When we started these threads I emailed with Cynthia before hand to check that she was OK with it being in Special needs.
Personally, I do think my children have special needs. They don't fall within the normal curve, and their needs are different to the vast majority of children. I face as many challenges, albeit different ones, parenting my special children, as others face parenting children whose development is delayed.
I do see my children as special needs, and felt enormous relief when our threads were accepted in the SN forum. For me, it feels safe to be there. I can chat, ask questions, talk about worries, get support - all on one thread. That is not the same imo as FYT.
Many of our children also have other SN issues (mine have SID). It works for me to be in SN where I can talk about all aspects of my child's needs, not try to split it all up.
Anyway, in the UK, giftedness is seen as a special need, and gifted children are often placed on schools SN registers with IEPs to meet their needs. IRL when I have spoken of my children as having special needs to American friends, I have often been met with horror and denial. I have been relieved to find the support and recognition that I need here.
I for one would be very sad to be sidelined to FYT or parenting issues. I'd feel far more vulnerable. We occasionally have to deal with the cynics entering our thread to tell us that we're bragging, or that we're hurtful to those with 'real' special needs children. But it's rare, and as time goes on, I feel that we've become increasingly accepted within the special needs community. If we were 'out there' in Parenting Issues or elsewhere, we'd be very much more vulnerable to attack. Ugh. I don't think I'd feel comfortable being involved in discussions about my children in a more general forum.