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post #1 of 17
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Here's a feel sad story for ya...in the sense that you'll feel VERY sad for these kids. I said in another thread that my SIL should never have bred and here's a bit of proof.

We had Adam's birthday party yesterday. She talked of spanking her 3 1/2 year old (with a severe speech delay and IMO, autism or aspergers) when he peed his pants. She talked of beheading the child or children who continue to climb up on her box full of Christmas ornaments.

And that's not even the saddest thing...

I was telling them that my DH was outside and SUPPOSED to be watching Adam. When I looked out, Adam was on the middle of the street on his tricycle. It took a good half hour before my heart stopped pounding.

She (SIL) told me that's why I'm pregnant again....so that I can replace them if something happens to them. It's her plan that if anything happens to one of her kids, she can just have more to replace them. I was pretty disturbed so I asked "Which of your children is replaceable?". She told me the oldest and youngest. Not even a pause before answering...it came out very intently. I asked why not the middle one and she said he's the good one. The oldest has attitude and the youngest doesn't talk and is just bad.

Keep in mind..the youngest was in the room. I had a houseful of people. And my poor DH had to leave the room b/c I think he was going to throw up. I sat there for a bit wondering which of my children is replaceable. I bet I could sit here for a million years and I would never have an answer to that because my children are NEVER replaceable.

So tonight I thank God he was smart enough to get snipped because those poor children she has right now will be paying the price of being 'replaceable'.
post #2 of 17
Never.

How awful.
post #3 of 17
post #4 of 17
Wow.
post #5 of 17
What an absolutely absurd thing to say - beyond comprehension really.
post #6 of 17
Wow.
post #7 of 17
Well, when dh and I were just planning on having one child I can't even begin to tell you how many people said "well, you have to have at least two, what if something happens to one of them?"

??????? Um, yeah, oookay.
post #8 of 17
oh my

DH and I have talked about the "what ifs" when it comes to Riley and we both tear up when we even think of it.

I seriously would have a hard time moving on if I lost any of my children...especially Riley at this moment. She is my world. It would be harder for me to get over losing a child than it would be to get over losing DH. I can see moving on if DH died but if Riley died I can easily see me slipping into a great void and staying curled up in my bed forever.
post #9 of 17
Ok. I have to admit that while my DD is NOT EVER EVER EVER replacable, and I am HORRIFIED by such a comment, one of the reasons I do want more than one child is in the case of something happening to #1. Simply b/c I think I would go mad. And I am not sure that the enormous love of my husband would be enough to keep me together. However, having to "stay strong" or such for another child, I believe, would be enough to keep me somehow afloat.

That is a lower rung level for having more than one kid, of course. I just want more family and babies and love and companionship for DD, but to be honest, there is that little thought in the back of mind, however horrid it is to think about it. And now I have to stop cuz I'm getting too depressed even typing.
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post #10 of 17
Yes, but, that isn't really logical. Reminds me of the couple who lost all SIX children in a car accident. You just never know in life. This is why I don't worry about these things.
post #11 of 17
oh, Logic?? Logic has NOTHING to do it!!!! It doesn't make any sense at all. I think it's some weird Maine girl/ over-practical daughter of a boy scout leader thing...you should see all the stuff I carry around in the back of my car "just in case."

I don't mean to get glib over such a serious subject. Hope I'm not offending anyone. Just spilling my nonsensical brain out a bit.
post #12 of 17
I think if you have more than one child and you lose another, most people are capable to keep it together for the sake of the other child(ren), knowing that they too are going to feel loss of their sibling, and that the whole family is greiving.
However, I think that your SIL is quite a bit over the top! I would tell her that parents are replaced all the time, through foster care, adoptions, and divorce, and that kids are not!
Donna
post #13 of 17
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Originally Posted by Pom
oh, Logic?? Logic has NOTHING to do it!!!! It doesn't make any sense at all. I think it's some weird Maine girl/ over-practical daughter of a boy scout leader thing...you should see all the stuff I carry around in the back of my car "just in case."

I don't mean to get glib over such a serious subject. Hope I'm not offending anyone. Just spilling my nonsensical brain out a bit.
LOL You aren't offending me. I actually have a friend who has had severe panic issues since having her children. She specifically had another baby in case if anything ever happened to HER, her children would have eachother. But, I mean, this is an extreme case. She can't even eat in the house when alone with the children because she is afraid of choking and dying and noone being there to take care of them.
post #14 of 17
Wow. That is way too sad. Those poor kids.
post #15 of 17
omg!
post #16 of 17
Wow, I thought I had some annoying relatives. I'm not even sure I'd be capable of hanging out with that woman. I wouldn't want my kids exposed to her.
post #17 of 17
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Originally Posted by Pelgie
Wow, I thought I had some annoying relatives. I'm not even sure I'd be capable of hanging out with that woman. I wouldn't want my kids exposed to her.

HAHA...we live literally 2 blocks away and see them maybe 1-2 times a month. Not too difficult to figure out WHY huh? But you said it...I don't want my kids exposed to her (them) and her (their) poisonous parenting. I seriously lecture my DH before each time he takes the boys over there in regards to diligant supervision. If I ever found out she laid a hand on my boys, I would knock her down.
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