Originally Posted by Shonahsmom
.. it is disregarding their own ideas on color and comfort and style and imposing your (not you specific, you general) own ideas of what is attractive and aesthetically pleasing and I personally find that to be somewhat of a diservice to a developing person. I think it sends a message that they are not entitled to or are only entitled up to a certain point to have their own preferences and opinions. Its their body, their comfort, their identity and I think it is an important part of developing a healthy and confident self image as well as the sense of independence and pride that children (i know mine does) feel when they choose their clothes and dress thenmselves. And again, I do recommend just giving it a try.. let your kids go all out.. totally uninhibited and unrestrained to wear whatever they want.. you (again not you specific) might be suprised just how great it is, how deeply pleasurable it can be to see them expressing themselves so freely.
I thought of this thread yesterday when dd and I were in the car
on my way to a Doctor's appointment. My dd 5yo was sitting in
the back seat of the car, singing her little heart out to Mama's iPod.
Her feet kicking the seat in front of her with her rain boots, in 85
degree heat. Her shirt purple with white stripes, her shorts a bright
shade of peach, her socks pulled up to her knees were red and white
Yeah I wonder sometimes if people think I dressed her that way.
but I don't know them. Many times I dress her up, we match for
holidays and pictures. But for everyday, I love waking up and being
surprised by her latest fashion creation. In my life it's a harmless way
of giving dd responsibility and allowing her to be creative.