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post #1 of 18
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I don't homeschool, but I'm posting this here because DD's reading ability is way above average and she doesn't really get much of an opportunity to read on her level at school (well, not so far, but she just finished kindergarten, so we'll see if first grade is any different). So I feel as though I am "homeschooling for reading," if that makes sense.

The only thing is, I don't do much teaching at all, I'm just available to help when she reads alone, and a few times a week we'll read together or she'll read to me. I don't do it regularly, so it's not like each day I say "It's reading time." It varies. Sometimes a few days will pass and she hasn't done much reading on her own, but then there are days when we get a new Zoobooks in the mail, for example (love that mag!), and we'll sit and she'll read most of it to me, and that's a challenging read for her.

I'm wondering if I should put daily reading into our routine? For a short while I was having her read her own book in bed (after I read her a story, a ritual I do not plan to give up just because she can read by herself now!), but we do enforce an 8:00 bedtime and there isn't always time. She's quite capable of reading chapter books now, and she enjoys reading, but she doesn't necessarily choose to read daily.

Because she is not being challenged at school (which of course is on hiatus for the summer), I worry that she'll get lazy about reading. I noticed in kindergarten that she got into the habit of not doing her best, because she could "get away with" doing things sort of half-assed, and I don't even know if the teacher was aware that she could do better. The class used these color-coded books that came in about eight levels, the highest of which was purple, and DD was the only child in the purple books and they were way, way too easy for her.

So what should I do? Should I "teach" reading at home, the way I would have when I was a teacher, by encouraging her to read daily and perhaps write about what she read, and then give some little lessons on reading and writing skills here and there, or should I just leave her alone?
post #2 of 18
I would absolutely not force or teach reading. I would encourage reading, I would make sure she had lots of books, and maybe a little book nook to curl up in, I would invite her to come cuddle up with me and read, I would play games and do projects based on books, but it sounds like the last thing your child needs is more structured formal education time.

And really, lighten up. She's just in kindergarten. I wouldn't stress out so much over fears that she's going to be lazy based on just one year in school
post #3 of 18
Edited- ok, my dh is still asleep and he makes the coffee...I missed the whole Kindergarten part. Have fun and relax! I agree with AM--just sit and cuddle and look at books together. Read, read, read to her. You can also write down her own stories. Have her dictate letters to family & friends. Take her to the library summer story program. And read read read to her. No enforcement. Leave books on her bed. Leave books in the bathroom and in the kitchen. On the sofa... everywhere. if you have a way to play stories on tape in the car, the library has loads of them. Reading is a joy and there shouldn't be stress attached to learning how to read. So many folks think they hate reading---but what they hated was drill and kill reading instruction and horribly boring books.

Ill leave my intial brain dead post, just to let you know it's fine to even read to an 11 yr old who reads at a 'high school level'--whatever than really means. lol

I wouldn't. But i would read to the child myself every day. My 11 yr old loves to be read to, was a good & early reader, but didn't want to read chapter books for a while. We read them to him. It's not unusual now to read 3 or 4 chapters to him in the afternoon, and then notice him a couple of hours later reading ahead. he needs a little boost/support. Perhaps this might be your child as well?

I was reading my boy Half Blood Prince yesterday because his initial reaction was anxiety over the length. OOH, he's excited that it's so long--nothing worse than the end of a good book for him-- but he still worries about finishing. Anyway-- after I read to him, he picked it up later to try and read ahead. This child loves to read, but I think it's just part of his all around sensitive nature to look at chapter books & get a bit worried about finishing it. He's a perfectionist as well, so we have to be very encouraging and patient. Anyway--Moms of perfectionists know what I'm saying here.

If you read to her, he can get the pleasure of the book, the discussion, and perhaps you'll fire him up to read a chapter or two ahead. This way-- he gets it all. Nothing lost, everything to gain.
post #4 of 18
I don't think you need to "teach" reading, but I absolutely think that you should make reading together a part of your daily routine. There's no reason not to and every reason to. We have an 8 o'clock bedtime, too, but the bedtimes stories always get read, even if it means getting into bed a bit late. Reading to and with my kids is one of the most important thing I can do with and for them.

When my kids are older and reading well independently, we will have a daily reading time where we are all reading our own books silently. We are a reading family and a reading household and one of the ways we will reflect that value is by reading every day.

Namaste!
post #5 of 18
My son was worried to learn to read because he thought it meant we wouldn't have read-aloud time anymore. I think reading out loud is definitely something to keep as your daily routine as long as possible!
post #6 of 18
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by dharmamama
When my kids are older and reading well independently, we will have a daily reading time where we are all reading our own books silently. We are a reading family and a reading household and one of the ways we will reflect that value is by reading every day.

Namaste!
That's the sort of thing I meant, not forcing anything, just ENforcing it. When I taught school, we had "DEAR" time, which stood for Drop Everything And Read. So I guess I was thinking of trying to do something similar at home.

I certainly don't intend to stop reading to her - I think I said that in my original post. In fact, when there's limited time at bedtime, I choose reading to her (or taking turns reading aloud from a story) over leaving her to read silently to herself. It's a special time that makes us feel close, and I would never give that up!
post #7 of 18
Sounds like you've got it covered.

Just enjoy her.

My 6 yr old is hs'd and we're not doing anything enforced or anything other than what I 'recommended' . We play with words, we read. She loves life.

I don't know what you mean by 'just getting by" or what you mean by 'lazy'. My 6 yr old plays all day, but she doesn't have a lazy bone in her body, and I'll bet your child doesn't either.
post #8 of 18
Thread Starter 
What I meant by "lazy" (perhaps a poor word choice!) was that she would often do a rush job on her work in the classroom, and it would not be a true reflection of her ability. I want her to do her best and feel proud of her work.

I don't mean that she is lazy herself. I guess I worry that being unchallenged in school is teaching her to be an underachiever. That's what happened to me, actually, and it has had a lasting, negative impact.
post #9 of 18
I know you are wanting what's best for your girl, but be very careful about projecting what happened to you onto what is reality for your daughter. "Rushing through' work and 'not doing your best' is subjective stuff. And I have no idea what that means for a Kindy excpet she's wants to get the boring stuff done so she can go do the interesting stuff. If her worksheets and coloring sheets look imperfect, it's cause they are boring, not that she doesn't care.

As for your experience, we have to remember how horrible most schools can be for most children. It's prbably that you were a lovely, 'normal' little child who was berated and shamed , so you came to see yourself as an underachiever, rather than the wonderful child I'm sure you were.

Don't let the system shame your child, and take deep breaths when you start to believe 'them'. If you're choosing school, advocate for the most respectful teachers --meaning check them all out, and then make respectful requests. Get to know your child's current teacher and then chat at parent meetings about what sort of teacher personality works with your child. This is teamwork. (Some schools are less good about this, but most teachers will try and work with you, as long as they don't feel threatened).

Above all, don't let anyone put into her head that she's not a thoughtful, eager child!

I am sure your child is quite wonderful.
post #10 of 18
I think the problems you've seen in kindergarten will continue to get worse as she gets older - she doesn't reward doing careful, thorough work, but instead rewards getting your papers done. The work is often repetitive and stupid, and rushing through it is really the most logical way of approaching it.

I think incorporating some reading time into your routine is fine - when Rain was that age, she was sleeping with me, so after I'd read to her we'd both read our own books for a bit, although it wasn't required at all, and some days she would do something else or just go to sleep. To this day we both usually read to ourselves before bed. I don't think adding reading to your routine will really change the issue, though, which seems to be school...and you can't really "homeschool for reading".

Dar
post #11 of 18
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Originally Posted by annettemarie
I would absolutely not force or teach reading. I would encourage reading, I would make sure she had lots of books, and maybe a little book nook to curl up in, I would invite her to come cuddle up with me and read, I would play games and do projects based on books, but it sounds like the last thing your child needs is more structured formal education time.
I want to thank you, you've reminded me that I should just let my son relax this summer. I'm actually conflicted between unschooling and public schooling-I know-two very extremes. The public school is 4 blocks away, in a great school district, one of the best schools in the area and so far I have been very impressed with the teachers and their teaching-very dedicated and take it as a privlige that we trust them to teach our children. We figured we'd try it out and he absolutely loves it. I'm pretty involved, but I don't want to push him in any way (the unschooling side of me), but I do worry if he's going to lose it over the summer, but I shouldn't even think twice about it, you're right, he's getting enough of that.


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Originally Posted by UUMom
My 11 yr old loves to be read to, was a good & early reader, but didn't want to read chapter books for a while. We read them to him. It's not unusual now to read 3 or 4 chapters to him in the afternoon, and then notice him a couple of hours later reading ahead. he needs a little boost/support. Perhaps this might be your child as well?
I have an eight year old who loves to read and is reading way above his reading level, but I can't get him to read chapter books at home, I'll suggest it a lot, but he doesn't take the bite. I'd love for him to read some of the books I read as a kid so we could talk about them. That's a great idea, reading a few chapters to give him a jump start, I'm sure he'd love that.
post #12 of 18
I remember my mother requiring me to read chapter books for the summer reading program after first grade, because she knew I was capable and didn't think it was fair for me to read books that took me 2 min when they took my peers much longer. They passed out prizes for who won the most books, and I won by a long shot, even reading chapter books. But otherwise I just had books accessible.

I think the best way you can encourage/reinforce reading at home is to go to the library regularly, and do your own reading. If you set aside time each day to read to yourself, no TV, and encourage your kiddo to curl up beside you and do the same (but not actually require it), that could well help immensely.

Also, being aware of what your child is capable of and both expecting it when she brings home work and informing the teacher when you think she's not being challenged should help. A good teacher will know that the smart ones can slip through the cracks and will want to provide your DD with challenges so that she isn't bored.

Finally, nothing kills enthusiasm for reading like being required to read a good deal of boring, easy, childrens' readers. This happened to my niece in second grade, and now in 5th she is very unenthusiastic about reading, though we've all tried to encourage her with things like cycling mags and other things she's actually interested in. So if they send home lame, boring readers that are below your DC's reading level with notes for you to make sure she reads them to you, I'd send a note back saying, "This is a lame, boring reader and my DD read XYZ instead", assuming XYZ was something at a much higher level than said reader.
post #13 of 18
I agree with others that said to continue reading to her (as you already are), and to provide lots of reading material. Ds is 5 and insists on selecting his own library books. I always select some too, and when we get home he usually wants us to read ALL of them! "We" love to read. Sometimes I ask if he wants to read books (I'm still reading to him) and sometimes he'll request it. Definitely follow your daughter's lead!

My unschooling philosophy, uneloquently spoken - Following one's passion is wonderful - being forced to follow it can snub the light right out!
post #14 of 18
I definately would not forced reading practice. I would just let her enjoy reading things she thinks look interesting.
post #15 of 18
My dd1 also loves reading. but last year we saw her boredom at school create sloppy work, outbursts, and stress. As a family we decided that school is not for her. And during the last few weeks, my enthusiastic, wonderful, brilliant dd has returned. No outbursts, and really wanting to continue with things, instead of feeling rushed all the time.

My advice is to love reading. Read around your child (so it shows that reading is something you enjoy as well) and to your child. Take turns on pages, or with books. My dd also loves it when we leave her little notes. She also reads the ones we leave out for her little sister. Also my youngest often asks her big sister to read to her instead of me. I love that this is creating encouragement as well as bonding time.

One last note. I realize you have many reasons for continuing your child into the school system. But many bright kids have dimmed their brilliance due to the school system. Teachers must spend their time helping the ones that need catching up, and the many that are all on the same level. so unfortunately most schools leave the brightest students to fend for themselves (or to tutor the others, or read in the corner, etc.) Not my idea of a good education.

The concerns you are having are the same we had in the middle of the last school year. We tried homeschooling the reading, art, math , and science parts to her... it ended up just making her be above the others even more. (which is fine because that is her level, yk?)

On the other hand, if you are fine with your choice... Than yes, do encourage her passions outside of school whatever those may be. just don't get too frustrated with the lack of time to do so.
post #16 of 18
We like ZooBooks too!

I vote for making reading a part of your daily routine but doing it in a relaxed and mellow way. I don't understand why she can't read in bed for 15 or 20 minutes, even if it 8 (which is pretty early!).

To encourage reading, we visit the library every week so that everyone has something new and exciting to read. My kids are inconsistant in how much they read every day-- some days they read a ton, some days not much at all, but I'm the same way! If I made my children write about what they read, they would read less.

Learning is a natrual process.
post #17 of 18
Encouraging, modeling, great. Requiring, bribing, not so great Especially with the very young age of the OPs kiddo.

have fun!
post #18 of 18
I wouldn't stress it. Ask yourself what you would do if she wasn't reading on her own yet. would you read to her every day? would you make her sit and listen? would you let her listen haphazardly (for lack of a better discription of what my 5 year old does) or would you leave it up to her? what ever your answers are to those questions should be your guide to what you expect her to do on her own. If she is reading way above grade level there just might not be muchat her level she is intrested in. It may still be a lot of work for her to read and she just may not feel like doing it every day. we never forced my dd to read and she did fine (she is advancing at a good clip and has never struggled with skill although motivation has been an issue in the past. n ow that she is older she is finding more material that intrests her at her reading level. )

was there an nswer to your question in there?
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