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post #1 of 110
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Okay, maybe not really. But I am wondering, do any of you SAHMs every have a drink in the middle of the day while you're husband is at work? I do...maybe once or twice a month. Some days, I just need a drink. DH usually has a beer when he gets home from work, but usually I don't have one with him. On the weekends I might have a couple, but other than that I don't drink much. But I do have that occasional beer during the daytime when it's just me and ds. Am I weird?
post #2 of 110
You said only once or twice a month -- definitely not weird. Once dd2 has finished breastfeeding, I might have one or two a month during the day as well, who knows.

I'd say you were bordering on weird if it became one or two a day.
post #3 of 110
I have an occasional glass of wine in the evenings. I don't think it's a big deal.
post #4 of 110
You sound fine to me!!! Once in a while is not the habit of an alchoholic.
post #5 of 110
I had a REALLY bad day with the boys about 3 weeks ago.. I was SERIOUSLY contemplating drinking. If I smoked pot.. I may well have done that.. I didn't though.. Because what if something were to happen.. Now one drink isn't going to incapacitate me, but I worried more..

ANYWAY.. I called my friend and told her..

She said..

Go ahead..


When our mother's were mothers a drink in the day wasn't bad.. When our grandmother's were mother's it wasn't bad.. It's only recently that it's this odd bad thing..

People have a beer at lunch at work all the time.. Well not ALL the time the same people, but VARIOUS people do it at lunch all the time..

So.. As a SAHM that is my job.. And if I want a beer or coctail during the day so I don't.. Oh.. lock my kids in their bedroom.. I'm ok with that..

Warm Squishy Feelings..
Dyan
post #6 of 110
Before DD, I used to have lunch with a group of mommy friends and our babies once a week or so....more times than not we'd have a glass of wine or a beer with lunch (or sometimes we'd just have iced tea.)

I think if you're thinking about it on days you don't have it (like a "man, I could use a drink" type thought) or it's becoming a pattern, then you might want to pay attention to it, otherwise, you sound "normal" to me.

By the way, when I was in the professional world we'd often have a drink at a business lunch, based on what the client did. Throwing back a few martinis would have been frowned upon, but it was fairly "normal" to have a glass of wine.

Just be sure one occasionally, doesn't become one daily, and one daily doesn't become two daily, etc etc, KWIM??
post #7 of 110
I usually have a drink at the end of the day. I like to relax and enjoy the peace and quiet after a busy day of baby wrangling.

On really rough days, I've been know to have my drink at 4 pm.

It isn't compulsive, and I'm not getting drunk. My personal limit is one drink when I'm in charge of the little one.
post #8 of 110
I tend to mix some wine in a sprite while making dinner about once a week..lol (it's usually 4 parts sprite to 1 part wine, so almost nothing really)

On rare occasion, SO and I will have a drink together at night, after the kids have gone to bed. Otherwise, I don't really drink.
post #9 of 110
One of my best friends has a drink aroud 4-5pm while she is making dinner. Husband dosen't come home untill 6-7pm. I think this is normal unless it is causing problems.
post #10 of 110
Oh, Lord. I sometimes fix the "Screaming Baby" cocktail... better known as a white wine spritzer...

At least I'm not alone : And I agree, having ONE in the middle of the day isn't a problem occasionally. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

edited to fix my smilie
post #11 of 110
Well, it seems I'm alone in this. I drink almost every day now that summer's here. If it's hot, I'm drinking beer!! I usually won't have more than 2 if I'm alone with ds (sometimes more though if I space them out.) I follow the after noon rule, but if it's a really hot day, I make it the 11 a.m. rule. As long as it doesn't bother you to not have a drink, I don't see it as a problem.

(I had my first beer today at 4 p.m., my second with supper at 6 p.m., and I'm having my third now at 7:45 p.m. Mmmmmm, beer.)
post #12 of 110
I don't think that there's anything wrong with that at all! Occasionally If I'm having a really insane day I might have one drink in the afternoon before DP gets home from work... but that is a far cry from getting wasted at 9am kwim?
post #13 of 110
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Originally Posted by abac
Well, it seems I'm alone in this. I drink almost every day now that summer's here. If it's hot, I'm drinking beer!! I usually won't have more than 2 if I'm alone with ds (sometimes more though if I space them out.) I follow the after noon rule, but if it's a really hot day, I make it the 11 a.m. rule. As long as it doesn't bother you to not have a drink, I don't see it as a problem.

(I had my first beer today at 4 p.m., my second with supper at 6 p.m., and I'm having my third now at 7:45 p.m. Mmmmmm, beer.)
Amen. Beer lover here! I just am a tad uncomfortable with the idea of drinking alone, YK? If DH is home from work, and we're having homebrew together, no biggie.

It's the stigma of being the noon-drinking housewife that freaks me out.
post #14 of 110
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It's the stigma of being the noon-drinking housewife that freaks me out.
hmmm, I didn't know there was a stigma like that.

I see nothing wrong with having a drink during the day, even if it is everyday as long as it is not a problem. I try to not have alcohol in the house because there was a 5year point in my life where I did use alcohol as a way to forget my problems. I can drink, but I find if I were to start having 1 drink a week, then when I get stressed out that's what I'd turn to. The flipside of that is I realized a few years ago that I replaced the drinks with chocolate. When I was at the height if my drinking days(well before I had kids) it was normal for me to mix a drink in a regular 8oz glass that was 90% alcohol and 10% mix. I do drink still, just not like I used to. I can control how I drink, I was never a full blown alcoholic, but I know if I do it too often it's what I want when I get stressed. Maybe that's normal, I don't really know. A few days ago I was weeding my garden and it was one of the hottest days and I could have really had a cooler. I thought about driving to the store to get some, but it was my weigh in day at my weight loss group so I didn't. Now I usually only drink if we go out for supper with no kids(1-2 times a year), if we are having company over for a bbq or on those really hot days where even a beer(which I don't like) tastes good.
post #15 of 110
Heres to you Mrs Robinson......
I do not think we have any Mrs. Robinsons here :LOL

I split a beer with dh at least 4 evenings weekly. Sometimes I even use one of those sample beer glasses. If I get a chance where I actually drink a whole beer, I feel a bit tipsy. I also have a small glass of wine if no beer. But if 8 oz is a normal serving for wine, I usually consume about 2-3 oz.

I guess I am out of shape drinking wise- if I drink more than that I get tipsy. But in college and up to almost 5 years ago, I could consume more than that.

I actually consume more coffee and tea since that is our thing here!
post #16 of 110
I would never drink alone-- I mean if you can stop, you should asap. This is JMO having grown up with alcoholics. Any time you "need" a drink, this is a warning sign. I think that drinking alone is a bad idea, especially during the day. I see SAHM as a job and you shouldn't drink while "on duty." What if you had to jump in the car to drive somewhere?
post #17 of 110
I drink maybe twice a year...there's nothing that I'm more scared off than becoming an alcoholic, there is alcohol addiction in my family and I'm just super neurotic about it.That probably doesn't help
post #18 of 110
I have a "glass" of wine most but not all evenings. Glass is in quotes because I use a fair sized coffee cup. Sometimes evenings or weeks go by that I don't drink wine. If I pour a second cup, I usually find it left around half-full (or is it half empty?) in the morning. I have been in this habit for 10 or 15 years, with no increase, and zero impact on my life. I would never drive after drinking, and can't remember the last time I was drunk. For me it simply is not a problem. We live in a strange society that assumes that what is a problem for one person, must by definition be a problem for everyone else. The kind of drinking mentioned in this thread does not sound problematic to me. The Morality Police may arrest me for this.
post #19 of 110
When i am not TTC, I enjoy the occasional beer. Nothing like running around like crazy much of the day, then kicking back and having a beer at 3pm while DS is content to play in the sandbox.
post #20 of 110
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Originally Posted by meowee
I would never drink alone-- I mean if you can stop, you should asap. This is JMO having grown up with alcoholics. Any time you "need" a drink, this is a warning sign. I think that drinking alone is a bad idea, especially during the day. I see SAHM as a job and you shouldn't drink while "on duty." What if you had to jump in the car to drive somewhere?
I don't see the big difference between drinking alone and drinking with other people. What is the magic part about having a drink when someone else is? I am more likely to lose my mindfulness when drinking with other people, actually. It is easy to get caught up in the vibe and stop paying attention to one's degree of sobriety.

Some days, I "need" an extra cup of coffee. Some days, I "need" a hunk of chocolate. Once in a while, when my spirited child has tested my patience for the billionth time and I am running on furious, yes I "need" a beer and I make no apologies. Need is in quotes because I wouldn't die without any of the above. I am not driven about it. I am a an adult with enough self-knowledge to make these decisions.

I prefer not to drive after drinking any alcohol, but I feel competent to drive after one drink, and hence one drink is my limit when I'm "on duty."
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