Originally Posted by amyrobynne
Lisa, if your doc thinks your chart is useless, please find another doc. I know you've got a pickier situation than most of us, but really, anyone who ignores a chart and isn't willing to be educated on what it means will ignore you down the road when it matters more. It's ridiculous to insist on an u/s to date a pregnancy when a chart is free and more accurate. Sorry--this is one of my pet peeves.
It's a pet peeve of mine too - but here's the deal, this is ob/gyn #4. #1 retired (he was low key about my pregnancy, was willing to wait to 39 weeks for c/s if no signs of labor, but did want 1st tri u/s), #2 (back-up doc for our homebirth midwives) wanted an ultrasound at 5 weeks, steroids at 20 weeks in case I ruptured early, weekly monitoring for labor contractions during 3rd tri, and c/s at 37 weeks, #3 c/s at 36-38 weeks because "if you go into labor your uterus will split wide open", and quite frankly if #4 wants to do an u/s to date pregnancy whatever - it's more important to me that he doesn't think my uterus will split wide open the second I have a braxton hicks, and that he's willing to wait until 38-39 weeks for a c/s. Now, if he wants to bump my c/s up a week because of the ultrasound vs my charting, then we'll have a talk.
The problem is Amy I've got a scar up the front of my uterus, across the top and down the back. I'm thrilled to find somebody who doesn't look at me like I'm a ticking time bomb of uterine rupture. They rarely do this type of surgery (unless you've had multiple losses or in my case are going in for surgery anyway for fibroids and it would be stupid not to fix something that extreme while you're in) so most younger docs have never run into it and only freak out. My best bet is an older doc who's been around the block, seen women in my situation and has a low key attitude about it. Dr. I's the best I've got in that category.
Do I wish it were different? Of course. But it is what it is, and I've got to decide where it's important to put my energy, and when it's better spent letting go and trusting the bigger picture. In other words, how do I play the game to my best advantage? We'll see how it unfolds