I didn't include a lot of facts, she has those already. I'm trying to take the heat of the arguement down a notch. What else should I add? Subtract? Thoughts? Feelings?
I guess my biggest question is why: why is this something you want to do to your son? There is no medical benefit or reason for it, why do you feel the need to amputate a healthy, needed functioning part of your sons body. There is no medical establishment in the world that recommends it. As his mother I would hope that you’d view your first and most important job in raising him as protection, protecting him from danger and harm, circumcising him will not protect him from anything, it will only harm him. Why would want to put your newborn baby in harms way like that? His foreskin is not “just some skin” that needs to be removed it serves a valuable purpose. Female circumcision is seen as a crime against humanity it is outlawed and banned in the Us and most of the world, it is seen as a cruel and barbaric act, which it is, male circumcision is no different. You said you feel “it’s right for your family” but this isn’t about your family, this is about your son and the right he has to his whole body. How are you going to respond when he asks you why his foreskin was removed, given that the current stats put it at 50/50 with the number of circumcisions continuing to drop, he is going to have questions. If you feel it’s some sort of esthetic thing, then you need to acknowledge to yourself that you want cosmetic surgery done on your newborn baby. I would hope you would think your son is perfect just the way he is why change him. I’ll admit that after we had Ethan it did look strange and didn’t seem normal, but you know what, after looking at him and raising him a foreskin doesn’t seem weird or strange, it’s normal, the way it should be. We as a society have been conditioned to believe there is something wrong with little boys and that isn’t the case. If everyone had a pinky finger cut off at birth over time we’d learn to think pinky fingers were weird, that they weren’t needed and didn’t serve a purpose. If you feel some sort of socialital pressure, from friends, doctors etc, I think you are a strong enough person to stand up to them and do the right thing in saving your son from a cruel and needless procedure. It doesn’t matter that “you have already signed the papers”, you haven’t done anything that you can’t change yet.
Parenting is hard and we all make lots of mistakes, I’ve made plenty believe me, however circumcising is one you don’t have to make. It’s also one that can’t be undone. You can wake up every morning and say today I’m going to feed healthier food, not spank, not yell, get on the floor and play more, but you can never undo a circumcision. I’d also like to believe that after you have really read and thought about the research, that you will be able to leave the “I want it done” mentality behind. This isn’t about you. this isn’t about me, this is about Cole, and his rights, just because he can’t walk and talk doesn’t mean he doesn’t have rights. I’d also hope that you’d be able to see through your anger for me and do the best and safest thing for your son. There are no complications to NOT circumcising
I guess my biggest question is why: why is this something you want to do to your son? There is no medical benefit or reason for it, why do you feel the need to amputate a healthy, needed functioning part of your sons body. There is no medical establishment in the world that recommends it. As his mother I would hope that you’d view your first and most important job in raising him as protection, protecting him from danger and harm, circumcising him will not protect him from anything, it will only harm him. Why would want to put your newborn baby in harms way like that? His foreskin is not “just some skin” that needs to be removed it serves a valuable purpose. Female circumcision is seen as a crime against humanity it is outlawed and banned in the Us and most of the world, it is seen as a cruel and barbaric act, which it is, male circumcision is no different. You said you feel “it’s right for your family” but this isn’t about your family, this is about your son and the right he has to his whole body. How are you going to respond when he asks you why his foreskin was removed, given that the current stats put it at 50/50 with the number of circumcisions continuing to drop, he is going to have questions. If you feel it’s some sort of esthetic thing, then you need to acknowledge to yourself that you want cosmetic surgery done on your newborn baby. I would hope you would think your son is perfect just the way he is why change him. I’ll admit that after we had Ethan it did look strange and didn’t seem normal, but you know what, after looking at him and raising him a foreskin doesn’t seem weird or strange, it’s normal, the way it should be. We as a society have been conditioned to believe there is something wrong with little boys and that isn’t the case. If everyone had a pinky finger cut off at birth over time we’d learn to think pinky fingers were weird, that they weren’t needed and didn’t serve a purpose. If you feel some sort of socialital pressure, from friends, doctors etc, I think you are a strong enough person to stand up to them and do the right thing in saving your son from a cruel and needless procedure. It doesn’t matter that “you have already signed the papers”, you haven’t done anything that you can’t change yet.
Parenting is hard and we all make lots of mistakes, I’ve made plenty believe me, however circumcising is one you don’t have to make. It’s also one that can’t be undone. You can wake up every morning and say today I’m going to feed healthier food, not spank, not yell, get on the floor and play more, but you can never undo a circumcision. I’d also like to believe that after you have really read and thought about the research, that you will be able to leave the “I want it done” mentality behind. This isn’t about you. this isn’t about me, this is about Cole, and his rights, just because he can’t walk and talk doesn’t mean he doesn’t have rights. I’d also hope that you’d be able to see through your anger for me and do the best and safest thing for your son. There are no complications to NOT circumcising
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it helps to have nit-picky friends, eh? :LOL
