There's this weird social taboo about bringing one's own giftedness up in conversations about one's children.
=Yes I find it funny, like its 'bragging' trust me I am not bragging, all kids are different. I like most parents just want happy kids I don't really care HOW smart they are (just cause they are smart doesn't mean they won't give you grief later on
But I think its the 'smart' quality, people think gifted makes kids better.... People don't understand 'gifts'.
There's an abundance of help out there for parents-of-GT-kids, but precious little for GT-adults.
=Or for GT adults with GT children. Really I found most of the lit back in the day was helping 'average' parents understand their gifted child, but for us our gifted kids are a continuation of experiences etc.
But being GT is experientially different. I have occasionally hit parents' groups, but they have been so uniformly demoralizing and demonizing if I dare open up even a tiny bit, that I Don't Go There anymore.
=lol, yes the ones who 'trained seal' their kids, look what my kid can count to...I cringe... Flash card my boy and he could really come up with a few great ones...but why would I subject him to that type of torture so he can show off to others.....sigh....
My dh parents I think are still 'inshock' from parenting him as he wasn't anything typical.
I think the falacy of gifted kids will sail through life, they have 'it made' really belittles the experience of being so different
Its more of a struggle, but how many 'normal' moms can understand that its not always just a 'gift' but that it comes with other issues....that you really can't understand if you haven't been there.
Peers, sigh actually I have a few but I think I still suffer from that I am really not different keep an open mind and then feel let down by how 'simple' people think - I mean in the unresourceful, don't read a thing, don't think beyond the front door.....simple small lives. Whereas my mind seeks out new information like....a dog and a steak left on the counter! I need to feed my brain. Its a drive
I am not GT cause I was 'born' this way
My brain propells me to who I am, like an artist has to draw!
And the frustrations in bridging social gaps.....sigh....my sister who is smart but 'normal' is always frustrated that I am still me - not the talk about nothing, shop all the time, interested in clothes, fashion, etc. sister she really wanted. And although I can bridge the gap, she can't meet me anywhere near.....I've learned that sometimes you can't win, but really I like most people just want to be accepted for being myself, I don't use big words for anyother reason than my brain chose that one, I don't want to make anyone feel stupid, but why is my very presence the way I talk or the one I love, they are out to prove you MUST be wrong about something....see she's not that smart - wether its a misprononciation of a word, etc.
Why is intellgence intimidating or makes people feel less? When actually its sometimes my intelligence that makes me feel less able to connect.
Either you become a chameleon in everyones forest, but I really want my own tree to live in and be myself!
Thank god for the internet!