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What Scares You About the Upcoming Birth of Baby?

post #1 of 32
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I think it's very natural for us to have fears...

I have delievered twice in the past 3 years and am still afraid to deliver this baby boy... my biggest fear is that because he is SO big... I won't be able to deliver him w/out the help of pain meds.


What are your fears?
post #2 of 32
Same thing you are saying. I had pain meds for #1 and am hoping to do without this time. I am not really scared about it...just concerned I guess.

More worried about my 2 year old being jealous and feeling hurt.
post #3 of 32
I don't really have any fears. I think that I'll be able to get through it and am planning on taking things as they come.
post #4 of 32
After pains
Tearing and needing stitches

Both are unknown to me from my first birth. I don't remember after pains, but my sister was telling me how horrible hers were with her second. And I had a VERY small tear and needed no stitches with DD.

I think the stitches scare me more.
post #5 of 32
I'm most afraid that something will go wrong with the baby. After that I'm afraid of tearing badly. And I'm also afraid that I may have to transfer to the hospital for some bazzar reason and get treated like crap or have something go wrong, like have to have baby in intensive care or something. These are not huge fears, they're just lurkers....
post #6 of 32
my big fear is dying. I know it's slightly irrational but I got very sick after ds was born and completley traumatized by it. I worry about it everyday but am doing well I think in working through it.
post #7 of 32
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Originally Posted by Jaimep
Same thing you are saying. I had pain meds for #1 and am hoping to do without this time. I am not really scared about it...just concerned I guess.

More worried about my 2 year old being jealous and feeling hurt.

My sentiments exactly...most worried agout how DD will react, how I will cope with 2 babies, wonder if I will go completely insane since I won't have the hired help every person on the street seems to think I will need!
post #8 of 32
That I won't be able to let go of my educated mind enough to slip into complete trust of my body and my baby, in laborland, and just trust my innate intelligence!
post #9 of 32
Back labor.
post #10 of 32
I had just about everything go wrong while delivering my first...I think that ANYTHING is better than that. My biggest fear is something being wrong with the baby. I didn't get to hold my son until 3 days after he was born. I'm still trumatized by that, and my biggest "want" from this birth is just to have a healthy baby that I can hold (and nurse) right away.

Liv
post #11 of 32
I fear back labour too. DP had it with our son and it was so intense, so I really hope that this babe doesn't give me back labour pains. Other than that I don't really have any fears.
post #12 of 32
Oh, I can get geared up to fear just about anything! Lol. But once labor starts I don't think about all that stuff...no room in my head, I guess.
post #13 of 32
I did a hypnosis fear release with hypnobabies and dealt with a lot of my and hubby's fears. My fears *were* baby dying, hypnosis not working, transfer to hospital.

Right now, I have a slight concern about maintaining hypnosis in the car while hubby drives. But I plan to pack myself into the seat with pillows so I don't get knocked around.

I feel peaceful and calm about the upcoming birthing. Excited, too!

hh
post #14 of 32
Another vote for the back labor. I had that with DS and it was VERY painful. Everyone tells me how much easier the pain is to deal with when the baby is in the right position. I hope so. I still have images or feelings about the back pain, but I can't describe it to anyone. Intense.
post #15 of 32
Well, I had back labor with DD#1, so I would like to avoid that this time!

I guess my fears are that something will happen to the baby. Once those fears are eased (and she's here!) it's more how to cope with a toddler and an infant. Also, I'm worried about going into labor in the middle of the night and having someone come over to take care of DD. I went quickly last time, and we'll have to wait for someone to come over so we can leave for the birthing center. I'm a little nervous (a) DD will wake up and wonder why we left her (b) my labor will be so quick again that I'm delivering on the highway!

But after I get to the hospital, I think the rest will just fall by the wayside. I'm excited to have this baby since I had two m/c last year. I am mentally ready to not be pregnant!

Michelle
post #16 of 32
Since this is my second section, I'm worried more about hemmoraging due to the location of the placenta. Saw an episode of babies special delivery at twenty weeks where the woman had an anterior placenta and it hemmoraged during her c-section.. Scared me to death... the doctor on the voice over didn't help, talking about how with anterior placenta, they have only got so much time to get the placenta out and all or else... Other than that, the size of the scar {got off lucky with the first one, thanks to a ton of aloe and vitamin E.} and if I'll be able to nurse past sixteen weeks this time. Being at home will help, adn so will the fact that my pumps are going under lock and key to prevent any repeats...
post #17 of 32
Well, I'm quite anxious because baby has Down Syndrome and it's all new to me. I went into the pregnancy thinking I've lived through it all..etc. Was I wrong. So there's just so many unknowns.

I don't fear much else, been through it all enough times *shrugs* you don't feel stitches, lol the heat and such from delivering kicks in and back labor? yeah had it 4 times..it's killer but it give me a chance to be a total b-word and get away with it :P

ok...ummm...yes I also fear my 2 yr old adjusting as well, he's already upset now that the tummy is huge, he knows something's really there and mummy asks him to be careful soooo many times.

have a good one, Kitty
post #18 of 32
I have a lot of worries that I am trying to release, mostly stuff like my baby will be too big, I will tear, back labor, and something freakish that will force a hospital transfer and result in a series of interventions and c/s.
I am trying to make peace with all the various scenarios in my mind so I can let go of these fears and focus more on a positive experience.
post #19 of 32
Quote:
Originally Posted by rainbowmoon
my big fear is dying. I know it's slightly irrational but... I worry about it everyday but am doing well I think in working through it.
: Me too!

Also that something will go wrong and I'll have to have a C-Section. That would be awful....I was absolutely amazed by how quickly my body bounced back after DS popped out (also amazed by how fast my uterus popped him out for a first baby!!! 90 min from start to finish), and enjoyed so much how I felt post partum, energy-wise and everything, because I had had a natural birth, that I fear that if things go wrong this time, I'll have a dreadful healing time which will detract from my ability to enjoy my newborn and help my toddler deal with sharing me....
post #20 of 32
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jaimep
Same thing you are saying. I had pain meds for #1 and am hoping to do without this time. I am not really scared about it...just concerned I guess.

More worried about my 2 year old being jealous and feeling hurt.
Jaime-

Your fears are exactly the same as mine, except my oldest baby will only be 19 mo old when baby #2 arrives.
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