I'd rather have a home birth, where "something" is tremendously LESS LIKELY to "go wrong" in the first place, and where I am just as safe and able to transfer if "something" does "go wrong" as I would be in a hospital.
I have spoken with many a doctor and L&D and NICU nurse, and they ALL agree that:
1) Things are FAR less likely to "go wrong" at home than in the hospital;
2) If things do "go wrong" at home, they will be caught sooner (since MW care is generally far more attentive), AND they have the same likely outcome (w/transfer-- even 20 minutes away) as they would in the hospital;
3) The only "wrong" things that make the hospital a safer place to start birthing are A) so rare that they should not influence one's decision, and B) so critical that the outcomes are terrible in either case. IOW, in these extremely rare circumstances (<1/10 of 1% of cases) the mortality rates for a homebirth/transfer might be 90%, but the mortality rates are STILL about 70% in the hospital.
Weighing the much more common 1) against the extremely rare 3), I think we have a winner: homebirth!
I have sympathy for the "the woman needs to be wherever she feels most comfortable" argument-- I used to feel like the OP before I did all my research. However, on some level, I think that MOST women can understand and internalize the idea that home is the safest place to be (for women w/low-risk PGs).
My controversial viewpoint is this: we (for the most part) only "feel" safer in hospitals because of erroneous and myth-filled societal indoctrination. Thus, that "feeling," while in some ways a true feeling, is really more of a "thought" than anything else. Instinctively and physically, we are virtually all more comfortable at home than in a bustling, at least somewhat impersonal hospital setting. But we "know" that hospitals are "safer," therefore we "feel" safer in them.
But many of our bodies do not. They STILL slow labor when we get there. We STILL feel more stressed in that setting. Our conscious (and often subconscious) tell us that we are "doing the right thing," but most of us never really "feel" it-- in large part because it's not true. I'd compare this to CIO.
That's JMHO. YMMV. But I, for one, would like to try and better inform women who are "scared" to birth at home and MAYBE help a few become more comfortable with the idea. I also think it's important to validate feelings of fear-- but I think it's just as important to explore them, not just to "accept" them, w/o question-- IYKWIM.
If a woman with no history of abuse or anything else said she wasn't going to breastfeed, because she "feels weird" about it, well... I'd acknowledge her feelings, but I'd hope that wouldn't be the end of the conversation, YK?