Originally Posted by Pom
I worry about having to fight back or bicker with a nurse or OB about something like cord-cutting, or drinking juice, and getting annoyed b/c DH is not stepping up and taking care of stuff.
Oooh, Pom, you hit the nail on the head with this one. A worry of mine too. I'm afraid my wishes won't be honored during labor ... especially if I end up having to be transferred to L&D. I don't want to have to fight while I'm in the middle of labor.
I'm scared of the pain, but I think I'm even more scared of "stalling", or "appearing" to stall. It's one thing if you're suffering lots of pain but are dilating, and feel that something
is being accomplished. I'm terrified I'm laboring for hours and hours and hours, only to find I'm not dilating, or am creeping along. I know from all the birth stories I've read that you can make no progress, and then bam, dilate a whole bunch all at once. So intellectually I know it doesn't necessarily mean anything. But in the middle of labor, and dealing with the pain, I think I would be so unbelievably discouraged if this happened to me.
I'm afraid of a c-section. I had laser surgery 12 years ago, and there's a chance there's scar tissue on my cervix. My OB (and doula) said this can almost always be broken up manually during labor (although it's a very painful process
), but there are the few cases where it can't, and the cervix won't dilate, and a c/s has to be done. This also feeds my fear about stalling ... am I stalling just because? Or is it because of the scar tissue? And when and how do I decide I'm not going to get any farther?
I'm afraid my baby will die before birth or during labor. This thought horrifies me so much I can't keep it in my brain for long. But it scares me.
Like a pp, I don't plan on telling anyone
labor has started, and friends/family will get the news after the baby is born. But I'm scared my mom will figure it out and come to the hospital anyway. I know I have the strength to refuse her access to my room, but the drama of it all, and knowing she may be waiting in the waiting room may inhibit my labor.
I'm scared of becoming a parent. My family is so whacked, it has taken me years of work to undo some of the damage. I feel like I've made lots of changes, but I'm still terrified I'll pass down my family's legacy of insanity, and not be a good parent. I'm also afraid of all the things I'm going to have to give up (like I could have been out riding my motorcycle today, if I wasn't pregnant
-- and I think it will be a good long while before I'm back in the saddle
: ). I know I'll be gaining innumerable things, and they will far outweigh the things I'm going to lose, and once she's here I won't think twice about it. But right now it still scares me to think about losing all that stuff (my freedom, being responsible only for myself, etc.)
I'm scared of dealing with my mom after the baby comes. She is really
screwed up, and I'll need to really be vigilant about her being around the baby. Plus she drives me nuts, and I can only handle so much exposure. This will inevitably lead to a blow-up(s). I dread this.
I'm afraid bfing will be hard ... really hard. And I'm afraid I'll have a colicky or fussy baby.
I'm afraid of post-partum depression, and/or not being able to cope due to exhaustion. I've been clinically depressed twice in my life, and while I've come to believe it was due to circumstances -- and I haven't felt depressed for years -- it still scares me to think about it.
I know there's more, but I can't remember right now! Good thread ...