thanks for all of the responses!
i asked him tonight, "why do you want to go to Kindegarten," and he said...
"so i can have a real TEACHER, in a REAL school, that TEACHES me."
and so i said, "but mommy and daddy teach you," and he said, "but i want to learn Math, and SCIENCE!"
so i said, "michael, you're learning those already, here, with us ~" and his daddy chimed in, "yeah michael, and learning how to read, like your phonics~"
and we ended up having a lengthy discussion, and i discovered the real, underlying reason for him wanting to go was....
.... can i get a drumroll? ....
that a real school would be "BIGGER than our home."
me: "but michael, if you're in school, and you get hungry, the teacher will make you wait until lunch."
him: "ok, i'll wait!"
me: "and if you have to go potty ~ the teacher might make you wait, if she's talking, or~"
him: "ok, then i'll hold it. i'll hold it and hold it! so i'll wait until she's done talking."
me: "you like playing with [our neighbor, who is about 4 years older than him], right?"
me: "well in a regular school, you wouldn't be able to play with her, because she's older than you, and you only get to play with kids your own age."
him: "well that's ok, because SHE says that the sprinklers don't come on and she's WRONG."
his daddy: "what if the teacher is talking, and you want to talk to your friend? what will you do?"
him: "i'll wait until the teacher is done talking, of course
... and so on.
so finally i said, "what if you could go to a special
Kindegarten, one where you'd go just a few days a week, and learn things, and be homeschooled the rest of the time?" (talking about the charter school around here that works w/ homeschooling families and connects other homeschooled kids for things like "socialization", and sports, and pottery, etc...)
and you know what? he wanted to know how BIG the school would be.
four-year-olds. i don't think i will ever
i contacted the charter school though and they'll be sending me an information packet about the school and their info night for parents, which is in early August, and then discuss enrollment.
and about worksheets ~ we already do worksheets, and experiments and lessons, so i don't really know why he thinks that he'd be learning more at school.
just this afternoon we worked on phonics, and Spanish, and had a TON of outdoor playtime with the neighbor kids.
whoever said they don't leave a decision like going to school up to their 5 year old ~ ** ITA **. but i've so been wrestling with this because on the one hand, i want to trust him and build his trust, have him believe that i listen to what he wants.... on the other hand i disagree with public schools on such a fundamental level. and not a day goes by now when i don't hear, "i want to go to kindegarten!" from him.
honestly though the question, "why do you want to go to kindegarten?" and his answer was the ultimate, uh, deal breaker.. i'm NOT sending my kid to public school because it's BIGGER.