m/c ten days ago and son is constantly nursing

[hankiesmama]

I had a 13 week m/c 10 days ago and today I have a headache from what I think is just a hormone drop. My son is nursing constantly and driving me insane.
I am too worn out to clean my filthy house and so stressed out I have hives.

How long will this go on? What can I do to make my milk production come back up?

Thanks for any advice.

[Soxfan Mom]

I am so sorry about your miscarriage. It is very difficult to take the time you need to grieve about that when you have so much going on. But please try to put yourself first for just a little while. I had a m/c in 12/03 at about 8 weeks and had an 18-month-old nursling then. I think I tried to put her off a bit during that period and she resumed full-force until she was 2.

I don't know much about supply issues, but perhaps your child is nursing a lot because he senses your sadness. Maybe your DH can run some interference for you?

Anyway, you hang in there and only talk to people who don't minimize your loss. It is devastating, and some people just don't get it.

Having said that, I should tell you that I got pregnant the month after the m/c. I am an avid believer that your fertility peaks for a window of time after a m/c. Best wishes to you.

[hankiesmama]

Thanks for you advice.

I'm sure part of the problem is that he senses my sadness but I don't really seem to be producing as much milk as before.

I sure as heck hope my fertility doesn't peak that much because I need a uterine resection before I can think about another baby My appointment for consultation isn't until August 17th!

I wish my husband would run interference but he's not too good at helping me out. I sometimes think he doesn't know what to do with the kid.

[William's Mom]

I'm so sorry, Mama. I've been there, although I didn't already have a nursling when I m/c.... I wish I could help.

But I did want to mention these tinctures that are amazing with low milk supply. I have to use one every day. They're great, and I mention them (literally ALL the time). I just can't pass up a post like this and not mention it because they really saved my nursing relationship.

http://www.motherlove.com/products_extracts.php

[callmemama]

So sorry about your miscarriage. Forget about the dirty house! Can you take your nursling to bed with you and just spend a few days resting/grieving?

[dziejen]

So sorry about your loss. Your son is still pretty young so he may be "comforting" you in the way he knows how. Try to ignore the house -- what matters most now is that you take time to heal and rest. Tell dh what you need and want -- sometimes the ones we love want to help but don't know what to do.