I would like some clarification, please.
It seems like several people have said that having night-weaning threads in this forum is helpful because of the different advice you would get from other boards.
But, generally, isn't that advice *against* night weaning? So, perhaps if what people are looking for is not advice on *how* to night wean, but rather on *whether* to night-wean, they could just be more careful with the title? Sound reasonable, or am I missing something?
I also feel the need to clarify something. Generally, when people night-wean, in the *pure* meaning of the word--- withhold nursing for 10-12 hours a night against their childs will, I feel that goes directly against the spirit, if not the "rules" of CLW.
BUT, I do see a large grey area. For example, if a mother enrolled her child in a fun class in the afternoon and they were doing an art project and the child (3-4, lets say) asked to nurse and the mom said, "how about later, lets do this painting" and the child *agreed*--- it seems like most people accept that as in tune with CLW (of course, if the child proceeded to beg & cry and the mother refussed that is a different situation). In the same vein, if a child (3-4, lets say) is asking to nurse every time they roll over in the night and the mom said, "lets nurse in the morning, I'm really tired, nursies are sleepy..." and the child *agree*--- how is that *really* different (of course, once again, if the child proceeded to beg & cry and the mother continued to refuse that is a different situation).
A major issue is that not only do we each have our own definitions of CLW, we also have our own defintions of: nightwean, sleep through the night, child respectful, CIO, etc... When many of those definitions converge I think people are actually more in agreement than they would think--- they are just using different terms to express their feelings.
And I think there are definatley threads we can *all* agree on don't belong here. It makes me want to go start one so the forum members can bond in solidarity
It seems like several people have said that having night-weaning threads in this forum is helpful because of the different advice you would get from other boards.
But, generally, isn't that advice *against* night weaning? So, perhaps if what people are looking for is not advice on *how* to night wean, but rather on *whether* to night-wean, they could just be more careful with the title? Sound reasonable, or am I missing something?
I also feel the need to clarify something. Generally, when people night-wean, in the *pure* meaning of the word--- withhold nursing for 10-12 hours a night against their childs will, I feel that goes directly against the spirit, if not the "rules" of CLW.
BUT, I do see a large grey area. For example, if a mother enrolled her child in a fun class in the afternoon and they were doing an art project and the child (3-4, lets say) asked to nurse and the mom said, "how about later, lets do this painting" and the child *agreed*--- it seems like most people accept that as in tune with CLW (of course, if the child proceeded to beg & cry and the mother refussed that is a different situation). In the same vein, if a child (3-4, lets say) is asking to nurse every time they roll over in the night and the mom said, "lets nurse in the morning, I'm really tired, nursies are sleepy..." and the child *agree*--- how is that *really* different (of course, once again, if the child proceeded to beg & cry and the mother continued to refuse that is a different situation).
A major issue is that not only do we each have our own definitions of CLW, we also have our own defintions of: nightwean, sleep through the night, child respectful, CIO, etc... When many of those definitions converge I think people are actually more in agreement than they would think--- they are just using different terms to express their feelings.
And I think there are definatley threads we can *all* agree on don't belong here. It makes me want to go start one so the forum members can bond in solidarity
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That all sounds reasonable to me!
YES!
I forgot all about that thread! And here I am starting it all over again! 
: I remember your story, M_S. Your post, as usual, is beautiful 
U.P.
I'm sorry you're getting worn down. Perhaps you should take my user name cause I'm, for the first time in close to 7 years, getting a fairly consistent 5 hours.
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