Well, as I write this, I have a SCREAAAAAAMING 1 year and two month old who is refusing to nap.
Now, I'm not an Ema who sets nap scheudles. Naps are 100% child led. This is the time she consistantly chooses nearly every day. Today was no problem. So what happened, you may ask...?
Well, DD started BITING. HARD and DEFINATELY, everytime we start to nurse. It started fairly recently. But back then she would nurse for a few minutes and then bite. I would end the nursing session calmly saying "no biting". A few minutes later I would try again and all would be well. She would cry like bloody murder when I would take her off the breast, but I would always set her on the floor at first and then pick her up after a few seconds and hug her and tell her I love her and that we can nurse again right after she is ready to not bite. She doesn't really talk (at least not about this...though she seems to have plenty to say about what she sees on the street...albeit one word here and there) so our communication is limited in this regard. At any rate, we used to nurse again and all would be well. Well, over the course of a couple of weeks she would become more insistant in her biting and would persist in it even after our "break". So much so that I could either just sit there and let her take my nipple off or refuse nursing.
Now, I was most often able to halt the meltdown by distracting her attention with various things around the house...which I continue to do...so much so that we have had almost an "overnight weaning" which is both shocking and heartbreaking to me, espically since I planned to nurse her for years and years...and espically since she has only really started to turn to other foods besides my breastmilk fairly recently. I'm dealing with that. But now the issue is naptime and bedtime.
DD is pretty much used to laying with me in bed and having a long, luxurious nurse. We both love it. I play with her hair, she puts her arm around my waist. It's a very loving wonderful time before she drifts off to sleep, which is why I am so angry that she is blowing it!!!! (okay, that was a bit of venting!) I've never tried for her to sleep any other way, cause I never thought we'd need it. Sure, she falls asleep in the car, and she fell asleep on my husband's shoulder one night after our shower, but that was only because she was so tired...she just hugged him and laid down her head and that was it. I was shocked then and a bit hurt and upset, but I figured it was a fluke, and it's good that she has another way to sleep, if she needs it...little did I know that we'd be dealing with this way exclusively.
Poor DD is now in the bedroom with DH. She keeps drifting off (he is singing to her and I suppose also holding her...though I don't dare let her see me or else I will spoil it all) but then waking up crying. I feel just horrible. I want to much to just nurse her and for her to sleep comfortably without tears. But when I tried (and I knew she would and even talked with her about it before hand) she bit.
Yes, she has molars coming in and yes, she has 6 teeth that all came in at once, but I don't think it's bothering her SOOOO much that she is in any real pain. I have seen her in pain from the teeth before and it's not like this. I found a homeopathic remedy here (galil baby, I think it's called) that works like a charm, and I've only had to use it about 4 times in her life...so I'm not anxious to overuse if she doesn't need it. And I truly don't believe that she does. She knows better. She looks at me and gives me the eye when she is getting ready to bite. I just wish she would stop. I thought me telling her or taking her off...being calm...or yelping "ow"...or whatever else I tried would solve the situation...but it's just not working.
And, DH is beginning his new job in just a week, so pretty soon it will be just me and her...and my boobs!!! I really don't know what to do. I tried rubbing her back and singing to her softly and laying down with her and rubbing her belly and her hair and holding her close...EVERYTHING! But she ONLY wants to nurse (read:BITE) and screams and flops around like crazy when I don't give in. B"H now my husband can take over and I can get lost (and vent...er...type on the Mothering Boards!) but what happens in a week? OY! Why did she have to start this now. DH has been home with us since we made aliyah 3.5 months ago...we could have had ALL THAT TIME to work this out. B"H. Oh well.
Sorry to vent. Maybe some of you have some sort of suggestion or idea. I talked with a friend of mine from Paris and she said "stop nursing her. Wean her". I would have scoffed...but this woman is SUPER pro breastfeeding and nursed her own daughter until she was 4 (as per the shulcan aruch). I couldn't believe my ears. "every child is different" she said. "if she is biting and she knows that you won't nurse her when she does that then she must not want to nurse anymore." What do you ladies think? Maybe this is HaShem's plan for me... I just feel like a failure. I wanted to nurse her for so much longer.
I know she can do it...last night she woke up twice to nurse (in her sleep) and she nursed just fine. She nursed for a long time and actually drank a lot of milk (when we were nursing all day and regularly before sleeping, she ususally didn't drink in the middle of the night, just sucked a little to drift back off...but she would do it upwards of 6 times in a night) and didn't wake up outside of those two times...but sure enough, when she fully woke up in the morning...again she was TOTALLY awake...and she bit straight away. SO I stopped and she cried, but my husband just took her out of the bed and showed her some toys and I followed and she had totally forgotten about nursing.
Oh, how do you do the techel smiley face?
Be well ladies.