My boys are not going to date. When I think they are ready I will find and pick their wives for them.
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7/23/05 at 1:26am
Originally Posted by lilyka
I gues we have a whole different philosphy pon dating. Our family doesn't believe in casual dating for dating purposes. So as a general rule we don't allow dating. h owever I see nothign wrong with having friends who are boys and we have worked hard (and so far sucedded) in fighting that you can only be friends with boys if they are boyfriends. So right now boys are nothing special and I don't se her desiring time alone with them for no particular reason any time soon.
Originally Posted by Krystal323
My parents waited until I was 14 and already (unbeknownst to them) interested in boys to inform me that I wasn't "allowed" to date until 16. Well, I just did whatever I wanted behind their backs, and I felt like they didn't care about my feelings at all and didn't trust me past the tip of my nose. We fought all the time and I never confided in them about anything. That kind of situation is definitely something to avoid
Just something to think on.
Originally Posted by spin462002
Sadly, I guess you haven't read the book or you wouldn't have made some of your comments. The book does not advocate living to find a partner, rather having a full life and many friends and having healthy personal boundaries so you can make the right choice if and when the time comes. Aren't they the things you value too?
You are correct about Ellen Fein having divorced since this book was first published in 1995. Why are you commenting about that anyway? Do you think it detracts from the principles being advocated in the book? Sherrie Schneider (the co-author) is still married, does that make any difference?
I believed marriage was forever and I made a lifetime commitment thirty years ago.
Twenty two years later my husband left me for another man's wife. I had four children including a five week old baby. If I had written a book about marriage during those years, would you have condemned me too?
I am not afraid to be different, I like the results!