sex, anyone sles having problems

[MellyMel]

Well I'm 22 weeks, and as of last week the missionary position is totally out. Anyone else having these problems? I know it sounds bad, but by the time we go to bed I'm too tired to do much work that most other positions would require of me. Tell me I'm not alone!

[samsmamma]

You;re not alone.

I am exhausted and also having some discomfort. I'll be asking the MW about it, and in the meantime we are just trying to find comfy ways or alternate things to do with one another. We're at about 1x a week, maybe 2x on a good week. WAAAA! I want energy!

[zjande]

Ok, you're not alone!

I'm 19w tomorrow & already have become uncomfortable in missionary. It sucks when dp leans on my big belly. We usually always have sex in a side by side sort of position. I'm never on top anymore either because I feel like a big uncoordinated whale woman. And yes, I too fall into bed sooo tired & don't have energy to be very creative. I don't want dp to feel neglected so I do my best.

[flyingspaghettimama]

[3for3hb]

My only *problem* is that I'm wanting it and enjoying it waaaaaaaaaaaaay too much (and spoiling dh in the process....)

[3for3hb]

My only *problem* is that I'm wanting it and enjoying it waaaaaaaaaaaaay too much (and spoiling dh in the process....)

The only advice I can give is don't try the "wheelbarrow" looking position unless your man is really strong :LOL

[AmyGirl28]

I am still enjoing the sex (1-2 times per week) that's not the problem. But you all are right, positions are getting difficult. Last time we didn't have any problems. We'll see.

Thanks for the positions link! I'll check it out.

[deathbygodiva]

:LOL

willemsmama- guess we have sex on the brain too much to remember our dr. appointments!! I keep reminding dh of the sabatical to come after the baby is born!

I can't handle missionary from about 8 weeks on. I hate feeling like I'm squashing a grapefruit.

Loraeileen- thanks for the link!

[Awaken]

Ooh, have to check out that link!

A sort of modified missionary position works for us...not w/ me flat on my back, but propped up a little, semi-sitting, so my belly isn't in the way. Dh is is also a small person so that helps I'm sure.

It's uncomfortable on the 'inside' when I do other positions...although I do try to be on top when I can for variety...not sure if it's pg related b/c I had this problem last yr when ttc before I had the m/c, but the mw could never find anything wrong.

My back always hurts now afterwards- what's that all about??

[gonnabeamom]

I'm having problems, but the problem is not having sex. :

Pregnancy has ramped up my sex drive and DH's has left the building. Tell me I'm not the only one.

[memory maker]

we have found that the spooning position works best for us. Of course it has taken 3 pregnancies to figure this out

[flapjack]

This is how I put my sacral joint out (MP, legs up, small boy came in to go to the toilet, we both whipped round, and OUCH!) : At least I can walk again now...

[dziejen]

Originally Posted by gonnabeamom

I'm having problems, but the problem is not having sex. :

Pregnancy has ramped up my sex drive and DH's has left the building. Tell me I'm not the only one.

Gonnabeamom, you are SO not alone! I know it is a combo of things (lots of stress here right now, esp. for dh) and I also know from previous pg that he is nervous about the baby even with a lot of reassurance that it is safe but things did resume last time in the 3rd trimester and some time after baby was born so I try to hang in there. What helps is that dh is being very caring this time and doing other little things to show he still cares which helps my ego not be too deflated :LOL

[crsta33]

Am I the only one with almost no interest in sex? I have this tendency to let opportunities when I'm open to the idea pass by. Last night, I could have. But by the time the phone stopped ringing, we finished the movie we were watching, and got Kenna to bed it was 11 p.m. and I was too tired. : My poor poor dh...we are talking a frequency of only about once a month. I know he (and our relationship) could use more, but really, if I don't want to I just can't...not even just to make him happy.

Christa

[*Amy*]

Christa, I'm more in your boat. My sex drive is still not recovered from the first trimester blahs, and by the time I go to bed I'm just SO tired. When we do have sex (1-2x per week), it is great though, and we've been experimenting with lots of different positions. I do feel bad though; DH has a huge sex drive and could probably get it on every damn day if I were up for it.

[SoggyGranolaMomma]

We are still getting our freak on! In fact my drive is back two-fold right now!! I am 21 weeks and his favorite position is my ankles by my earlobes : I'm flexible, but the bulge sometimes gets in the way and I can't breathe!! We are still quite creative though!!

[nataliekat]

My drive is slightly up now in the second trimester. Now that I have these bodacious ta-tas and Maisie is only nursing once every couple of days, my boobs are back on the menu! Yea! But, slightly up for me is up to about once a week. Also have a problem with being in the mood at the wrong time, like when I wake up in the morning and DH is already gone for work. It's frustrating to have to wait and save it up for him, but if I take care of it myself, it'll be another week before I'm in the mood again. That's my schedule.

MP is uncomfortable now. We've always preferred me on top so that's what we're sticking with for now.

[clarisse00]

im almost due, we've been having sex, is difficult at first but then its great, i want to know when should we stop, i mean, i dunno till what point it is dangerous to the baby, with the twins we stopped several months before.

[zjande]

Clarisse, as long as your pregnancy is normal, you can have sex right up until you begin laboring! In fact, sex & orgasms are marvelous exercise for birthing. So don't hold back out of fear, have fun!

[MrsMoe]

Spooning works well