Good grades & my not being very clear
Originally Posted by Brisen
From your posts, I'm not quite sure what you are looking for. Your son is doing well in school, so you're not sure if homeschooling is justified? Would it help to take his doing well in school out of the equation, and just look at it generally -- do you think that, generally speaking, public school or home schooling has more to offer children? If you hadn't sent him to kindergarten -- which IMO isn't really school, where I live anyway truancy laws don't come into effect until grade 1 age -- would you be having this debate with yourself?
Haha, yes, I can tell that I am being confusing, sorry about that. I am just working it all out in my brain as I go along and am reporting ALL of my thoughts and confusion right along with it. That's pretty much why I began posting here instead of just continuing to read everyone's else thoughts and situations...which were helpful but did not necessarily parallel my own. I was hoping that I would get advice and information more directly tailored to my own particular situation and I really have received it. I don't really know what I'm looking for either, just that I am searching and I believe I will know what it is when I find it. Even though that might make little sense, I've actually been getting so many fantastic responses and suggestions that I am quite optimistic about getting exactly what I need from this forum. I appreciate everyone's help SO MUCH. I also figure that if I need and want this information, chances are there is someone else out there who has been lurking for months and is finding all of this somewhat helpful as well.
Now to attempt to clarify...I think when I mentioned that my son received good grades, it was to just give a full picture of the situation in order to elicit the best, most appropriate advice and to explain where I was coming from.
As a matter of fact, I do realize that getting good grades and especially getting them mostly very easily, definitely hindered my growth. Well, I'm realizing it more and more each day. Even as a child, I figured part of it out fairly early on and had it reiterated in my mind periodically, that many children tried even harder than I did and were not able to get the same grades and it did not mean they were "dumb" or "stupid" but that they weren't being taught in the right way for their own individual mind to figure it all out, or that the teacher wasn't giving them enough individualized attention and that I was simply lucky that the way the school and most teachers taught to me was exactly the way my brain learned quickly and easily. I also encounted myself having an elitest attitude and I have worked hard to try to eliminate that from my personality but I have to say, that I do occasionally fall back on that in certain occasions. This is not a fact I am proud of and it is definitely NOT something I want to perpetuate in my child. My husand, for instance, did not get top marks in school but he is absolutely brilliant in so many ways and in so many ways that I am not, and he makes a good salary doing what he does best, better than my good grades propelled me to do - and you know what? He LOVES his career! (what's with those pointless good grades, anyway?)
As for my son...if he had gotten poor grades or even mediocre grades, I would probably have (silly but true) jumped right onto the homeschooling bandwagon, believing that it was the system not teaching my son adequately and that I needed to do something about it right away. Instead he got extremely good kindergarten report cards which I took to heart more than I should have.
Actually, it didn't occur to me not to send him to kindergarten, I, oddly enough, did not know it was optional. Since I always loved school and he loved the little play-oriented short and occasional preschool that he went to... I thought kindergarten would be full of fun and games with sweet innocent little kindergarteners. Instead, most of those kindergarteners were not so sweet and innocent. Another thing I did not realize was that Kindergarten pushed reading far more than I ever thought it would and not necessarily in the way I would have believed to be the best.
If I had never sent him to kindergarten... theoretically I probably would have come to the same decision around the same time...thinking that I wanted to homeschool him NOW instead of later. Interesting point. Very interesting.
In that case, I wouldn't have had such problems finalizing my decision. I should have come to this decision BEFORE he'd ever come to this point but oh well, don't have that choice now really...oh wait, there's my 3 year old daughter! Yay!
Now how do I deschool my 6 yo son gently and without him crying or feeling left out?