Originally Posted by MrsMoe
Doesn't make it right. Spanking is also an easy fast way to correct a child... but that doesn't make spanking right either. The easiest way out isn't always what is best for the child.
That's pretty much what I'm getting at; there are plenty of things in the world of childrearing that are far more damaging than having a nightcap during pregnancy, and they are fairly unstigmatized. Spanking, circumcision, formula feeding, et cetera. I'd add yelling, too.
People might say, "it's not for me" but few feel the need to get involved.
But the "drinking during pregnancy" thing isn't even really about damaged babies-- it's about heaping moral condemnation on pregnant women who don't really care for the teetoling orthodoxy. As someone else pointed out, the first trimester is the "worst" in terms of potential damage, but it's not till you start showing that random strangers glare at you in the liquor store.
It's interesting that our society has a real problem with acknowleging that pregnant women are more than a sum of their unborn babies' parts. They are still grown women, who need to receive accurate information, and then be left to make up their own minds.