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help me with the title/lyrics of this truly awful song  

post #1 of 19
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It's been at least 15-20 years since I thought about this song, but yesterday, on the way back from Trader Joe, the idea of it wiggled into my mind for some reason, and now it's driving me crazy, because I can only remember a few words of it. But its essential badness is still very vivid.

It was 1982 or 83, and this song sounded as if came directly from the propaganda department of the Moral Majority. The basic gist is an older woman who's had a lifetime of adventure and hot, meaningless sex, admonishing a younger woman not to do the same. There were references to abortions she'd had and being undressed by kings and I think something about making love on the beach with a preacher (?).

The hallmark of a really bad song is the part where the singing stops and the talking starts. The talking that makes you cringe. In a tearful, tremulous voice, the singer tells the younger woman that that fulfilling your own personal desires is selfish, and that what really matters is having kids and, "that man you fought with this morning - the same man you're going to make love with tonight." This was the point at which my feminist hs friends and I would fall to the floor, gasping with laughter at the sheer horror of it all - but that's all I can remember. Anyone?
post #2 of 19
but i've never been to me?
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post #4 of 19
Wow, I would never have guessed that one, but it's got to be right, here are the lyrics thanks to Google:

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Apparently the artist (?) was charlene and the movie was Pricilla, Queen of the Desert. The fact that it was used in the movie makes me think it might not have been 100% unironic.
post #5 of 19
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Oh my god, Captain Optimism! That is it! And it's even worse than I remembered!
post #6 of 19
must. hear. this. song. NOW!
post #7 of 19
Why are these lyrics bad?

Aren't they encouraging women to embrace what is real and good instead of an empty fantasy?

Ordanary women may look at fantasy women and think they have something but what we have (our families) is what is important.

I must be missing something because I don't have a negative reaction at all.

Debra Baker
post #8 of 19
I looooooove that song!! Always reminds me of The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert. :
post #9 of 19
that movie is great.
post #10 of 19
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Originally Posted by alliwenk
must. hear. this. song. NOW!

click my link above, it plays the song
post #11 of 19
I Priscilla!

LOL, I forgot about the crappy talking part - I've always preferred to think of it as a pro-masturbation song myself.
post #12 of 19
Rofl, I knew right away that was from Priscilla. I have the soundtrack, and listen to it an embarassing amount.
post #13 of 19
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Originally Posted by Kerlowyn
click my link above, it plays the song
bless you Kerlowyn...how have I never heard this? It was just as kitschy as I knew it would be.

What's up with songs that have a talking part that makes 'em so bad? I mean are they bad because they have the talking part or are bad singers drawn to songs with the talking part? A question for the ages indeed...
post #14 of 19
Just wanted to note that the song "I've Never Been to Me" was recorded over ten years before the movie _Priscilla Queen of the Desert_ (and I can't help adding that I think _Priscilla_ was a much better movie than the US version _To Wong Fu, Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar_ which came out a year later in 1995.

Best,
Sarah
post #15 of 19
Well, i guess i don't understand what is so funny about this song or why y'all are mocking it... it's pretty much the story of my life before i managed to turn myself around. I now have a husband who is my soul mate and a baby girl who is the light of my life but i spent many years in desperately miserable promiscuity and alcohol abuse and i too have shed, and continue to shed, tears for an unborn baby who got in the way of my "good times". There is nothing funny about it at all; but i am glad you are so far removed from these awful experiences that you can laugh at them. I do not mean that in a snarky way, i truly am glad for you -- only you shouldn't laugh at what you don't understand, b/c believe me, when you have gone through these things you really do come to the realization of what is important and what is just empty, and it really does tear you up inside to see other girls going down that same self-destructive path while trying desperately to convince themselves they're having fun. To try to tell them about your own experiences is the least you can do to try to make a difference, and that is what this song is trying to do.
post #16 of 19
I had a karaoke version of that song. From a musical and lyrical standpoint, I thought it was pretty bad and I felt the silliness detracts from the subject matter.

Zipporah, I appreciate it is a serious subject, but I don't think the song addresses the issues of self destructive tendencies in a useful way. But if you found the song uplifting, then I'm glad it speaks to some. It just doesn't do it for me.

OK, have to edit to add that now I feel a little bad, because I clicked on the link and played the song. My 6 year old was working at the table and after awhile she said, "Mommy, that is nice music." Ahhh, she is so sweet and non-judgmental sometimes.

The song doesn't seem quite as bad as I remember, but the speaking part just really is a little much.
post #17 of 19
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Originally Posted by sarahwebb
Just wanted to note that the song "I've Never Been to Me" was recorded over ten years before the movie _Priscilla Queen of the Desert_ (and I can't help adding that I think _Priscilla_ was a much better movie than the US version _To Wong Fu, Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar_ which came out a year later in 1995.

Best,
Sarah
Oh, yeah. By the time Priscilla came out, we could all enjoy that music with deep, deep irony. But I heard this as a high school gal back in the early 80's and believe me, it was pitched as a straight-ahead story. What makes it so awful for me is of course the talking part which is so cringeworthy, but also the message that the ONLY thing that matters for a woman is being married and having babies.

Plus, it sounded like her past life included some pretty fun times. Wouldn't mind moving like Harlow in Monte Carlo myself sometimes. And how long has it been since I've made love in the sun? These days I'm lucky not to get interrupted by a toddler who has other plans for my breasts...
post #18 of 19
OMG!! I'm ROFL at this song. It's soooo awful! I mean, the message isn't an awful one, but the song sure is.
post #19 of 19
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Originally Posted by zinemama
Oh, yeah. By the time Priscilla came out, we could all enjoy that music with deep, deep irony. But I heard this as a high school gal back in the early 80's and believe me, it was pitched as a straight-ahead story. What makes it so awful for me is of course the talking part which is so cringeworthy, but also the message that the ONLY thing that matters for a woman is being married and having babies.

Plus, it sounded like her past life included some pretty fun times. Wouldn't mind moving like Harlow in Monte Carlo myself sometimes. And how long has it been since I've made love in the sun? These days I'm lucky not to get interrupted by a toddler who has other plans for my breasts...
especially the last sentence :LOL

there is no right or wrong way to live a life (as far as 'value' goes, i suppose)

I must hear this song
should rent 'Priscilla', I know my dd would like the costumes and music, at least
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