Ahh, you have one secure little kiddo on your hands there, mama! I had (have) the same thing. Some children are just more independent than others earlier on, and it doesn't mean you did anything wrong - as someone said recently in a thread on the 'life with a babe' forum,
"Attachment parenting is about responding to your child's needs, not entertaining and interacting with them for every second of the day."
I really, really liked that sentiment. We're all individuals, with our own temperaments and personalities, needs and wants, and I've seen sometimes it's difficult/worrisome for APing parents to get their minds around the fact that their child might not *want* to be held or nearby 24/7. Babies and toddlers are still individuals, even though they're tiny, and can express their personalities just as well as any adult - it's our job as parents to respond to and respect them, even if they're different from us (I think ESPECIALLY if they're different from us).
My 17-mo DS has always been a pretty independent little guy, from day one. I have always just been there for him when he wants/needs me, and then just let him "be" when he wants to. He has never had separation anxiety either, and loves when other people come over to visit, too.
I used to feel bad about it, especially when he was younger and still nursing...my DH and I went to a wedding out of town, and my parents came with us to watch him at a hotel while we were at the wedding. I went to the hotel between the wedding and reception to nurse him, then we went back to the reception for a few hours.....it was the first time I had ever been away from him and he was about 8 months old. Basically, from what my parents described and from what I witnessed coming back into the hotel room the two times we did, he didn't even seem to notice I was gone, which kind of hurt.....but then I realized that it's just the way he's wired.
He's a happy, fun-loving, comical, inquisitive, bright, independent little guy. I know he loves me - I get "run by" hugs and kisses throughout the day, we snuggle at nap and night time, we snuggle and read together; if he's sleepy or hurt he comes to me...he "checks in" with me throughout the day, then goes along his merry way, though we do play together a lot, too...he just doesn't need me "right there" all the time with him. To this day, if others are visiting, I might as well just go in another room and have some "me" time... :LOL
I guess what I'm trying to say is that as long as you're responding to her
cues, you're doing your "job" as an AP parent...she's not rejecting you, she's just maybe a little more independent than what is "normally" expected from a young one...
You are NOT alone!