Originally Posted by Rhonwyn
Do you think that when a child goes through the 9 year change and starts to lose the innocence of childhood, that the parents go through a similar change with their relationship with the school?
The important point in your observation is the understanding and recognition of the ongoing, holistic interconnectedness of Waldorf, and any and all life experience for that matter. How all of that specifically plays out in each individual, and in each family situation, would no doubt be different for everyone, it seems to me.
Perhaps one unified experience grade 3-4 families might have a collective sense of, has to do with a kind of ‘intra-communal’ bonding: moving a bit closer together as a class, and further away perhaps from the larger, general school community. Certainly this is one of the developmental by-products of the 9 year change: a time when children make very specific acquaintance choices and begin to establish their particular circle of friends.
And yes, these changes are not unlike that parallel and very natural process you identified: the demise of the innocent/universal relationship the parent/s once had with the school. Also important to reflect upon: for every loss – for every evolving and transforming reality – something else is gained; something more refined and closer to the heart, so to speak.