Originally Posted by meowee
This is slight spin off of the age limit for dating thread, where it was mentioned that often premature or excessive sexual activity in teens is sought out by the child/ teen to replace the nurturing they are not getting at home.
I was what some would consider as promiscuous as a teen (though compared to many I knew, I was very restrained
But it was in no way to replace nurturing I was not getting at HOME. I have a fantastic family (seriously, people with messed-up families are always jealous of mine) who I am very grateful for.
It was to replace nurturing/approval/positive attention that I was not getting from my PEERS. I was the outcast at school, mocked and teased endlessly, too tall for my age, too busty for my age, too "gifted" and intellectual to fit in, socially inept with those my own age.
But older guys LOVED me. (okay, most did not *love* me, but you know what I mean). I was desperate for the approval of peers - meaning people who WEREN'T related to me and didn't "have" to love me and be around me.
I *don't* regret it. But I will always be sad that it was so hard for me to fit in with or be accepted by kids my own age. Of course, it still IS hard for me to fit in with mainstream society - I think you just learn to deal with it better as you get older. And it doesn't hurt that I have a beloved DP now to forge through life with sharing my "misfit" status. I think that's what I was looking for then - someone to share the load with, if that makes sense.