I think if he was physically even on average, but stature wise he was almost 40 inches at his 3 year check up.
I am 'homeschooling' as I believe that learning happens all the time, my parents are both teachers.
What do you hope to accomplish sending him early?
=Basically I want him to be more in with his peers academically, I don't want him getting bored in school. I want him to enjoy learning at school, he has already been in preschool and was bumped to the junior kindergarten age group.
My concern would be a social disadvantage of emotional immaturity despite his intellectual qualifications. Then he'll always be a year behind physiologically and developmentally, which I think might set him up for some challenges socially. If you are eager for him to progress with his learning, I bet there is a lot you could do at home to augment his intellectual growth!
=Actually thats the thing I am not eager for him to progress with his 'benchmark's I want him swimming with the rest of the fish, I want him to learn with his peers not be bored when he gets to school.
I am not sure about the social aspects, I was not skipped due to that 'emmotional maturity' excuse. I don't buy it, skipping me might have made me stand out a little less, socially the kid who is finished, read that book 5 years ago...bored out of their minds, removed to do extra/more challenging work. I don't want to go through all the 'gifted' programmes, as we all know there are good and there are the bad. I had a range of good to ugly in my years of school. I guess I want as normal experience for him as possible, without the meetings, the labels, the testing, the negative comments from teachers, etc.
There's no harm in asking for the school district to test him... though it's awfully late in the summer to be testing into kindergarten for fall, no? He couldnt test until school gets going, and then he'd enter school after it was already underway. I dunno, I'm not feeling good about it. Convince me!
=No there's no harm I guess, or I could get him privately tested. Oh yeah very late for Fall
I guess part of it is I am not sure, I know he is totally ready for JK in September, but I am not sure what is the best place for him, homeschooling with me or in school. And who's to say that advanced placement will even do it. Many in my family were advanced placed only to skip more, or like my dh do his college diploma before his highschool....(he did mornings at highschool, afternoons at college)
I can always keep him home and start the dialogue with the school, and if he is ready he can start SK next fall.
Posts: 61 If you feel emotionally he's ready for Kindergarten, then I would say to go for it. "Gifted" preschools are VERY far and few between, but if you have one in your area, that could be an option as well.
=LOL I usually find that those are more for parents who wish their kid was gifted -the pretentious types - not the ones who really know what a gift gifted is
NCLB's pressures have made it imperative that teachers work on getting the lowest-performing kids to pass the tests; therefore, if a kid is gifted, they're very likely to be left to themselves or stuck in the corner reading.
=lol so true that was most of my school, reading a book after finishing the busy work
If your kid is way, way gifted, I'd really not even bother. What is a kindergarten teacher going to do with a kid who can read at the fifth-grade level, spell words I see the adults on this board messin' up on, and do multiplication, for instance? Really, what?
=lol Actually my kindergarten teacher 'put me to work', I was her helper, but I started K having finished the bobbsytwins set, and nancy drew before 1.
That kindergarten teacher's going to regard that kid as a pain in the butt, most likely, because he represents a whole new one-student class for her to prepare for. Whee. Moreover -- and this is the issue that gripes me most -- how is a gifted kid going to get challenged?
=True that is my biggest issue to keep challenging him so he loves to learn.
I don't want that robbed from my kids.
Posts: 1,268 The research doesn't support your opinion. In fact, it quite contradicts it, suggesting that there is very little (if anything) to worry about on the score of emotional immaturity and being a year behind.http://www.nationdeceived.org/
=Thanks for that! I think it could be an issue in highschool for boys, my dh was a December baby and skipped - he was a little fart for most of highschool, but made up for it by being 6-1 or was it 6-2 before rugby....
My dh was a gifted child, who had a miserable experience at school as a small child. He used much bigger words than other children his age, and didn't fit in socially, so the other children picked on him a lot.
=lol I still run into that, english has thousands of words why just use a few
I learned to adapt and cover up that wordiness for a while but its so tiring.
The teacher thought he was a pain because he didn't fit her mold of how all the children should act (finished worked too quickly, asked too many questions etc). I would only start him early if you have met the teacher and feel that he is really going to be appreciated in her class.
=True enough! And when you don't do something well, I have mild dyslexia and it affects my spelling (its atroshush
my handwriting is brutal as I have poor fine motor skills. And I keep forgetting kindergarten is a bunch of colouring pages, etc.
I think even though he would be ready, why bother
I mean I can provide him with social opportunities, learning opportunities, out the world, he has plenty of time to sit behind a desk and practice colouring in the lines!
Perhaps I cannot relate because my child has not been dubbed "gifted" academically (though he's been called exceptional athletically, but I digress ),
=Yes I think the other 'gifts' are far more frustrating to deal with, intelligence has bench marks, measurements etc.
My two cents, as a gifted mom of two gifted kids, and a gifted-advocate, too;
(sorry so long, but it's a Big Issue with me :-)
Gifted kids don't just start out ahead and then keep pace with older peers
=AMEN! I have three kids my eldest is a very bright girl - straight A's, but pretty much in the top 5-10% loves to learn, and I know she's very smart, but gifted is 'different'. Its a quality, that is often hard to really describe to people who really think its 'early out of the gate', or just a bit ahead....
My middle child did everything freaky early, crawled at 4 months, ran at 8 months and two days, spoke very early (5 months complete words).
I've seen gifted 3 year olds with more advanced ethics than most senior citizens. It's humbling. And it's horrifying to see them subjected to the typical ethics of average 3 year olds.
=Or scary as hell
I remember being that age terrified about the newspaper I was reading (cold war, russia nukes) lol I would get so concerned I would write letters to politicians....
A gifted child (or adult) does not need OLDER kids to act as peers, they need *true* peers. True peers are nothing but other gifted kids. There is no substitute.
=Amen and still true as an adult -the big lie my mom told me, when you are an adult you will have peers - B.S.
The problem with finding true peers for gifted kids is that there are so few of them by definition.
=And also that I think gifted kids really like other kids, they don't like to judge and they want to see the gifts in other kids... Hey why not MENSA for kids?
(lol its been years since I did mensa but......)
A common view held by those trained to be educators (and I don't blame them for it, it's just what they're taught) is that all gifted kids can be served by the same gifted programs=lol often taught by the same people teaching remedial work....my mom still saved a project (the last project) the inschool special ed woman asked me to do.....I guess my sense of sarcasm and writing abilities convinced them I needed a different programme - the project was something like "I AM SPECIAL BECAUSE"...
Beats my cousin who was the brightest of all of us, The kindergarten teacher asked them to draw a picture and write words below on farm animals =
'Sex Life of A Frog' = in kindergarten at 4, 16 pages, full diagrams - the teacher thought her older sister did it - my cousin refused to go back to school for weeks she was so insulted.
And gifted classes very rarely address the needs of more generalists, not geniuses. And girls - sigh......big holes like swiss cheese.
Wheh that's a long one