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post #61 of 130
Ds won't dress himself so he wears what I put on him. I buy all cotton tee shirts/shorts in mix and match colors and sometimes jean shorts or jeans thrown in. So no matter what I put on him it looks decent. He loves his sandals and they're brown so they look good with everything too. And hair is straight, I keep it pretty short, so it usually looks ok even when it's uncombed.
I don't mind taking him to the store with a dirty shirt or hands though.
If we're at a party or cookout, he looks clean at the beginning, but ends up filthy, and I don't worry about it.
post #62 of 130
i was just wondering this question the other day

we just moved to a very wealthy area of a new city, we used to live in a small townthat was hip and hippy, the way most kids dress there a dn here are WAY different....

my dd used to be the dressiest most clean and put together baby at the park, social gatherings etc

now she is one of the dirtier less dressed up looking kid at parks and grocery store etc....

we are poor, and ALL of her clothes have been 100% thrift, used, handme downs etc....
now i am th ethrift store queen so she ahs often had gymboree, gap, hannah, polo, baby guess, etc be the majority of her clothes and they all looked new or close to it.

but now she is almost two and she likes to PLAY and eat by herself, etc
in other words, she gets dirtier (not to mention that finding used but new looking clean unstained toddler cltohes in harder b/c all toddlers get dirtier)
and i don't want her to take on my issues with name brands (grew up super poor in the 80's on a hippy commune that did not support vanity or trendy corporate greed clothes....sigh)

she always looks cute, b/c she is a shining star and EVERONE can see taht no matter what she is wearing

and that is the way i like it....

now that she is getting older i let her pick out her clothes, even if we are shopping if she says she likes it and i think it is a fair price, i buy it....

that means she wears her pink butterfly tutu almost daily with her knee high rain boots.....

or her tiger suite with the hood that has ears

she is a rockstar goddess free spirit, i would never have her think paying a bunch of $$$ to be a walking advertisment for a corp should be her main goal.

that said, her clothes have to made of natural fibers (i love silk!) and i do not like any cartoon comercial chatacters......but when she gets older and says she wants something anyway that falls into that camp, again, if i think it is a fair price (nothing over 3$ for the most part) then i will respect her wish for creative expression.


even IF we do get looked down on by some moms at the park who spend more on their kids clothing than i do for our rent.....
post #63 of 130
closer to fashion plate than not caring. lots of shorts & t shirts for the summer but cute & matching. Her hair is getting curlier by the day, so brushing it is becoming less realistic. when her bedhead is reallly bad, i spray some leave-in conditioner in & clip it back

I try to find a balance for just having fun, etc., but we at least start off clean & matching!
post #64 of 130
Obviously it depends on the weather, but basically a mix of shorts, t-shirts, long sleeved t-shirts, sweatshirts and jeans and dresses for DD (cotton, simple and mostly not pink). Socks match, but usually have holes or thin spots. The kids each have one pair of sneakers and one pair of sandals (and they have outside in the dirt shoes) one fleece vest, one fleece jacket and one rain jacket (we have very mild winters).

They are usually clean, sort of match, but I never brush their hair. DDs is flyaway fine and always looks fine and DSs is curly, kept cut short, so I just use my fingers to smooth it.

But nothing is ever ironed (I actually have not ironed in years), nothing dressy (DS has one dressy shirt) and everything they own can be worn to the park.

I like for all of us to look neat and tidy, but not done up. It just doesn't fit our life. But if they get dirty I don't freak. I don't even care. If they are really dirty they get changed, but clothes are meant to get dirty.
post #65 of 130

Totally picky on this one

I absolutlley insist that my kids all be well dresses, clean with combed hair and bushed teeth. I do buy good quality nice clothes for the girls always because as DD1 outgrows it, DD2 grows into it. She's not the type to care about hand me downs so it works out fine. I jsut started shopping for school clothes today. What a pain. I got Em 2 cute and confy outfits. The local resale shop only sells up to size 5 girls so thats' now out. To comply with ress code we'll have to buy everything new. Shoes are the last thing I buy since they have to match everything. Then hair things. She's flipping out about having the right hair things. Appreantly, that's how you get to be popular. It makes me a little sad that she's already caught up in that but she's choosing her own path. I just tell her that popular girls are girls that are nice to everyone and compassionate. Maybe that's wishful thinking but it's what I hope she'll expect from others.

The baby gets resale shop all the way but I still only but good quality stuff. Carters, zutano, gap ect. I love zutano but it's hard to find second hand.

So, yes, down to the toenail polish and matching ribbons, I'm seriously anal about how my kids look. My mom cared but not enough to put forth the effort and I always knew I reflected that. I wasn't dressed neatly and not in one school picture was my hair brushed until I was old enough to do it myself. I usually wore something dorky trying to look like my older sister and mangled it beyond recognition.

I hate to say it but I do hate to see dirty kids. It's sad to me because I know how society views kids like that. And they can't do a thing to change their appearnace or families financial situation.
post #66 of 130
i like cute clothes for the girl. i'm a sucker for a tiny outfit. : nothing i get her is very expensive (mostly from target), but it's pretty cute. i like to make a nice outfit in the morning, but i know she's going to be a mess by the end of the day and i'm fine with that. stains just add character.
ps. i work at an upscale children's boutique and can't imagine putting my kid in most of that stuff. it's BEAUTIFUL, but i would spend all my time freaking out about her getting it dirty because it's so expensive. yikes!
post #67 of 130
I dress my girls in coordinating outfits but make sure they are comfy styles and materials. My 4-year-old loves clothing and shopping so she picks out her own stuff (she has great taste fortunately :LOL ) and her hair is always brushed with coordinating hair accessories. She usually packs a matching pocketbook with crayons and other small toys so she has something to play with when we are out and about.

I dress the baby in a nice bubble suit or romper with matching accessories (sweater, hat, socks.)

About 75% of their wardrobes are Gymboree, so I often dress each of them in something from the same line so they don't match exactly but coordinate.
post #68 of 130
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Originally Posted by my~hearts~light
I hate to say it but I do hate to see dirty kids. It's sad to me because I know how society views kids like that. And they can't do a thing to change their appearnace or families financial situation.
I understand that you want your kids to look clean and be dressed in all matching stuff, and that's fine and your personal choice of course. I just think it's plain wrong that we equate a child who has a dirty face/hands/feet or in clothes that aren't matched, or with hair that isn't done as poor or neglected (if that isn't what you were saying here I aplogize for the misunderstanding) with parents who don't care.

I spent much of my childhood barefoot/in old sandals or sneakers playing in the garden $ field next to my house, cooking with my mom, and playing in the river or the mud lol. I was dirty from an hour after I went out to the time I was called in lol. My friends and I would walk to the little store a block away 3 times during the day to get candy with change we bugged our parents for :LOL. If the store (and society) though us to be neglected they were mistaken...we were just kids having fun and not being caught up in how much dirt was on our shirt.
post #69 of 130
I just wanted to clarify my position on this. I didn't say that we have to look "perfect". Yes, certainly there are more important things than appearance, & when my kids are at home, or in an appropriate playing place, you bet they get filthy-their tub looks like a mud puddle nearly every night, but I do think that if we are going out we should all be clean & appropriately dressed. I agree with the poster who said that if you love something you take care of it. It doesn't take but a few seconds to wash your child's face or run a brush through his/her hair. It doesn't have anything to do with being preoccupied with beauty, it's simply taking care of myself & my children. I still maintain that there is just no reason to take your child out in nothing but a diaper-I don't go out in nothing but my underwear-why should my child? I don't go out smelling horrible or with food smeared on my face-why should my child? Like it or not, society places a lot of emphasis on appearance, & to me, when a child is nasty or half-naked, it says that his/her caregiver didn't think the child was important enough to be cleaned up or dressed appropriately. This is especially true when said caregiver looks like s/he is ready to hit the town.
Also, while I make sure my kids are dressed nicely, I refuse to pay through the nose for a name on clothing. Almost all of our clothes come from resale shops, the thrift store, or clearance sales. I'm a HUGE bargain shopper. The only things we always buy new are shoes. It's not expensive at all to look nice.
post #70 of 130
I get most of kids' clothes at clearance sales or Salvation Army. They also get lots as gifts.

Hollis mostly wears plain pants/shorts and t-shirts with sports logos or peace symbols. Plain white underwear and socks. He has three pairs of shoes: sneakers, casual oxfords, and boots. He tends to wear the same things over and over so his wardrobe is pretty small compared to his sister's. The vast majority of his stuff is from Old Navy, Gap, and Polo (not counting the sports items).

Annika likes pink girly clothes. Almost everything she owns (and she owns a lot) is pink and/or frilly and/or sparkly. "Casual" to her is a cute skirt with a coordinating top, matching socks or tights, and ponytail holders and shoes that bring it all together. She dresses that way even if she's just going to hang around the house all day. Shoes--don't even get me started. She has a major shoe fetish. There's a shoe organizer hanging down her door that's crammed full of girlyness. Her clothes are from all different places--Old Navy, Gap, Gymboree, Betsey Johnson, Osh Kosh, Disney, etc etc.
post #71 of 130
I think there is a great difference here. When kids are playing outside, they ought to get dirty. That's half the fun! Of course, I think you can tell when a child got dirty playing outside but usually looks ok and a kid who is usually dirty all the time. A kid who goes to school with dirty cloths and hair ect. That's imo not fair to the kid and again I agree that it screams "not one cared enough to bathe me!" There is a time and a place for everything. I'll give an example. THere was a kid in my 5th grade class. Cosmo. He waas filthy and smelled terribly every day. His clothes were torn and dirty and stunk as well. His shoes were holey and old. His teeth may have never ever been brushed and his hair was a literal nap from being so dirty and never combed. Now, he had NO friends. No one would go within a few feet of him. His life at school must have been horrible and sad. His parents were probably very poor and couldn't do any better for clothes and shoes. What they could have done was bathe him and wash his clothes. It wasn't fair to him that he was poor. It wasn't fair that kids disliked him based on those things. Life just isn't fair.

I just want to give my kids the best chance. By raising them well I already am but I think that good grooming and clean nice clothes helps too.

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Originally Posted by UnschoolnMa
I understand that you want your kids to look clean and be dressed in all matching stuff, and that's fine and your personal choice of course. I just think it's plain wrong that we equate a child who has a dirty face/hands/feet or in clothes that aren't matched, or with hair that isn't done as poor or neglected (if that isn't what you were saying here I aplogize for the misunderstanding) with parents who don't care.

I spent much of my childhood barefoot/in old sandals or sneakers playing in the garden $ field next to my house, cooking with my mom, and playing in the river or the mud lol. I was dirty from an hour after I went out to the time I was called in lol. My friends and I would walk to the little store a block away 3 times during the day to get candy with change we bugged our parents for :LOL. If the store (and society) though us to be neglected they were mistaken...we were just kids having fun and not being caught up in how much dirt was on our shirt.
post #72 of 130
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Originally Posted by my~hearts~light
I hate to say it but I do hate to see dirty kids. It's sad to me because I know how society views kids like that. And they can't do a thing to change their appearnace or families financial situation.
Ummm...I'm sure my DD has been in public w/a dirty face more than once. That doesn't mean we don't have enough money to wipe it! We do just fine financially. I just don't think having a dirty face is the end of the world.

There's a difference between going to school every day smelling bad and in stained/torn clothes, and just having a dirty face because you ate strawberries and then HAD to play in the sand afterward, and your mom didn't bring any wipes so you have to walk home from the farm looking funky.


Anyway, my $0.02....

I love kids' clothes....Hanna and Zutano are faves. Usually DD humors me and lets me pick out what she wears. Sometimes she wants to pick it out herself, and I always let her, even if it clashes horribly. We went out Sunday with her wearing a blue and white shirt with dogs on it, and striped orange, green, red, turquoise and white capris. Her socks did match each other, at least.

I think it's kind of cool to see a kid who's obviously dressed themselves. To me it means their parents are more interested in fostering their kid's ability to choose things for themselves and have some control over their own life than they are interested in what everyone else thinks. One of S.'s friends used to wear pants on her head regularly out in public (she said they were her "long hair"). Her parents didn't care at all. On the other hand, while we were out Sunday we saw a family of 4 (mom, dad, daughter, son) all dressed alike in red, white and blue. That kind of freaked me out, I admit.

Granted, there are times when I would rather DD look "nice" - like weddings. And I do have a thing about stained clothing; it's used only for play. But I don't care if things match or are seasonally appropriate.

I would love to brush DD's hair every day but it turns into a huge screaming battle that's just not worth it. I might just get it cut short to avoid all that, if she's okay with it.
post #73 of 130
I think it is important to have my kids looking nice. When my Ds (now 13) was in preschool I volunteered alot. There were kids there that were obviously not well taken care of. Dirty body and clothes, they were treated diferently by the teachers and aids. It made an impression on me I want to have my children treated with respect, but without squashing thier creativity.

My own mother doesnt think thier dressed well enough even with my standards she has in the past bought and kept clothes at her house for them to wear at her house. Sheesh!

That doesnt mean that I haven't let my DD wear a tigger party hat and bounce everywhere she went, I did LOL! My 4 yo is obcessed with a pair of black cowboy boots, he wears them everywhere, at least his shorts and shirt are matching and clean! But with 2 kids in public school and 3 at home, going with me every where, they have to hold to a certain standard of "dressed" Hair combed and pulled back for dd, Shaved heads for Ds's (4 of them) Clean, brushed teeth, clean clothes etc.

I have sent them back to re dress if I don't like what thy are wearing. Granted with boys it's easy to dress them in denim shorts or jeans and a tee shirt. 8 yo likes hawaiian shirts. DD knows what is expected but also wants to fit in w/ her peers so I don't worry about her much.

As a WAHM I don't have alot of money so I shop Thrift stores. I also have a couple of rich friends who's kids are just a year older than my kids so I get thier hand me downs on a constant basis. I just put a whole basket of DS 8yo clothes in hiding because they are good enough for school next year.

Church is the one thing I'm really picky about, the boys need white dress shirts, and dress pants. the older ones have ties. My DD needs to wear a dress that is modest, clean and becoming. (my DH is a knock out in his black suit red tie and suspenders YUMMY!)

My Youngest Ds's are 2 1/2 yrs apart but wear the same size, I admit that when we are going out I will dress them the same or similar. LOL : Since I only have one girl I do it w/ my boys.

My kids are nicely dressed, clean, and happy they are allowed to play and get dirty. But they look nice in public most of the time. LOL!

Michelle LS, LLL, UCPB, LC wannabe
post #74 of 130
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Originally Posted by nancy926
On the other hand, while we were out Sunday we saw a family of 4 (mom, dad, daughter, son) all dressed alike in red, white and blue. That kind of freaked me out, I admit.
: : : There were 5 of us. Not the same clothes, just colors.
post #75 of 130
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Originally Posted by nancy926

There's a difference between going to school every day smelling bad and in stained/torn clothes, and just having a dirty face because you ate strawberries and then HAD to play in the sand afterward, and your mom didn't bring any wipes so you have to walk home from the farm looking funky.

I think it's kind of cool to see a kid who's obviously dressed themselves. To me it means their parents are more interested in fostering their kid's ability to choose things for themselves and have some control over their own life than they are interested in what everyone else thinks. One of S.'s friends used to wear pants on her head regularly out in public (she said they were her "long hair"). Her parents didn't care at all. On the other hand, while we were out Sunday we saw a family of 4 (mom, dad, daughter, son) all dressed alike in red, white and blue. That kind of freaked me out, I admit.

Granted, there are times when I would rather DD look "nice" - like weddings. And I do have a thing about stained clothing; it's used only for play. But I don't care if things match or are seasonally appropriate.

I would love to brush DD's hair every day but it turns into a huge screaming battle that's just not worth it. I might just get it cut short to avoid all that, if she's okay with it.
That's almost exactly me. DD absolutely has to brush her hair once a day, because it's long and tangles terribly. If she refuses, she's going to get the tangles cut out (we had to do this once, and once was enough!). I don't care what she wears 95% of the time, and the few times I ask her to dress a certain way there is a reason--usually because I'm going to see people I or DH work with, and our bosses are obnoxious. If her clothing is stained or ripped, unless it is a huge favorite I get rid of it, if she really loves it she can keep it.

It's gone if it is too small, but that's because she's old enough that too small=too close to "sexy" dressing for my comfort. Clothing needs to cover what it is intended to cover for her to be allowed to wear it.

I think it's seriously cool to see people with kids who obviously dressed themselves. So neat that their kids are allowed to express themselves however they choose! A little dirty is no big deal to me, but there is a huge difference between "strawberry and sand" dirty face and "hasn't been washed in days" face. Those are the kids I feel badly for, because I do think brushed hair and clean bodies are important.
post #76 of 130
I'm that "dressed to the nines" mother with the ragamuffin kid!

If you want the "why," here it is:
I work in a very conservative office and need to wear a business suit daily. DH is pretty much the same. We send our DD to day care. In the beginning, I did spend a bit of time putting together those cute matching outfits. But they usually came back stained from paint or pudding. Or one piece would get soiled and the they would change her and it wouldn't match.

Now, I'm greatful for my sis' hand-me-downs that come pre-stained from going through 2 girls. They're fine for day care. If I'm going to take her out after DC, I used to make an effort to put her in the cute outfits, but she must have sensed my ridiculous emotional investment in what she was wearing because those came back with the MOST stains.

At 2 she's exerting her independence and if I suggest an outfit, it won't get worn. I do insist that she not take dirty clothes out of the hamper to wear, but just about everything else is fair game. It rarely matches - due mostly to the hand-me-down nature of it all. I'm not up for clothing battles on work days and I really don't care on weekends.

She now has just enough hair for 2 little pigtails that stick straight out of her head. Truly, nothing would give me greater pleasure than to put it up with some of the darling baby bows I've had since she was born. Alas, her day care teacher is the only one she'll let put up her hair. We don't seem to need to brush it, though DH has attacked her once or twice with a comb and I'm like - honey forget it if she protests - which she usually does.

I REALLY think she is teaching ME not to be so emotionally invested in her appearance. It's a great growth opportunity for me.

I rarely worry about the dirty fingernails or smeared face. That's what being a kid is all about to me.

For bumming around the house - this summer she's pretty much been naked. Just a diaper would actually be an improvement. It's funny because there are 4 toddlers in the neighborhood and my front yard is like the naked zone. They all start trying to peel off their clothes when they come over. One boy looked at my girl and said - wanna take your clothes off? We all joke that it won't be so funny when they are 15!

When I'm out with my child, I'm usually thoroughly enjoying her company. I guess I do feel "judged" by the other mothers, but I think it's in a positive way. I always get and give big smiles. Complete strangers have told me they can tell I'm a great mom! So really, I think it's all in how you carry yourself and what you project, and that, my friends is way deeper than the dirty toes, smeared faces and too small t-shirts!
post #77 of 130
My boys dress in whatever they want to dress in. I dont dictate what they wear at all. They usually choose old jeans with holes (which they HATE to wear clean), old sneakers (untied), no socks (they dont even own any socks), the first t-shirt they come to, they both have long hiar which they rarely brush, they have multiple ear piercings and want nose rings. I just dont see the big deal in having kids always be "perfect" in the way they look or dress.
post #78 of 130
I want her to look nice.But if she plays outside, of coruse she'll get dirty.No problem, before we go anywhere I make sure she's washed and her hair done.brushing teeth,washing,brushing her very long hair is part of the morning routine.

BUT, soemtiems she will want to wear clothes that are horribly mismatched...if she insists even after I tell her this it's fine with me.Her choice.She is 8 ...it only has to be clean.
post #79 of 130
Something else I wanted to throw out there -- and I realize it's easy for me to say because my daughter is still only three -- but I try to buy her clothes I think she'll really like. She loves the color green, so a huge chunk of her wardrobe is green. If I have a choice, that's the color I buy. She also loves pockets, so I try to buy stuff with lots of pockets, and put surprises in them once she's dressed. While I hate character clothes, I only buy character underwear -- it makes her feel so proud to say "I kept Piglet dry all day!" If the clothes can have something on them that makes her feel special, I think that's great. She has an AWESOME t-shirt dress that has a big picture of little girls playing baseball on it, and all the girls have rhinestone earrings. She thinks this is the greatest thing ever, and tells everyone to look at her "sparkly baseball dress."

There have now been two times where I've bought her something she really did not like. Once was a pair of red pjs with snowmen on them, bought because she loved her blue and pink snowman pjs and had grown out of them -- but for whatever reason, these new ones were totally unacceptable. She cried when I brought them out, then cried again two weeks later when I tried again. Forget it. I gave them to a friend with a kid wearing the same size. Then this summer I got her a bunch of tshirts, same size and brand, just different colors with different designs on them. All were ok with her except the one with the surfboard and convertible on it -- she said "that one makes me sneeze." Again, I gave it a week, she saw it again and said the same thing, so ok -- that shirt is now proudly being worn by my friend's daughter.

To me, this is a great compromise -- I buy the clothes, but I buy stuff I think she'll like (even if I don't like it particularly, like the character undies). If she doesn't like it, she doesn't have to wear it.

Right now, she will ONLY wear her sandals, which are lime green. Ok. Fine. Sometimes she wants to wear them with socks. Ok. Fine. With red socks. Ooooohhhhh kaaaayyyy, fine, I guess. With red and white striped socks. Knee socks. *sigh* Ok. Fine. I figure this is better than her being 16 and wanting to wear a thong bikini to a family barbecue. Perspective, right?!
post #80 of 130
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Originally Posted by fiddledebi
Something else I wanted to throw out there -- and I realize it's easy for me to say because my daughter is still only three -- but I try to buy her clothes I think she'll really like.
That is how we work too. I only buy clothes that I think they will like, and if they don't they do not have to wear them.
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