Someone Plez Help!!!!!

[Mommyat16]

Hi all. I'm Nikki and im 16. i found out that i was pregnant on july 2. my life has completly turned inside out. im really scared and dont know whats happening with my body. i was hoping maybe getting to know you ladies will help me figure out whats happening to me. i am due March 7. Anyways thanx for listening and im sure i will have lots of questions for you. my breasts hurt my stomach hurts, i am always tired, and i see this ugly brown line above my pubic area. and i dont know what it is? somebody plez help answer my questions.





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[theresa88]

Welcome Nikky. I am glad you posted. I am always chatty and I would be more than happy to answer ANY questions that you have. Although there are a lot of great people here to help in any way they can. Are you excited about having a baby? I know you are scared, but so was I when I got pregnant. It is another world to get used to and a life is growing inside you. It is scary and yet so wonderfully amazing at the same time. I hope this helps you and find you in good spirits. Please send me an e-mail anytime you need to chat, or post.

[RedOakMomma]

Hi Nikki

This must be so overwhelming for you, but I'm glad you're reaching out. I'd say the best place to go to get your questions answered (other than here, of course!) is a doctor's office. You need to be followed from the beginning by an OBGYN or midwife. Prenatal (pregnancy) care should start right away, and your doctor/nurses will be able to give you a very good idea of what to expect and what's normal.

Please forgive this next part if I'm way off the mark, but at your age you should probably also be asking yourself (and give yourself some real time to decide) if you _want_ to become a mother. My first pregnancy was a surprise and way younger than I wanted, and I never really gave myself the opportunity to look at the choices. Family especially all acted as if I'd be insane not to keep the baby--my mother was crazy high-pressure. In hindsight, I think it would have really paid off to look at the adoption option. I was never comfortable with the idea of abortion, but now that I'm older and have friends that have adopted (plus friends that have given babies up for adoption), I see how beautiful it all is. In fact, I found out last year I have a half brother (my father's son, conceived when Dad was in young and in college)--he was given up for adoption at birth. It's a lot more common than you might think!

Anyway, not to turn this into a novel, but give yourself some time to figure out the path that's best for you and the baby. There are so many choices, so many ways to be happy....just remember that, okay? I remember how panic stricken I was and how trapped and overwhelmed I felt, and now looking back it didn't have to be that way.

Oh--and the line on your tummy is the "linea negra." It shows up during pregnancy, darkens a bit, then goes away in the months after birth. Totally normal and nothing to worry about. The tiredness and stomach ache should go away at the end of your first trimester, at about 13 weeks or so. Sometimes it takes a little longer, but for most people it _does_ go away.

I hope I didn't offend you in any way. You've found a very supportive community of women here, and I know everyone will try to help. You are _not_ alone. A lot of women here are/have been young mothers, and I'm sure you're going to find a lot of support. Hugs, sweetie.

[Mrs Dimples]

The prospect of a new baby can be scary no matter how old or young you are. There are a lot of young mamas on MDC, or mamas who had their babies young and have had some years to learn from since then. Maybe try the Finding Your Tribe board, is there a young mamas tribe?

You may feel pretty yucky for awhile, or the sickies may go away sooner than you think. The brown line on your abdomen will probably fade in time, too, it's called the linea negra and most people get it, I think. I am very fair-skinned and I got it with my son, and you can still see it very faintly 2 years later.

Please, don't be afraid to ask any questions or share your feelings here. Ther are so many incredibly warm and wise mamas on this board, and no one here is going to judge your situation. It seems like a lot of members here are or were younger mamas, so you are definitely not alone.

Congratulations, by the way! This is your life now, and I think if you embrace it and really learn to surrender to the love you will feel for your sweet new babe, you will find happiness even in the midst of your fear and doubt.

[Mommyat16]

thanx

i now know you guys are gonna be alot of help. why are my pre-natal vitamins so gross they are the things that are making me sick all the time. my doctor said its normal and my fiance says that they can also give me really bad heartburn (which i already have). but im sure more questions will come.


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[yvonnemlv]

Hey, instead of using those nasty prenatals.. tee hee... you could try AllOne Vitamin powder that you can mix with juice. I mix atablespoon in a protein shake each morning. I compared the contents and it has the same or more of all the important bits and i find my body absorbs it much easier.