Happy 7 months Torin!
And hooray for the crawl Genevieve! Pam, the TP is easy. I hope your trader comes on-line again after the move! Hugs about the grody morning. Martin told me yesterday- "don't wear that shirt again tomorrow, when we just hugged you smelled like pee" Huh? Oooops.
Sounds like a yummy cake Sheri! And Iris is not doing food yet, but we put a bowl, spoons, and a cup out. Today I gave her a sippy cup with a water and she drank from it. With help, babes are quite good with cups. I was not trying to really get substance in her or anything, but she can drink form a cup I guess.
Jeni- on fussy sleep fighting try the homeopathic chamomile for babies, it's in the hylands teething tabs. When babes are over tired, arching away, that’s the perfect moment for chamomile. The teething tabs do the trick for Iris, but you can give them the tea even in a cup or bottle.
On pee pauses- we are being potty slackers. We've had two poopy dipes lately...after catching most in the potty it makes me feel bad that I'm not tuned in, and making her poop her pants.
The balloons sound fun Kathy. I guess you'll have to make the cake again with dark for grown ups, huh? And cool 'bout the starbucks. I'm interested in the jumpers, I think Iris would love one she such a jumper but I hear lots of moms say they seem unsafe. And Clean Sweep was my favorite show as I sat immobilized for the first three months postpartum- I always took comfort in seeing someone else with more crap and clutter than me, and then seeing it all organized in the end. I just bought a bunch of bins last week and was gratified in a clean sweep kinda way. Hilarious about the Krishna song!!Something very elemental and appealing in those sanskrit chants I guess!
Sorry KAia tapered off Michele. It must be soooo Hard! I have such compassion for you.
Oh, on my fundraiser- shipping is cheap. If its cool, for those that asked about stuff I'll stick a catalog in the mail...tiger, Andy, Karen, Andy, and Jessi. Anyone else, just ask. I feel bad for introducing the commercial vibe, here it was probably the wrong thing to do but am grateful if ya'll want to support the fundraiser.
Hi Jess, peekaboo I see you. My best friend from high school was a clean freak too, and I tried to live wither her in college. She wanted to have the bathroom cleaned every other day and would freak if there was a hair, even a just from a head, on the floor. I was thinking once every two months was fine...she moved out. That’s cool about I&R getting to have fun together.
I gotta check out the Unconditional Parenting book, I hadn't heard of it before.
Happy 6 months Luka! I’m sending good thoughts/prayer for your papa Karen! Must be so hard to feel happy he's doing well with a walker- dads are the strong ones, right? SO hard to watch our parents change! I hope you get there sooon. Your homeschool system sounds fun, I dream of doing things that way-get interesting in a subject and just following it around in a real interdisciplinary way. I know it must be tough, tough, too. And I will totally buy sweetened condensed milk to make Key lime pies (I have a tree) and the magic cookie bars with graham crackers, coconut, and choc chips. They are my childhood favorite!
Kindergarten already, wow! Pretty crazy starting on s Friday but I bet it's nice to get a break after meeting everyone. I remember my first day of kindergarten. Sounds like a super cool school, great to get the Japanese and Hawaiian! And Violets crawling? Wow, thats so exciting. Iris is pushing with her feet lots. Sorry bout the neighborhood rabble-rouser causing a ruckus. So Violet is going to OT- what is the official deal? Can she hear or not, did I miss something? And ha ha on the 3 yo s being OCD!
And I'm with you all in the heat- Florida summers are super hot and humid. And we are the lightening strike capital of the world, so the afternoon summer rains roll in about 3pm and we get a dark purple black sky a and sudden down pour. The scrub pines looks so beautiful, like yellow green, against a stormy sky that’s about to let loose, and the intensity of the storms is so satisfying. I feel out of rhythm with the year if I am not here this time of year...I love the summer rain it makes it really friggin' humid, though. Iris cooks when we get in the car. the Ac is not powerful enough to cool her well...
And for Annie and Pam, I was just reading the old mothering that had the baby signs article, that teaching signs improves their language skills by helping them conceptualize. Plus, then they don't get so frustrated if they are speaking unintelligibly.... maybe that would help a bit.
Glad Megan's Eval went mostly well. AMAZING~AMAZING she was 25 weeks. Aren't you so grateful she’s so normal and healthy now. I hope that some of that trauma is a memory now that she’s a big healthy fun girl. That is something you should be proud of, preemies esp need breast milk, and the docs are right, you deserve an award. I've been saying that for a long time!
And Will is sitting up, like getting up, himself? Wow! I can't imagine how you would get much done at work at this stage, Iris came and did some prenatals appointments with me and I just had to pass her off to the administrator at times when she was fussy. I was just having to ignore she was mad and gee ton with it. I was finally able to get one of the midwives to finish my visit/ do the physical so I could go be with her. The days of doing the occ prenatal visit with babe on my lap are numbered. She’s more energy now. too bad about the dipes, though.
And, there's a great response to the BBC article on the circ thread, I knew someone would have smart answer. There was a link form the south African gov't basically saying it's not often being done as a rite of passage by the men folk, but boys sneak off and get it done to be cool and gain status...so its often done by shysters out to make a buck, and they harm the boys, cause infections, and likely would transmit problems with unclean instruments and stuff. Plus it doesn't prevent HIV very well, just reduces risk to men somewhat. SO they still need the same amount of education and other protection as if they had a whole penis so why bother? Apparently the study was done by Americans and overlooks the safety/ cultural context concerns that play into it in South Africa.
Paq, did you get to meet the Mayalicious one?
Andy, I know about that weight stuff....I am with in 10-15lbs of my prepregnant weight but I had an extra 20 on before I got pregnant, so the PP weight makes it over the top. Not being mobile, and having pain on my body has made exercising hard. By the way, on the reiki, I meant to say thanks for sending some to me way back. You can do that again, now I'm on a healing path again. Glad the sans a wheat is making a difference for Beca. Its not so hard once you get into the groove.
Thinking of skinny kids, I saw a client that had a babe in Nov at whole foods. She was not able to nurse, I don't know the details but the mama looked so traumatized by not being able to feed her babe. Her daughter is having trouble gaining weight, she looks skinny and is 15 lbs at about 9 months. I wish I had been able to help more...or she'd been in a group like this, able to do what Michelle and Laura have done.
Aviva, the goats sound fun. We don't have a pet so Iris gets excited to see doggies and stuff. You might try the homeopathics for Japhet when he's fussy like that- chamomile rocks!
Tiger, glad you found a good doc that can appreciate the poo-gazing. I like NCSS too, just good info. Main thing for our age group I got was to get them to sleep without nursing at least every now and then.
Lisa, did the school system get straight on your plan? You are not going to work this year right? My sister is just starting a job as a special ed teacher, a career change. She's been a GIS person for the county, in administrative hell. She will work in a Title 1 school that's 85% spanish speaking migrant farm workers. She has minimal Spanish, like form high school. Her class will be 8-12 special needs kids across a few grades in elementary school. It should be interesting. She's making her bulletin boards this week. So do you know why you got this heart thing and anything about what you Dx really means in the short term, is it anxiety and stress related, something some aerobic exercise can fix?
I had a craniosacral session this weekend with a really good energetic healer woman. She really brought me into my body. When we were at the neurologist last week, he asked what my symptoms were and I said from waking, I can feel and am aware of my back form l-5 down to my toes. he asked what aware meant, and martin said pain...I hesitated and he reminded me that he hears me scuffling around going Ow, ow all day. So I had just gotten used to the pain so much it just seems like awareness now. After the craniosacral it felt like pain. She felt I had cut off from the lowe part of my body to get away from the pain, and that it was giving me less healing power. The work she did was sooooo powerful, I finally cried, and got aware how freakin' traumatizing the experience was for me. She said it was like I was violated, I had this real raw spot. Anyway, I didn't know what to expect form craniosacral, but I laid there and breathed and she sensed energy and we moved it around. It was amazing to be able to dialogue with someone about what I was doing internally....she said breathe energy into the Lower part of your body, and I did and we both felt a rush and she said "that was fast". The experience was otherworldy. I had flashbacks of the evil doctor and imagined him telling me how beautiful my uterus and imagined him expressing the gratitude for being in my most inner part... I imagined he approached it as though hit was sacred...and I was feeling utterly grateful to my uterus for growing such a lovely baby, rather than seeing it as traumatized by being cut open and permanently flawed by the scar.... it was deeply personal but so profound I thought I'd share some. She also said she thought that it was an archetypical kind of event- the midwife vs. the obstetrician, like 3000 years of the patriarchy vs. the goddess.
I saw a L&D nurse at the chiro today and told her who the doc was I had., With out saying a word her eyes got fiery and she said HE IS EVIL. It's weird, but thats how we felt when I transferred...he seriously dripped a creepy evil vibe. She used all those same words. She said he is creepy and evil and does it all with a smile on his face. She said he has literally asked a woman for her credit card while on the table getting a c-section, saying I can do a tummy tuck while we're at it if you pay up now.....Ugh...this man cut my reproductive organs!!! In case anyone missed it, I had a very conservative homebirth transfer and when we got the hospital the doc basically said you even tried a homebirth that’s so dangerous I am doing a section so I can cover my as, no way around it. Then he lied in my records, too. What a prick. It was nice to hear that the L&D nurses hate him too. She confirmed that my back up doc stopped working with him after that, and so did another doc. I called the hospital to complain this week too...I was thinking it was too late, but I was too traumatized before to do it. The woman I spoke with mad audible gasps of horror when I told her some of the things he said to me, and told me to get it all down in writing "so we can trend these things, if you know what I am saying..." "and put in all the hearsay about who he is in the community, that needs to be heard, you know lots of people and they need to hear that from you" She said there is a physician discipline committee and he will get dealt with. It hard for me to write the story though.
I also called a midwife room out of town to process me. I noticed I was holding the story; cause part of it is disappointment with my midwives, who are covering my job and are my best friends. SO it feels good to have someone else to talk to. I was just getting all PTSD about it, thinking about it and getting pissed/ freaked/sad every day during Iris's nap so I thought I needed to find someone to talk to.
Plus, I went and got my MRI and it was read today. Being in the chamber I was able to remember contractions for the firs time since Labor- being in an isolated space reminded me of being in my body alone..It was kinda nice to be able to access the experience. Anyway, I really like the neurologist, he's not holistic but he’s good. He said I have spinal stenos is and a bulging disk at l-4/L-5. Basically I was really weak after the c-section and made me prone to a back injury, I think it happened about 3 days after. I have script for physical therapy for 6 weeks, and he said I might consider surgery. In his dreams. That’s what got me into this mess. I am going on a real healing path. I am making a plan.
I am - engaging a acupuncturist to improve my chi/reattach my severed meridians and make me whole in an energetic way.
Seeing the chiropractor 3 times week (thanks for the trade, glad they want a large family!)He gave me positions and a few exercises.
I have the RX for 6 weeks of physical therapy; hope to strengthen my abs so it takes the pressure off my back. The good ones are not covered by my insurance, I hope I can find someone decent on the plan.
And I've been writing in my journal for the firs time in forever.
The midwife I am talking to is going to join with me to get to the bottom of it. It's a huge story, full of emotional and physical pain and terrible circumstances, and I think it will hold the key to transforming some HUGE things in my life that don't work if I can find my way thought the trauma, pain, and what not. Plus maybe asshole doc will be exposed as the danger to women he is.
On a sunnier note, I interviewed a midwfe this week ,and offered her the full time job for next year, I'll do the aprt time one and we would be a team. I am waiting to hear fom her, and we need to draw up the details, but it seems like a good fit and she could start soon so I could train her well before the other midwfe leaves in Dec. As soon as we have new good energy in the system, we get more clinets. I think she’s gonna take the job because the day after she was here, we had 4!!! people call who were 28-32 weeks and wanted to transfer to us. Seriously, if things are cool, and we can handle it, we get busy – if its chaotic or we feel stressed the load of clients is always naturally lower.
SO, that was a long freakin post. And I hope you al get cards from me!