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post #81 of 90
For me home is the best place to give birth. I say that with conviction, even considering the fact that my first ds was born in a freestanding birth center and I ended up homeless 3 days before my ds2 was born (he was born at my in-laws home, which was kinda like birthing on Mars).

Wanna, I giggled when I first read your comment about the carpet ... only YOU would or could bring that into a birthing conversation!
post #82 of 90
HOME - a great study and long term study was just released that showed that homebirths had much better outcomes than hospitals.

Contact Michigan Midwives Association or any midwifery group for the specific details of the study.
post #83 of 90
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Originally Posted by applejuice
If you plan to raise children, why would you even consider putting light colored carpeting in your home if stains bother you?
Not all of have the luxury of owning our own homes, you know!!!

I think my landlord might just throw a fit if we ripped the carpet up!
post #84 of 90
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Originally Posted by wannabe
Not all of have the luxury of owning our own homes, you know!!!

I think my landlord might just throw a fit if we ripped the carpet up!
True, but my first was born in an apartment with cream carpets. We did okay.
post #85 of 90
I love birthing at home. I love that I don't have to get in a car while in labor. And I love that I don't have to go home after the birth-- we're already there.
post #86 of 90
OT

The cream colored carpet has been here since we purchased the house 3 years ago. We cannot afford to replace over 2000 sq ft of carpet at the moment.
post #87 of 90
While I personally think homebirth is safest, medically speaking, I think hospital and birth center birth should be improved so that they are not the less-than-ideal experiences they are for many women. I also think insurance should cover ANY birth setting or mode of delivery, even if it is solely the woman's choice. Choice is choice is choice. I think I'm entitled to insurance coverage for my homebirths, and a lady should be entitled to insurance coverage for cesarean birth, hospital birth, birth center birth, etc. Forbidding things rarely brings anyone around to another point of view.
post #88 of 90
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Originally Posted by LizD
While I personally think homebirth is safest, medically speaking, I think hospital and birth center birth should be improved so that they are not the less-than-ideal experiences they are for many women. I also think insurance should cover ANY birth setting or mode of delivery, even if it is solely the woman's choice. Choice is choice is choice. I think I'm entitled to insurance coverage for my homebirths, and a lady should be entitled to insurance coverage for cesarean birth, hospital birth, birth center birth, etc. Forbidding things rarely brings anyone around to another point of view.
Elizabeth,

Totally agree with what you said about hospital and all births should be cover no matter what. Thank you.
post #89 of 90
OT- my two rascals do more than enough damage to my cream carpet everyday ... at least while I am giving birth I can be aware and try to avoid major stains! My kids have no such perception. :LOL

On topic- I agree that denying coverage for hospital births is not the answer. I think we need to focus on making them safer for women and we should start by trying to reduce the c-section rate that is SOARING to almost 30%! I believe that an out of hospital birth is safest for most women. However, there are many women who don't have that safety ... a battered woman is far better off in a hospital!

And the logistics simply don't work all the time. Some people may be concerned about their cream carpet. Others may live in an unpleasant neighborhood. I chose a birth center for my first birth because I know that if I had attempted a homebirth my MIL would have been waiting outside with a police officer trying to accuse me of abuse and neglect. I know she is a nut and those things would not be true but at the time it just wasn't worth the fight I would have had to go through. Despite what I believed about birth in my heart, I needed to compromise to protect my family and create the best possible outsome during a very turbulent time. The funny thing about it though was that my 2nd son was born in HER house and HER bed. We've all grown a lot together.
post #90 of 90
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Originally Posted by LizD
Forbidding things rarely brings anyone around to another point of view.
: Besides, let's be realistic. If anything is going to get banned, it's homebirth, not hospital births. : Better to encourage openmindedness.

I have a friend who is a very nervous personality-- she can't help but focus on the what-ifs. She has a golden heart, but I personally think she would benefit from some anxiety drugs. When she learned that I was planning a home birth, she practically started crying out of worry for me. She was the only one who tried to talk me out of it, much to my surprize. But she is exactly the sort of person who just could never give birth out of a hospital. She would never be comfortable away from the doctors "safety net". Is it rational? No. But when it comes to birth, it's not what rational that matters-- it's where you feel safe and comfortable. Birth is emotional and subjective.
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