Honestly, your post didn't really hit any personal nerves with me (regarding drinking while pg, which is what I'm guessing you mean), I guess it's like you said, maybe your wording hit me a little strongly. I just think that given that there is certainly no consensus on whether or not the occassional beer or glass of wine is harmful that it is really something best left up to individual to decide.
As several previous posters have said, advice is totally different in Europe on this issue and they don't seem to be having problems with rampant fetal alcohol sydrome. Even within the US, some docs will say never, some will say a little is ok.
To me, it's just another example of not trusting women to make wise choices for their own bodies...like we're too stupid to know what "in moderation" means so they just tell us NO! I have the same attitude towards the many food restrictions that are thrust upon so many pg women. Things like, don't eat soft cheese...when really it's not "soft cheeses" that are unsafe, it's unpasteurized cheese that's poses a risk, but for some reason PG women aren't smart enough to read the label to see if any given cheese is pasteurized or not...so NO! It's an attitude that is SOOO irritating to me.
I totally respect anyone's decision to abstain completely from alcohol during pg, I just wish we could do the same for a women who makes a different choice (an occassional beer I mean, obviously no binging!). Obviously, you are free to judge whomever you want for whatever you see fit, it just seems that there are a lot of unknowns in this situation and no one really has all the answers.