yes! the pain expands our hearts... its so true and is keeping us here making something beautiful out of it... dont you think so?
the rebirth bath the LC gave us was a long very peaceful bath in an almost dark bath, in very warm water and she brought a great tape that i got to keep (and later played to ds every night and he would drift into sleep soooo peacefully)with womb sounds and soft angelic music behind. The idea is to recreate the womb, and give ds a way to relax and "be born again". She also gave him and us a massage, (mine was amazing btw) The bath lasted 3 hours and he slept the 2 first hours on my belly and then woke up climbed up my belly and with a little help from us and after I told him about the sweet milk made specially for him and for him only, he started to nurse and the constant frown he had had in his forehead all that 1st week of his life, even in his sleep, dissapeared. We slept really close and together that night and since then he has nursed like a champ! The LC said the rebirth bath is good at ANY age, and that it was great we could do it that soon.
pioneermama, I knew it was going to be a bit difficult to explain, and I agree its related to becoming a mother, like if I've had a "dream-birth", I would still feel this excacerbated sensitivity towards violence, but I think that in my case, I lost all tolerance,and the pain for any sad story or violent story, at moments would really affect me and scare me and I couldnt face it. I remember that sad films used to be a release in a way because I could cry through them you know? Like cathartic, but I realized that lately I have been running away from lots of these kind of cathartic experiences... I dont knwo if this is any clearer than the other post... is like I was claming mysef up... still i choose more wisely now than before ds but maybe i was missing somethings that could also help.... does this make any sense? btw I like your name very much pioneermama