i'd like to start trying alternatives to disposable pads, but haven't gotten there yet.
I started my period when I was 13 (i'm 15 now) and it was hard for me bc I was considered a "late bloomer" because of it. When I first started my mom wouldn't let me use tampons because I was too young and you csn lose your b=virginity from them but that's just a myth. I like using always infinity and radiant. I have tried to use a menstrual cup but I couldn't figure it out. Also if you are having problems with cramps and acne then you might want to talk to your parents about birth control. Most parents don't like the idea though. There Is also an alternative that does everything without preventing pregnancy. Hope this helped some.
My daughter likes the ones from Mom and Me Creations. http://www.mom-and-me-creations.com/ClothMom.html
She also steals mine from Perfect Pads, but unfortunately that company was sold and I can't seem to buy more.
Always gives me horrible diaper rash, ugh! DD tried several store-bought brands last year, but kept going back to cloth.
I'm not sure this poster is around any more, but making general comment. When I do use disposables, I use the Kotex because of one reason: GLUE. The last time I use the organic brands, they had 3 thin stripes of glue that cause the pad to bunch up and shift and move and wad up and ACK! How much does glue cost, anyway? (Always gives me a rash and Stayfree is scented--blech...)
My poor daughter watches me use our old small prefold diapers for my heavy days at home and at night (the heaviest nights with a sposie underneath). I have got to get myself some nicer cloth ones so she's not scared when her time comes.
My daughter is 9 now, and I have given this much more thought recently. I use a menstrual cup and have for years, but recently I broke out the cloth pad stash because I am about to give birth and need them postpartum. The cup is so effective and easy to use for me that I never use pads as backup, but I have a large stash I made for my last birth.
I don't think my daughter is near her time, but you never know. I have had this conversation with many other moms of similarly aged girls recently. I think it is important to remember that our children are not us. So when we think about our parents handing us a menstrual cup or cloth pads we might think that would have been overwhelming or gross to us. But our daughters are not us. They have seen us do things differently from the beginning. They have seen us make choices for the environment, perhaps, or for personal comfort, not to be like everyone else. They have (hopefully) seen that we are not uncomfortable with our bodies and that we would not be ashamed for someone to hear the sound of our personal hygiene product through a public restroom stall. (I find this disturbing and sad.)
I hope to help my daughter make her first cloth pads. I am also open to her trying a menstrual cup and am hopeful she will find it as useful as I have. Sometimes in conversation the idea that a young girl might not be comfortable inserting one has come up. That may be so, but again, remember that they are not us. We don't have to assign issues to them because we had them. It is our job to be there, listening and observant, to see who they are and meet them there. If disposable products are something she would prefer to try, we will use organic compostable. But we don't regularly use disposable anything, so I don't expect her to desire those.
I think it is important to remember that our children are not us. So when we think about our parents handing us a menstrual cup or cloth pads we might think that would have been overwhelming or gross to us. But our daughters are not us. They have seen us do things differently from the beginning. They have seen us make choices for the environment, perhaps, or for personal comfort, not to be like everyone else. They have (hopefully) seen that we are not uncomfortable with our bodies and that we would not be ashamed for someone to hear the sound of our personal hygiene product through a public restroom stall. (I find this disturbing and sad.)
And they are able to have ongoing conversations about what is happening, hopefully. I know many of the problems I faced could have been different had I felt I could *talk* to an adult. I'm sure that wasn't all my prudish mother's fault-- I was the youngest of 3 girls and my older sisters teased me about every little change: breast buds, my first genuine swear word, my first real crush. I hated all that.
Thankfully my 9yo is showing signs of being different. She's getting breast buds, and we talk openly about problems of chafing or discomfort. She loves her little bralets we found to help ease this problem. She *talks* about what's happening to her. I know menses is a different level of development, but the early signs show that she is in for a much more easeful transition that I had to make.
You have children and are grossed out by this? I find that odd. After giving birth and changing diapers and getting puked on and newborn explosive poops, well....body fluids really don't phase me, lol.
My daughter has seen me using cloth pads since she was in cloth diapers. It never occurred to her to use disposable pads - in fact she thinks the idea of disposables is just gross (so do I - they are full of plastics, use up Earth's resources to make for one use, and end up in landfills by the millions).
She started out with Lunapads, (one of the founders was an MDC mama way back when her kids were babies) which are great for DD because they are relatively thin and she can customize absorbancy to her flow by adding inserts if needed. We have a little bucket in the bathroom that she puts them in when soiled and since i use pads myself and we generally cycle together we just soak them together, rinse and then toss in the wash.
And there is no reason why they can't be discreet. Lunapads makes a lovely little "wet bag wallet" with two zippered compartments - one for clean and one for soiled. Mind you, my DD has no issues around menstruation and doesn't feel the need to keep it some big secret, but regardless it's not like she couldn't be discreet if she wanted to.
I would also like to put in a plug for Homestead Emporium's lovely bamboo velour pads. The heavier flow ones are thicker and require a more thorough soaking, so DD doesn't use them. But I love them for myself.
I think I've mentioned this before in other threads about teens and menstruation, but sometimes an issue with menstrual cups isn't that they're not willing to use them, but that they can't. My teen's been interested in using a cup since she started her period at 13. I first got her one of the brand I use, though the smaller size, and she couldn't get it in no matter how hard she tried. We tried in the shower, using lubricant, etc. No dice. So I shopped around and found the one that was smallest, shortest and most flexible. Still a no. She is 16 now and mentions that she hopes someday she'll be able to use a cup. Maybe after she becomes sexually active? We don't know if it's the hymen getting in the way.
About cloth pads -- for her, she didn't like using them at school because she has a heavy flow and needing to keep all of the soiled ones in a wetbag in her backpack was uncomfortable. She was worried boys might see the wetbag, that there might be leakage, odor, etc. It was just not workable for her. But at home she likes them a lot.
So even if our girls are comfortable with their bodies and more aware of health and environment issues, there might still be impediments. Doesn't mean we shouldn't make them aware of all of their options, of course!
My daughter had only seen cloth pads and menstrual cups growing up (I don't use disposables). However, when she started her period at 10 she wanted disposables both at school and at home. I felt it was extremely important for me to *honor* her choices for her own body.
She tried a lot of different brands (you can get samples with first-period stuff), but she really liked the Kotex tween U when she first started (they're smaller, so fit her clothing better) and still likes the Kotex U brand (though prefers the regular maxis now that she's 12 because she doesn't have to change them as much as she started to have to with the tween ones when her flow got regular (and she inherited my heavy flow). She doesn't as of yet have any interest in tampons.
Eventually I hope she'll move to cloth, and I did (privately) roll my eyes at the U stuff, it's a total marketing thing. But for me, it was more important for her to feel in control of her choices in this regard than for me to get preachy or push my agenda. She likes the look of some of my pads, I have crazy colors and fabrics too, and she knows I'm willing to buy them for her if/when she wants them--but as far as I am concerned, she gets to make those decisions for herself.
But for me, it was more important for her to feel in control of her choices in this regard than for me to get preachy or push my agenda. She likes the look of some of my pads, I have crazy colors and fabrics too, and she knows I'm willing to buy them for her if/when she wants them--but as far as I am concerned, she gets to make those decisions for herself.
Exactly! I was open to whatever DD wanted to do. I got her probably half a dozen different kinds of disposables, because I never dreamed she would want to use cloth at school. But she asked about my cloth, then my cloth all started disappearing out of my drawer! Now she uses a combo of Natracare tampons and cloth pads.
My daughter was most familiar with cloth pads, since that's what I use. I bought her a selection of paper pads and cloth pads and tampons, and told her I would buy her whatever she preferred. She chose cloth: I was not involved with the decision except to answer questions (which is, IMO, exactly the way it should have been).