Originally Posted by OnTheFence
With any traumatic birth there is a risk, but contrary to popular belief csections are not all traumatic, they can be wonderful birth experiences, or acceptable birth experiences.
Have you asked any babies about that?
That's what I'm talking about here - effects of traumatic birth for the baby, not just mom. Babies are learning from, and responding to, their environment from very early in gestation. They can respond to touch at just 8 weeks gestation and the neural pathways for pain are in place by 16 weeks. To relegate birth to just one day in a lifetime is the understatement of the year. It's not just a day, it's THE day.
WRT to how soon one gets to see and hold baby - if one agrees with how birth is portrayed in The Continuum Concept
, which is the foundation of attachment parenting as we know it, then one agrees with how important those first moments are that cannot be recovered. Bonding is a subjective thing - how can you miss what you haven't had? I feel like I've bonded with my boys, but I can't know if it would be the same if I had UC with each of them. I believe that, like Dr. Odent has shown that interventions interrupt labor on an involuntary, subconscious level, the birth can also affect one's relationship with a child *even when we don't feel it consciously*.
I'll repeat myself that I'm not looking down on anybody. I, myself, have a lot of making up to do for bad birth experiences. But I'm not going to tell myself that it really doesn't matter in the long run just to make myself feel better. That's like saying "it doesn't really matter what I feed my baby, he's happy and healthy", which is also subjective. Who is to say that any particular child is living up to his/her full potential as a human? I just want women who choose c/s to be honest about what they're giving up in the process, and what their babies are being made to give up and that it *does* matter. That's why the original comment I quoted earlier rubbed me the wrong way.