What I am saying, is that your absolute is no more helpful than the doctor's absolute that they can get a woman of any age pregnant.
The media hasn't lied - all I have heard in the last several years is the loud admonishment that fertility declines after 27...from everyone, doctors and media. In fact it is almost frenzied at times.
It is one thing to tell someone that they may have an easier time getting pregnant when younger, it is another to scare them into having children when they may not be ready.
Unfortunately, while I understand your point of view - it sounds like you were dealt with poorly - I don't think that fearmongering is a good idea on either side of the fence. I take less issue with what you are trying to say, more with HOW you are saying it. While I take fertility problems VERY seriously, I also don't think that ANYTHING is accomplished by telling a woman harsh things about her fertility. She hears that kind of crap all the time, from every doctor she sees, from the media who squawks about "older" moms all the time, from every news caster who carries the newsflash that
holy crap! fertility in women is a finite thing??!!! We all know. We have all heard it. We are all clear that once we pass 3 decades, things start to change.
HOWEVER, fertility is a very very very personal issue. And while easy pregnancy after 40 is LESS LIKELY (not rare, but statistically less likely) it doesn't mean it is impossible for every one. Nor does it mean that EVERY woman over 43 will not be able to have a child that is genetically their own. And frankly, it does a disservice to them to tell them that. Causing a woman to be scared and undergo unneccessary medical treatments because someone told her she would need an egg donor after 43 is NOT helpful, nor is it "empowering" anyone but the doctors.
There are real challenges that come with trying to get pregnant at ANY age. I am sorry for whatever trials you have gone through regarding your fertility, I understand how hard it is, and wish you nothing but the best.