Mindful Parenting Book Club Part II - Page 9

[nuggetsmom]

Yes on moving on, and Yes on a new thread.

Some last thoughts from me...


Haven't we all done things sometimes where you just can't explain why we did them? Even recently, as an adult. Of course you are the only one who really suffers the consequemces as an adult and usually other peoples property is hopefully left intact.

Then acting out as a way of regaining ones equilibrium. Do you do that? I find that lately I have more angry outbursts towards DH and I can't figure out why. Thinking about it while reading EB last night, it came to me. I have to be so much more patient and mindful and empathic, compassionate and accepting that I have to regain my equilibrium. (wonder what it is? the not so perfect, not so super, crabby, real, human, loveable, funny, intelligent, trying incredibly hard Jacqueline )
Talking about it with DH, he said that he flet that I am angry because he is not where I am, having done all this reading and research and now I am some sort of super mom. I will take it as a compliment even though he didn't mean it that way.

So Acceptance has to extend to ourselves as well and our less than shining and perfect moments.

Good idea Breathe, about finding ideas of what to do with your toddler. It is good to increase your resources. I would love to see sucha thread, but check out this link too:
http://www-personal.engin.umich.edu/...ddler/open.htm

See you all in the next thread...

PS I love how I feel really close to you guys now and then I see you other places on MDC, it's like I have a friend in another thread... Hi Heather!

[Breathe]

Hey Lovely Mamas,

Will do a new toddler thread soon -- will post a link here.

I got nuttin' nice to say today -- I think I'm gonna head over to the "Support" thread -- suffice it to say that ds started saying NO today. Actually, he says,

NONONONONONONONONONONONONONO!

NONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONO!

NONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONO!

I thought I got a few months before this living HELL!?!?! Come read all about it in the support thread. If you're a glutton for punishment, that is.

Couldn't be less mindful,
El

[Curly Locks]

Hi, Mamas! I think this time of year is supposed to be so joyful and giving! But now that I'm a mother I just find it really stressful and hard to let go of the expectations I used to have of myself. Like the Christmas letter and sending a card to everyone I know. And gift giving....even if we had the money, who has the time for all that shopping and thinking about what to buy! I can barely get motivated to make a grocery list.

Well anyway I am ready for Part IV. I need to finish re-reading it and need your support to keep up with my daily yoga and meditation. I've noticed that on the days that I don't take the mere 20 minutes or so for myself to get centered for the day, that I'm not so mindful and I'm rather snippy sometimes! But since ds has been sick and teething so terribly I haven't been spending as much time feeding myself nutritious meals and snacks and I've even slacked off on keeping myself hydrated!

Breathe~ I'm glad you're going to use the support thread. That's what we're here for! I'm sure the other moms with olders know what you're going through. I like having a younger one. I get to learn from everyone else's experiences.

Jacqueline~ I notice that for the most part I am accepting of my unmindfulness toward DH more so than w/ ds. This weekend I was so tired and when I told dh I didn't want to go to a Christmas party we had planned on attending Sat. at noon he said he was disappointed and make that sad puppy dog look which made me feel so guilty. At that moment I was so annoyed and tired and sick his unmindfulness at how tired I was that I just snapped and stormed out of the room. I felt so terrible for reacting the way I did and I started to cry. I was very thankful for the discussion we had last week about taking responsibility for our reactions and that we do have control over them. It made me realize that dh may drive me crazy but he is entitled to his feelings/opinions (as much as I hate to admit that b/c some of his mainstream ideas and friends are so mindless sometimes~that's a whole other story...) and I need to learn how to not let his actions/words push my hot buttons. I hear ya about the equilibriam. The more I try to be patient and mindful somedays the harder I fall other days and need to regain my equilibrium. I think that's what you were eluding to. And when I spend energy focusing there, I lose focus over here or over there....kwim. That balancing act again!

I'm glad we have eachother too, Jacqueline, and that we have a place to express ourselves and that you all have been there, done that, and understand the "mothering" way.

I'll start the new thread before we begin our new discussion on Sunday. I'll be sure to post the link for y'all!!!

[Curly Locks]

Hi there! Just want to post the link to MPBC Part III, where we will begin our discussion on Part IV of the book this Sunday, Dec. 15th. We'll be on Part IV until mid-January or longer. Please don't stress about us moving on if you are not quite ready or haven't read Part IV. Part IV focuses on meditation as a way of "seeing." I'm counting on Part IV to help me relax more and stay focused on "what's important here." Well speaking of needing a stress reliever I need to go write some Christmas cards.

Please use the new thread starting now or when you next post whether it's about Part III or Part IV. Thanks! http://216.92.20.151/discussions/sho...threadid=33695

If you're stressed and want to vent here's a direct link to our Support for Mindful Mamas thread: http://216.92.20.151/discussions/sho...0&pagenumber=1
Or just stay here and vent. We're easy!

[Breathe]

Hey, I know we're onto a new thread now, but wanted to post a link to my new lesson plan sharing idea for toddlers:

http://216.92.20.151/discussions/sho...threadid=33826

Hope some of you wonderful moms will participate!