will not come to see the baby when he is born! An uncle even tried to change DH's mind, and when non of his reasoning held up to the arguments he decided to threaten DH that some family will cut him off (im not sure if that included said uncle)
does anyone have any advice for dealing with this type of situation? It's been pretty rough on DH and myself.
I don't live in Israel, so perhaps have no useful input, but I am Jewish and my son is intact.
It was, and still is, an issue for my family. I'm not sure they'll ever be accepting of our decision, but I've just had to stick to my guns through many difficult conversations and heartache.
I've never once regretted my decision, and feel the same as you about what being done to his body being his choice. There is, IMHO, no easy way to deal with it, no logic that will work with nay sayers, and you should be prepared for many debates.
I wish I had some words of encouragment or advice of some kind... Just don't do anything you're not 100% comfortable with, and be prepared for possible difficult times with your family. It still weighs heavy on my heart that my family is not supportive of this choice, but it has gotten easier as time has gone by.