When I was sent to the gifted school I had a very difficult time socially. Some highly intelligent children have an unbelievable capacity for cruelty -
=so true, and some are very competative or do not appreciate 'other' gifted kids who aren't intellectually gifted.
because they are more perceptive, they can zero right in on others' weaknesses and craft very creative insults. Thanks to my experience I didn't know whether to laugh or cry at the PP's assertion that gifted children are typically advanced in moral development as well. I never got such poor treatment from regular-school kids, even when I was grossly outperforming them.
=I still think gifted kids are more moral, but I do think that when they fight with words - they can come up with really cutting things as they can see a person's weak spots....and expliot them if they want to. Something I watch in myself to this day, I can see things about people that they really don't want others to pick up on - not that I would be cruel but.....
The 'label' for some people does make kids feel like they constantly have to prove they are gifted (especially in kids that may not actually be....there is a difference between high achiever and gifted I found the most cruel to me were the smart high achieving boys but not necessarily highly gifted....usually teacher's kids - I am one too - but that got their kids into programmes that may not really be 'for them' if you are doing well, even the top of your class it doesn't make you gifted. Consequently failing miserably in some areas, having learning disabilities etc doesn't make you not gifted...)
Therefore I'm inclined to think that skipping of grades, whether wholesale or going to advanced classes for part of the day, might be better than special gifted classes or schools.
=See thats part of my thinking, I hated the competition aspect of gifted school/classes, I hated the fact I was expected to 'prove' how smart I was.....I just wanted to be me.
Restructuring a school is often difficult as there are not always enough teachers with skills in certain areas - aka math, music so one teacher may do the bulk in one school.
But going back to the generalizations, yes, higher IQs are positively correlated with advanced (compared to age peers) ethical development. That does not mean that *Every* genius is a friendly one, and it doesn't mean that people with average IQs are in any way lesser beings, it's just a trend.
=I agree, however I think the treatment of gifted kids can cause them to disengage from social moral issues in favor of bigger ones - nuclear arms etc.
When as a child you see the world, adults as very different from other people, adults are not always kind to smart children.....even teachers....sigh.
When you can become a target for things you really can't control, and judged for just being 'you'....it does make social behavior weirder as gifted kids sometimes relate better peer wise to older people rather than their own age peers that are gifted.
FWIW, I suffered a lousy GT program, too, and was abused every which way (yes, including that way) by my genius-mother.
= it still amazes me how people think women/mothers are not as evil as men can be.....we have experienced female abuse of that kind in my family and people really underestimate how devistating it is. It amazes me how people think women can all be trusted......sigh......
And I think parenting the gifted child is so easy to mess up
I was the 'smart' one, my sister the 'pretty one'. She made a point of graduating university with an honours degree, with academic honours on time...me I chased buff cute guys and 7 years is not too long for a three year degree
i was learning so much else....lol.