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post #21 of 32
I'm worried about making it to the birth center on time, after pains, back labor. I'm worred about my dh not passing out again with this labor. I'm worred about how my 2yo will deal... I'm afraid I can't handle a baby and a toddler. But my biggest fear is a c/s. I don't know why that scares me the most but it does.
post #22 of 32
hmm, not much really. *hoping* that all goes well with natural this time, but had a very non complicated epidural birth (lol, feels like an oxymoron to say that) with dd. a bit worried about making it to the hospital in time...will be calling the doula right away for sure! there is nothing fun about a 30 min drive to the hospital when you are in pain.
post #23 of 32
My biggest fear is that my midwives aren't going to make it here in time. Not that it would be a bad thing but it is a lingering fear.
post #24 of 32
Aside from the ones mentioned, I am afraid that I won't be able to breathe (don't know where I got that one!) and that I will run out of stamina for upright positions. I really don't want to tear, but know that the midwife will do everything she can to prevent it.
post #25 of 32
Very afraid of a C-section......I've seen too many and DO NOT want some med student tugging my little one out of me.

Also afraid of dying from some bizarre complication. A mom died last quarter during delivery, and although I wasn't at the hospital when it happened, I heard about from other students and it really effected me. (In fact I just finished filling out my advanced directive today!)

Beyond those two big ones are little ones that flit in and out of my consciousness at times....things like tearing A LOT, baby having respiratory difficulties, and not being able to breastfeed.

Mostly I am able to release these fears, but sometimes they creep back in and I have to deal with them all over again!

Sandra
post #26 of 32
Uterine rupture is my number one...I am a VBAC
post #27 of 32
I have a brand new fear--the baby's turned breech according to my m/w, and I fear he won't turn back before the birth.

I also have irrational fears that in some horribly ironic twist, after doing so much research and being such a non-intervention advocate, things will spiral out of my control in a split second and I'll end up as one of those cautionary tales about "the need to be flexible" and have to have a gazillion interventions.
post #28 of 32
I am scared of another C/S and being stuck in bed for a few days without being able to lift my DS (2 yr old). I also worry about nursing two kids - especially at night - I usually lay on my side with DS free to nurse as he wants - will I be turning from side-to-side all night? Also, will my DS be ok during labor? We plan to have him in the room with DH taking care of him and a doula assisting me. And, finally, will I ever sleep again? It's been so many years... how many more?
post #29 of 32
Sandra,
I completely know how you feel with the medical fears and risks "creeping" in. I am a L&D nurse and worked at a big teaching hospital. I have seen many bad situations and unfortunate occurances (babes and moms). It was especially hard with my first pregnancy, but this time it seems easier - maybe I am just too tired to worry as much. Try to enjoy this time and the birthing process - you will be safe. All the worry does you no good - you have to go with the flow and keep all your options open. Also, write a BIRTH PLAN - no residents, students, observers, etc! If you are at a teaching hospital ask for the attending - also keep in mind the MD isn't usually called until you are complete and pushing - talk to your nurses they will be the ones assisting you in labor. Know your hospital policies before (NPO or clear liqs, epidural time, length of time without progress, criterial for C/S or other interventions). At this point, you have to trust yourself and your body - you will know what's best for you. Also, a C/S isn't the end of the world - healthy mom and baby are all that matter.
post #30 of 32
right now: pre-term labor

Later: labor

even later: over due......
post #31 of 32
...that my husband won't be here for the birth. He has a trip planned 2 weeks before my EDD. I told him I don't think he should go. He wants me to have an internal exam to check dialation before he leaves. He says if I'm 2 or more cm, he'll stay. But I don't want any internal exams. WAH WAH WAH!!! I am such a cry baby! (Plus I'm probably being overly optimistic that this baby will be early)
post #32 of 32
Hmm. Fears. I guess (1) "failing" at my HBAC and ending up with another c/s and never having a vaginal birth and (2) "failing" at bf again and ending up exclusively pumping for another year -- it was exhausting. I think I'm more afraid of #2, believe it or not.
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