June 26th - July 2nd, let's get this (bloody good) show on the road! - Page 3

[PatsGrace]

Barbara--that's hilarious! :LOL

Here's my check in: baby has re-engaged (yeah!), cervix is a "bit softer", and I'm still only dialated to a 1. I was secretly hoping to be much further along, of course, and be told that "wow, you must be one of those women who experience very little pain when you dialate!" But I can handle it.
It was a really great visit and she thinks that the flow of discharge is really normal, and a great sign that it'll be within the next day or two (her guess). And she made a big deal that my "cramps" are really contractions and to be glad I'm having them! We had a good talk about the babe, and she mentioned that I'm "very intuitive" about my body, which I thought was cool and very encouraging for her to say.(in regards to knowing the baby's position, etc.) She's really supportive of my choice to go natural and likes to say ego-boosting things like that!
It sounds like she will be around all week if I go into labor and she usually tries to deliver her own patients during the week...

And Pepper--I'm so sorry you are feeling this way: I have no great advice for you aside from what everybody else here has said, but remember that we are here for you and we believe in your body!

Sara--eesh! I'm really hoping all goes well for you tomorrow and I really believe you can still do the no pain meds thing, even with pit, if you so choose. There is a great thread somewhere in Birth and Beyond from other mothers who have had no pain meds with induction and there's plenty of hope for you! But I understand the whole fear thing of letting the whole intervension thing get started...

And now I really need a nap--

--Grace

[sinsaratea]

Thanks, Grace (sorry about the Pat this AM, i was really sleepy!).

I've been looking at stuff online about it and seeing others who have done the same thing. I'm just crushed ya know?

I'm having a hard time even getting excited about the fact that tomorow night i will be holding my baby...... i need to concentrate on that.

[PatsGrace]

One last thing...Has anybody gained more than me?!? I'm at 57 pounds right now...and I'm bragging about it 'cause I was kind of hung up on it for a while...if there's gonna be a longest overdue prize, then we could do a highest weight prize too :LOL Ah, reverse psychology!

[dynamohumm6]

Pepper, I wish I could say something to make you feel better, as you did for me when I was overdue. . Maybe your body knows this will probably be your last baby, so it's just relishing in being pregnant for just a bit longer? You know how you hit the snooze button when you get up in the morning? Maybe your body is doing that. Just 5 more minutes to enjoy being pregnant. Just 5 more minutes...just 5 more minutes...
I was in the same exact place you were. Feeling like my body was failing me, I was absolutely certain that I just wasn't going to go into labor, that I was going to have pitocin, and end up with a section. And 8 days after my due date, whammo. Just like that--no real warning or anything. I went from NO ACTION to post-partum in less than 12 hours. I have no doubt that you'll have a very similar experience.

Sara--more for you, too. Being induced was my biggest fear. And you know how I deal with my fear? I READ. See if you can find out your "bishop" score, to find out how ready your body is for birth. The higher your score, the more likely it is the pitocin will work well and you won't have to deal with the "domino effect". Do a search on the birth & beyond forum. After reading a few threads about induction there, I felt much more at ease with the possibility of being induced. Fabienne also had the same fears, and she was induced, and went with no drugs.
Try not to freak out too much--I know it's hard, I had the same fears.
to you, mama, I wish I could give you a real big one.

[swedemom]

grace: hehe im a little tempted to call you pat from now on ive gained 15kg as of my due date, i REFUSE to weigh myself after that point as its not fair! but i can say there is now two pairs of mat pants that dont fit since last week...
good mw appointment btw

sara: im so sorry for the bad news from today, but dont give up on med free birth. try and focous on the stories where pit just means a faster labour, not a more painful one, and if it gets to bad and you need, my thinking is any baby that comes here safe and healthy was a good birth. good luck tommorow and ill be thinking of you.

pepper: i agree that a good cry / yell is maybe good idea, and taking it all in small steps, getting through days / or hours will help you (i really mean us, cause we are in the same head space i think)

i dont know if im naive, but i am hopefull, like each night, i think ok, i bet tonight ill wake in labour.

i went on two bike rides today, my neighbour swore it worked for her...i know its not entirely true as i rode my bike to the hospital for the induction of DD,,,but worth a try. i find the worse of overdue is how immobile i feel...like after a meal, you feel so full, but you cant tsake a brisk walk to work it off...i just lie there.....

ok, well off to bed, im

[sinsaratea]

aww thanks guys your support makes me feel better. and it felt really good knowing that i didn't have to explain why i was upset---like i had to with my mom who was with me at the office today. and of course while i'm waiting in line to check out, she already outside on the phone... i figured with my dad, which was cool. but i finally get out there and she's talking to my uncle, and he was all " well let us know when and we will come up there" (he meant post birth). i told her that she didn't need to call anyone else, they could know after the fact because "i haven't even had a chance to call james (dh) yet!" which is when i started bawling. grrrr.........

i am not familiar with the bishop score but am going to search it out right after i finish this!

i am working on a zen calm now, because i can get all upset, but thats just really going to make me a victim instead of the mama warror that i am!!!!!!!
YAWP!

if i don't enter again ladies, i will write soon to let you know how it all went and to send pictures!

much love,
Sara

[NaturalBeauty]

Hello everyone! Sorry its long!

Ive not posted much just alot of lurking. Due mostly to all the changes Ive had recently... Hubby graduated Vet school May 15th, we moved in with his parents May18th, he started his new job May30th, we moved into our new house June 8th. Ive been busy dealing with being so very pregnant and getting a new house set up while taking care of my 3 kiddos as well as anotehr 7yr old that I started daycareing. (Hes really giood and not much trouble at all btw). I was due yesterday but have NO signs of labor comming anytime soon at all. We are planning a home birth, btw. I finally got most of my babies diapers sewn up and have allt he laundry washed and ready. We are completely ready... but hes not yet... go figure!

Besides the typical reasons to be impatient about havign this baby, I have a tooth that broke a large portion of it off about a mnth ago. Didnt hurt for a little while so we were opting to wait until after I delivered to have it fixed. But now its excruciating! I cant take anything stronger for the pain until I have the baby. The ex strength tylenol isnt doing much and neither is the Anbesol that Im bathing the tooth in. I just want to cry! I cant hardly eat anythign anymore. I cant get into the dentist to have the root canal done until July 11th. (Its a new clinic that isnt open until then, and its the only place I can afford to go to sicne they are running 40% off specials for the grand openning.. making teh root canal $450.00 instead fo the $800-950 that it would be elsewhere.) I do NOT want to rush this baby out. I want him to come when he is ready, but I AM SO READY TO GET RID OF THIS TOOTH PAIN I COULD SCREAM!

I am also having Gross hematuria. (Large amounts of visible blood in my urine). Went to a urologist and the ending diapgosis is basically that the baby is pinching off the ureter to my left kidney causing a back-up of urine, which is causing pressure, which is causing the bleeding. I have no pain with that. No not too worried about it except that its darn freaky to pee and see that much freaking blood in the toilet! : Ive been ordered to reck with him 6-8 weeks after the baby comes to make sure the situation has resolved itself.

Sigh... And ofcourse the last problem Im having is even HAVING a due date. See, I got preg on the depo provera shot. So we have NO idea of our exact dates. Goes liek this.... Lost a baby Sept 7th at 12 weeks, what I passed in the ER came back from pathology with cancer cells, had a D&C on Sept 9th to ensure all fetal material gone sicne they were suspecting a molor pregnancy. They monitored my HCG levels until they dropped to 2 at which tiem they gave me the depo shot. We bounce up to Nov 11th when I was comming due for another shot. We were opting not to renew since we wanted to try to get preg again around sept and usually it takes 6-8 mnths for fertility to return. Well instead of my preg symptoms diminishing (you get soem slight preg symptoms with the depo shot) they got more pronounced and I started feelign pregnant. Took a test and it came back postitive. Took a blood test at the hospital to confirm and it came back really high, had an ultrasoudn the next day and found out that I was 16weeks pregnant. SO.... given the measurements taken them they gave me the due date of 6/26. And ofcourse it says that could be +/- 10 days altho my MW says that should only be +/- 6 days. I do not want to induce at ALL. But imo we shouldnt even bee counting me as being overdue until at least 6 days past the assigned due date. Everyone keeps telling me Im small this time, Im even measureing small fundus wise. But my last 2 babies were 9lbs 11oz and 9lbs even. So what the ???? I did read online that the depo provera can cause lower birth weight which Im not worried about since that means what... Ill have a 8lber instad of the 9? lmbo... I think I can deal with that. (But seriously tho... I dont want to induce at all. My labors have ALL been really quick and easy. No one can MAKE me induce right? I am planning a home birth so have a MW not a Dr. But even she has said they wont let me go 2 weeks over the assigned due date. That at 1 week past I have to have a NST and ultrasound. I dont mind that but then she said that if I hit 2 weeks past Ill have to go to the hospital for induction. WTH?? I wont. Not unless the baby is showing low fluids or soemthing negitive on the NST or ultrasound. Id rather UC than have an induction for no good reason except that I past my *due date* tiem frame. i just think with the fact that our dates are so *iffy* that we shouldnt be pushed to induce. Ofcourse this baby could always descide to coem before that.


And altho my MW has mentioned using other ways to get labor going before the 2-week past due date, I dont want to do them. I have extreamly fast labors as it is. My last 9lb baby came in less than 2hrs. First sign of labor to baby out. and each of my pregnancies have cut my birth time in half. First was 7 hrs with an Epi and waiting for the doctor to get to the hospital since they never called her thinking I would be *hours* even tho we told them the females in my family birth fast, had a 7lb 6oz girl (I was a smoker back then) , 2nd was 3hrs 15m with an Epi and waiting for my mother to get there for the birth... she was 3 hrs away and left right when I called her as soon as my first comtraction hit., had a 9lb 11oz boy. Last birth was a 100% natural no meds, no IV, water birth with a MW in a hospital. And it ended up being only 2 hrs. Didnt even get to labor in the water. They MW had to get the nurses to start dumping buckets in the tub to rush to get it filled in time for me to jsut birth in it. Which I did. Great birth altho stressfull sicne the hospital wasnt prepared for em to go that fast altho I TOLD them and it was written in my charts. Sigh. They NEVER lsiten. Anyway.... thats my rant and raving for this 1st day of my over dueness. Sorry it was so long, and thank you if you actually read this all!

Jamie

[Meli65]

Pepper --
What a crummy feeling. You've already received lots of good advice here -- stay in the bubble, stay in the now. Try to cultivate that "every thing happens for a reason" feeling and definitely have a good cry, or three! I'm thinking about you ...

Sara -- Wow. It IS exciting to know that you'll be holding your baby soon -- and disappointing to realize that your birth is not going to be as you'd planned it. Again, you've also rec'd a lot of good advice (I never heard of the Bishop score either) and I think that since you're going into this birth with both eyes open it will still be a good experience all around. Fingers crossed for you!

Hey everybody. We're fine here. One little hiccup is that the day camp we signed up ds #1 for looks like a no-go -- he's only been twice, and during that time he hit a kid, was throwing rocks, and today was pushed down by another kid and has bruises and scrapes all up and down his legs. This is so NOT like him. I suspect there is not enough supervision -- anyway, both dh and I feel like enough is enough. He's an active guy so I wonder how we'll keep him busy but it's certainly not worth this. Sigh.

[Pepper]

Thanks for the support, mamas It means so much to me.

I'm feeling in a much better place now - isn't that how it is though with the ups and downs..I was able to have a good sobbing cry this morning, some Rescue Remedy, and then a really nice talk with my doula who helped put things back in perspective.

After that we all went out to the park and then to dinner which was a nice diversion.

I'm taking the advice from here and from my doula and after the kids are in bed dh and I have a date on the back deck to wrap up in a blanket together and look at the stars and talk. I'm really looking forward to that--we need to reconnect and I need to feel that we are a team and not just me being strong and sparing him from troubling him (thinking of that 10,000 Maniacs song, Trouble Me right now).

Sara, It's probably too late for you to see this but big s to you. You will be in my thoughts tomorrow and I can't wait to hear your baby's birth announcement.

Pat, er, I mean Grace (heh heh), I'm not sure exactly but I think I'm up almost 40 lbs. You'll drop it quickly I just know it. I'm glad your appt confirmed that all is well and I know that secret wish of getting the internal and hearing, "Wow, you are 5 cm dilated already!". Who are those women that happens to???! :

Barbara, I love that bubble image. Thanks, mama

Thank you Emmy, Roseberry, Melissa, Nancy, and SharonAnne for the caring thoughts

Well, off to go gather up the legos scattered all over my living room floor.

[famousmockngbrd]

to everyone who feels like they need one. These last few days are hard.

Good luck tomorrow, Sara. I'm sending you peaceful labor vibes.

I am still pregnant. I have had quite a few BH today but no bloody $@&* show! Bloody 'ell. :LOL And today was my due date and everything. I tried explaining that to the baby but she obviously wasn't listening. I'm not surprised, the kid I have who has already been born doesn't listen, either.

OK, mamas, I want to log on here tomorrow morning and find this place deserted!

My midwife said she thinks the baby might be trying to turn posterior, so I booked a prenatal massage for tomorrow morning. Actually I have the massage in the morning, a midwife appointment in the afternoon, and my book club is meeting in the evening. Pretty full schedule for a woman who is supposed to be having a baby, huh? So actually I'd prefer not to go into labor tomorrow, Wednesday would fit my schedule better. Ya hear that, Madeline? Wednesday!

[NightOwl]

Wow...well it's the 28th now. This is my aunt's birthday. I know she's hoping the baby will be born today. eh...I don't think so. I feel like I could easily be pregnant another week or so. Which I guess is normal, it being my first time. Doesn't mean I have to like it. I haven't had that many BH today, at least not as many as previous days. Increased discharge, but no bloody show.

And the babe went back to posterior. Geez. I was so happy and calm when he was in the correct position. Now I'm all nervous and worried. I just can't seem to concentrate because I feel like every second should be spent trying to get him to turn. But nothing works anyways. When he did turn I was actually leaning back on a comfy couch in my birth center. Maybe it was the pulsatilla. I read that once they're in the correct position to stop taking it, so I did. But I'm going to start again...hope it works. Knees/chest and all of that jazz doesn't seem to do anything. Eh...I'm sick of this. Sometimes I think I should give up on worrying about positioning because it doesn't seem to do anything and I'm not sleeping well because I'm only laying on my left side. So, my left hip is killing me. And it doesn't seem to be working anyways! But I feel like if I give up on it then I'm setting myself up for an awful labor. I really am just sick of this. I wish he'd just turn and stay in the correct position.

Today my mom called to tell me she's proud of how I've handled this pregnancy. Apparently she thought I'd have a nervous breakdown on something. My mom thinks I'm weak. I'm not. I think she likes to think I am so that she feels like I need her. I don't. My parents have issues. :

But hey...I'm going to have a baby! FIL gave us DH's baby keepsakes. We went through the congrats cards from his birth and found 3 really cute ones and hung them in the nursery. I just realized that I've gone past the time that my mother had me. I was born 2 days before my due date and I was her 1st.

[swedemom]

my great grandmother was a traditonal midwife in a fishing village, and she gave birth to 998 babies, she had a theory that if you dont come on your due date or before, you come 9 days after, which is kinda today for me. i understand this is not scientifically founded but im grasping at straws


well looks like no real action last night, im off to the midwife to listen to the littl ones heartbeat, dont think anything more intereting then that will happen.

BBL!
Nancy

[organicbanana]

good luck & peaceful labor vibes sara!!

well nothing major to report here either... except that i ate a steak for dinner last night. first meat in 15 years. i've just been craving it for some reason and dh got sick of hearing about it, so he went out and bought & grilled me a bottom sirloin (i have no idea what the significance of that is :LOL - i'm about as familiar with cuts of beef as i am with oil drilling)

a few bh's last night, but nothing much else... i'm trying not to let it bother me, but it's getting harder. i just really didn't want to believe that i might actually be due in july - i was so sure it was going to happen closer to my original date, given that it's my 4th. at this point, don't they just kinda fall out??
it's hard to maintain a sense of humor about it when it's brought up so frequently by my family. and i love my best friend to death, but she needs to quit calling me and saying "no baby yet??!!"

pepper - i hope you & dh had a nice relaxing evening under the stars...

[swedemom]

ok, small mental breakdown here

went for my week 41 check, then she says, oh we just look at the urine and BP, you were here last week so no need to go overboard. (did i mention at week 41!)
crazy pregnant lady, look, im so OK going over time, but i cant i get an ultrasound or CTG to see that there is enough fluid, the baby is OK ect....

midwife: no, thats not needed your not 'overdue' as 42 weeks is normal....blah

crazy pregnant lady, yeah OK, but you know i have issues with fear of labour, have lost a 2 babies in a row, have some issues, can you just do it

midwife: sorry thats the rules, plus its summer so there is no doctors around for last minute appointment...and we have such a good health system, and we know what were doing....

so this tells me, she is being a bit snarky with me cause im foreign, and 2, not seeing a doctor is because of rules, not because there isnt a need.

ok, i know im babbling, and i really want lots of....no, its OH SO SAFE to go to 42 weeks and so on....


so, next wednesday i have an appointment to 'assess' if an induction is needed....if so, it will happen, 'some time after that' ie not next week either...

PLEASE PLEASE let me go into labour so i can stop plotting rage against the health care system (which i am sure is doing the right thing...kinda)

[NaturalBeauty]

Awe.....

to everyone. We are all just miserable! Wanting our babies now! . Im going to FINALLY get a little releif from my tooth problem today. I get to go to another Dentists office today at 10am to have either an open and drain done (first part of a root canal) or an extraction done. Either one will take care of the pain for me. Only choice is wether to save the tooth or not. I really could care less at this point. Anyone have any thoughts to why its best to save the tooth if possible? I think either my dates are wrong or this tooth is keeping me from going into labor. Im having NO indications that labor will be anywhere near.

OrganicBanana.... Im with you... this is my 4th... Shouldnt he just fall out?!?! lol

Sweedenmom... I can NOT beleive she wouldnt set you up with a NST and/or ultrasound!?! My MW is saying that if I hit week 41 I will be sceduled for them both. Altho In my case I think its not nessisary beacuse we have only a 16 week U/S to use for dateing which makes my dates very... iffy. to you mama! Keep your chin up!

NightOwl.... Dont be so worried about baby being Postierior. Every single one of my babies have been posterior and my labors are fast and easy. My last under 2 hrs start to finish. My MW actually told me to avoid doing the hands and knees position to help turn baby this time since it would mean that the labor would be even faster and were looking at *maybe* an hr tops this time if I stick to my norm of cutting my labor in half with each birth. And as long as your laying on your sides and not your back your fine! Thats what my MW and other Obs have told me. I usually lay on my right side due to babies positioning... its just more comfortable. If I do fall asleep on my left side when I wake up Im on my right. I just figure the heck with worring about it anymore.

mocking bird... what is a prenatal massage? that sounds SO interesting... I think I need one! Is that somethign done at a Chiro office or other place?

Pepper... How overdue are you... sorry if I missed that in the posts somewhere... where your date pretty exact and what # preg/birth is this for you? Hope you are able to hold your baby in your arms soon!

Jamie

[fuzzypeach]

*hugs* to Pepper, and good luck birthing Sara! I'm sorry you're being induced... hope it goes ok.

Nancy, I can't believe they wouldn't do any of those things to put your mind at ease, even if it isn't protocol. You'd think with their 'good health system' they'd want to make sure the mama is in best mental health also, the less stress and worries the better, right? All of your posts about how they won't do the things they're pushing on women over hear always amuse me somewhat because of the difference, but this is just upsetting.. *hugs* to you too.

And to all the mamas still waiting.

Elaina was born a month ago today, I can't believe it... I weighed her yesterday and she's at about 10.5 lb... up about 3 from her birth weight! I'm amazed.

[organicbanana]

ok - i got a funny phone call from dh just a bit ago...
he wondered if i had tried calling him at work, because another tech heard the phone ring but didn't pick it up, and asked j if i might be trying to get ahold of him...
i said "no, nothing's going on yet..." and his response was "i'm getting so tired of everybody here asking me when you're going to have the baby - i just saw these guys 12 hours ago and they asked me then - if something was happening, do they really think i'd be here??"
i just had to laugh... now he knows how i feel every time the effing phone rings around here :LOL

[organicbanana]

and right now i'm playing with this cause i need to kill time somehow, since i laundried myself into loathing, and we still haven't picked a name for the babe.
(maybe that's why she won't come out...)

[NaturalBeauty]

lmbo... my hubby is right there with him. They keep askign him at the clinic when Im going to *pop*. And last night I woke up beacuse of my tooth pain and went to the bathroom, and all the sudden my hubby is crashing out of bed asking *is everything okay?!?!* lmbo.. Hes too sweet. I can SO tell hes ready for this baby to come too. Isnt it nice to have a careing involved husband? Im so blessed to have him. I love him SO much!

[PatsGrace]

40 weeks

Oh man! Reading all these posts is kind of sad, we all need hugs! Why is it that pregnancy is made to bring you nearly to your wit's end? Is it some kind of humbling preparation that we need for labor/motherhood? It is so much a part of the process that it just has to be good for something.

And we haven't had a baby around here in a little while, but I can only imagine what it will be like for the final 2 or 3 mammas...we need to make a pledge to still show up an post too keep them company in the final days! It could very well be me anyways

Well, I slept for 9 hours last night. (!) My show has let up alot, now just lots of mucus that's maybe light pink at best...I have been so sure that it was one of those labor-within-24-hours signs that I was kind of surprised when my body decided to do things a little differently...
Last night I said screw it and slept on my right side (haven't for months now) and it was heavenly! And the baby hasn't turnd breech or anything, I don't know what I was so worried about.

Honestly, I would feel kind of guilty to be in labor right now, I want all of you overdue moms to go first so I don't feel like I'm cutting in line

Good luck today Sara!

--Grace
Due today