My mom died on 11/14/02 - Page 2

[applejuice]

just wanted to add...

...my Father died November 6, 2002, a Monday, the day before the presidential election. We always enjoyed discussing politics together and although we rarely agreed, but I enjoyed the discourse. I truly missed discussing the election outcome and mishigahs with him. The more it dragged out, the more I just wanted to call him on the phone and discuss it with him.

He had an answering service on his phone number, and I often called it just to hear his voice, for about six weeks after he died.

My brother had embezzled his estate, and so now two years later, I am still in litigation to get at least an accounting of what happened to the $.

This only prolongs and deepens my sorrow and loss.

[applejuice]

BTW, welcome to the boards, Rudemama.

[Ahappymel]

NOT RUDE AT ALL...

You're not rude at all, Rudemama! Welcome aboard!
I like what you said about sharing "loving bits" that my Mama shared with me. I thought of your words as I warmed up my son's sock with hot breath before I slipped it onto his chilly little toes. My Mama used to do that to me on cold mornings too...I'm sure that my Mama and memories of her will live on as I do such rituals for my little PJ. I'll remember her as I put his lunch money in a sock and pin it in his pocket, I'll remember her when I wrap him up "like a tamale" in a blanket (arms pinned so tight that he can't move! ) And I'll remember her when I make him peanut butter and banana sandwiches after school.
I guess I am very lucky to have had a Mama who loved me just as much as I love my son. A lot of people don't have that and no one can ever take that away from me.
Applejuice, I know what you mean about wanting to hear your parent's voice..last night, I watched the video tape from my son's 1st birthday party (3 months ago), just to catch a glimpse of my mom smiling. I can't help but wish that maybe somehow I'll see her again someday. I'm so sorry about your dad, Applejuice. Please know that you are not alone in your grief and that I'll be thinking of you.

[tarablesue]

I am sorry

Mel,
I can only tell you I know your pain. I lost my Mommy on April 4 ,2002...I am still mad because I don't have her anymore. ANd I am even more mad, bcause I didn't visit her as much as I should have...that is a long story , I might be able to tell it sometime but I just wanted to let you know as someone who has lost my Mom too I am here for you and so we all are...I just wanted to give you a hug... Take care and take it one day at a time and cry when you NEED to not when it is convient...
Love , Tara

[Kirsten]

Just wanted to add my sympathy. I understand how you feel. We all go through it at one point but it is one of those clubs that no one wants to join. My mom died when I was 14 (in 1984) and I still cry occasionally - though it is rare. I more often remember and think of her and smile. The love you got, the positive effect she had on you (and therefore everyone you come in contact with) is with you always. You are still her daughter. She is still your mother. She is not here with you but she will always be your mother. Those of us who had loving parents (for even a short time) need to remember how lucky we are to have had them. I am so thankful I had my parents for the 12 (Dad died in 1982) and 14 years I did - would not trade that for 60 years with anyone else's parents! Time heals sounds like crap to anyone just starting the grief process. But it is true.
It helped me to have one friend that I could really cry with. Not just when it first happens but forever. To this day (it has been 21 and 19 years since my losses) I still call him every few years just bawling. I croak out "I miss her" and he understands. I always feel better after talking to him.
I should not be on this board right now - pregnancy hormones are getting to me! I can usually talk/type about this without crying....
Kirsten