Originally Posted by mothertoall
it does.....thank you. I think i might need meds....only because my fears do overtake me alot.....i spent much of saturday in my room....not speaking to anyone....because something happened that triggered an anxiety response in myself BECAUSE of something that happened to ME as a child.
I was unresponsive.....sad....and scared....and couldn't move out of it for hours.....when I finally did is was only because the rational part of my brain told me that i was being irrationally afraid....does that make sense? is that even possible or does it sound odd??
It sounds really scary for you. I know that nutrients can play a huge part in anxiety and our hormonal balance. Old triggers can not hurt you in the present unless you let them. It has been a long journey of testing that belief for me to trust it enough to change my self-talk consciously. There are some natural things you could try. Here is the link for natural remedies for depression/anxiety: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...tural+remedies
Have you tried any of the natural homeopathic Bach Flower remedies for anger, out of control fears, fantasy, impatience, stress reduction, vengefulness. Here are a few to consider: Cherry Plum (anger), Rock Rose (fears), Clematis (detached from being in the present), Impatiens (impatience), Rescue Remedy or Elm (stress), Holly (vengefulness-toward other or self). The first link below helps you to choose a remedy or several to help cope in the heat of the moment. The others tell more about the individual remedies. They are very safe.http://www.ainsworths.com/remedy/default.aspxhttp://www.bachcentre.com/centre/remedies.htmhttp://www.bachflower.com/38_Essences.htmhttp://www.abchomeopathy.com/c.php/3
The other thing I really find helpful is to have conscious relaxation or mindfulness awareness in the present. By practicing being relaxed and aware in the moment, rather than worrying and ruminating about the past, I am more able to reconnect with myself when something stressful happens. Having some healthy mantras and affirmations that I use regularly about little things helps give them power when I really need some healthy self-talk about things that are triggers. Do you see how the practice of feeling safe could help when the scary thoughts creep in? For instance, I was a critical care nurse and we practiced what to do in an emergency, so that it was automatic. It is similar. I practice healthy self-talk throughout my day, so that I can remember what to focus on and tell myself when something dire happens. It gives me the *what to do* focus, rather than the *what if* focus.
I really recommend reading along in The Secret thread about changing your self-talk.http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=471795
(this is the original, it is in the Spirituality forum. It is restricted for newbies, also.)http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=519212
(this one is shorter, it is in the Personal Growth forum.)
Counseling helped me with that. But, they also wanted to dredge up the past and that just felt smothering at times. Since the present, doesn't have all those dangers that I experienced as a child. My experience of the danger was much greater as a child, than the same situation would be as an adult. I have much more self-awareness, self-control and choice NOW. "I am safe. All is well. Everything is unfolding for my highest Self. Out of this situation only self-awareness and joy will come."
I practice, believe and trust this affirmation and it helps me in the scary moments to get back to a place of being in the moment and seeing that I AM safe.