Minky
I'm sorry you've had such a traumatic experience. I earnestly hope that you can overcome the abuse. I suffered a kind of sexually traumatic event myself as a child. I used to feel so much anger and despair over being violated. Then one day I just decided that it wasn't worth it. It's not worth my time anymore to be upset about it. What's done is done, it's long gone, and now I'm a powerful and mature adult with a lot to contribute to the world. I can think of a million things that are much more worthy of my time than stewing over a long-ago violation of my flesh.
When I got pregnant, DH and I (well, pretty much just me) researched circumcision and decided not to do it, even though DH is circ'ed. Our basic reasons were that it's not medically necessary, or even recommended, and that it would hurt our baby a lot. I never really thought about circumcision again until several months after DS was born. I started researching it more in depth, and came to the conclusion that unnecessary infant circumcision itself is downright sexually abusive. Here are my reasons for thinking this way.
The baby is strapped down to a board so he can't get away. That makes it restraint against the baby's will.
The baby's PENIS is cut on. That's one person forcing sexual touching on another person.
The baby's penis is CUT on. That makes it masochistic. The circumciser knows he/she is causing intense pain and damage to the penis, and willfully intends to cause intense pain and damage to the penis.
The baby's foreskin is permanently cut off. The foreskin has sexual feeling and sexual use. It is abusive to cut off sexual parts from a baby.
A baby trusts his parents to protect and nourish and teach him. Circumcising him is an abuse of his trust.
Pain relief is not often used during circumcision. If it is used, it is not often adequate to really relieve the pain. Sugar water is not a pain reliever, and you should run screaming away from anyone who says it is!
It is abusive to circumcise a baby on the grounds of the parents' sexual preferences. Parents' do not have the right to violate their children's genitals to make them look like 'more beautiful genitals' in their own opinion. Children are born with the bodies that they are meant to have.
