I apologize in advance since this will be long...
I posted something under Life with a Babe about my friend (Sulynn) reading Ezzo. She had said that some friends from church had told her to read it. We're new at the church and I don't know anyone so didn't know who might have suggested it. I called my friend the next day and told her what makes Ezzo bad. She's investigating all that.
So I'm helping two other women from church get our nursery organized/painted/etc. When I was on the phone with one of the women (Katie) she was talking about how Sulynn looked so tired on Sunday. She said that she and Karen (the other woman that's helping with the nursery) had told Sulynn to read Ezzo. Katie laughed and said, "I know she's not reading it or she wouldn't be so tired." I was mad because actually on Sunday Sulynn told me she thinks she has PPD. I was also appalled to learn that Katie and Karen had suggested Ezzo.
Anyway, that night we met at the nursery to do some work. We were sitting around talking about our game plan when Karen started pulling out some paper and stuff from her bag. Along with it came a wooden spoon. Karen laughed and said, "I brought the spanking spoon. It's been one of those days. I use this because I don't want to use my hand. My hand should be for love only." Katie agree and said, "Rebekkah's been needing tons of spanking this week. She hasn't had a good week and we've had to spank her all the time." Rebekkah is four. I was so appalled. I couldn't believe it. I sat there dumbfounded and then they started talking about something nursery related.
Later that night (as I was almost crying because all my friends are so mainstream about things like that and I have only one granola friend) Katie and I started talking about kids and allergies. She said that Gabby has a sever allergy to a few foods and that they thought when she was an infant that she was just high-needs. She said after about 6+ months of trying Ezzo's schedule (feeding schedule/CIO advice/etc.) they realized that something more was going on. I was so stunned. I can't even believe they attempted Ezzo for that long. Poor Gaby, her DD, is so afraid of being separated from her mother that she, even at 2.5 years old, screams the entire time if someone other than her mom is with her. I just wanted to tell her that she messed up her kid by pushing Ezzo on her when she was a baby (not to mention that Gabby gets spanked, too, and that's probably confusing the heck out of her).
Anyway, I just needed to rant. I just can't believe that people hold these views- that it's okay to spank (and spank with wooden spoons because the hand is for love only) and to let kids CIO and put them on unreasonable schedules. I hate that I know no one else, save one person, that is an NFL parent and uses AP. I feel isolated because of it. My DH is pretty supportive of NFL and AP (I think he's getting used to it because we're still slowly making the switch from being a mainstream family to an NFL family), but I need some girlfriends!!!
Just a rant. I guess I have no one else to tell but you mamas!
Thanks for "listening"!
Shannon
I posted something under Life with a Babe about my friend (Sulynn) reading Ezzo. She had said that some friends from church had told her to read it. We're new at the church and I don't know anyone so didn't know who might have suggested it. I called my friend the next day and told her what makes Ezzo bad. She's investigating all that.
So I'm helping two other women from church get our nursery organized/painted/etc. When I was on the phone with one of the women (Katie) she was talking about how Sulynn looked so tired on Sunday. She said that she and Karen (the other woman that's helping with the nursery) had told Sulynn to read Ezzo. Katie laughed and said, "I know she's not reading it or she wouldn't be so tired." I was mad because actually on Sunday Sulynn told me she thinks she has PPD. I was also appalled to learn that Katie and Karen had suggested Ezzo.
Anyway, that night we met at the nursery to do some work. We were sitting around talking about our game plan when Karen started pulling out some paper and stuff from her bag. Along with it came a wooden spoon. Karen laughed and said, "I brought the spanking spoon. It's been one of those days. I use this because I don't want to use my hand. My hand should be for love only." Katie agree and said, "Rebekkah's been needing tons of spanking this week. She hasn't had a good week and we've had to spank her all the time." Rebekkah is four. I was so appalled. I couldn't believe it. I sat there dumbfounded and then they started talking about something nursery related.
Later that night (as I was almost crying because all my friends are so mainstream about things like that and I have only one granola friend) Katie and I started talking about kids and allergies. She said that Gabby has a sever allergy to a few foods and that they thought when she was an infant that she was just high-needs. She said after about 6+ months of trying Ezzo's schedule (feeding schedule/CIO advice/etc.) they realized that something more was going on. I was so stunned. I can't even believe they attempted Ezzo for that long. Poor Gaby, her DD, is so afraid of being separated from her mother that she, even at 2.5 years old, screams the entire time if someone other than her mom is with her. I just wanted to tell her that she messed up her kid by pushing Ezzo on her when she was a baby (not to mention that Gabby gets spanked, too, and that's probably confusing the heck out of her).
Anyway, I just needed to rant. I just can't believe that people hold these views- that it's okay to spank (and spank with wooden spoons because the hand is for love only) and to let kids CIO and put them on unreasonable schedules. I hate that I know no one else, save one person, that is an NFL parent and uses AP. I feel isolated because of it. My DH is pretty supportive of NFL and AP (I think he's getting used to it because we're still slowly making the switch from being a mainstream family to an NFL family), but I need some girlfriends!!!
Just a rant. I guess I have no one else to tell but you mamas!
Thanks for "listening"!
Shannon
