Hi Laila ~
I'm a military spouse living overseas. I had to go through the vax ringer and was given the "choice" of vaxing in order to accompany my husband. If I had refused the vax, then my kids would not have been screened for overseas duty and would have gotten NO support from DOD should we have decided to move anyway. *sigh*
I have unfortunately lost the URLs I had gathered during my research, but the instruction I finally tracked down stated that military dependents had to be current according to CDC's "recommended" schedule in order to receive medical care overseas. *Medical & religious excemptions are allowed, but if I recall they are pretty strict.* I also had to bring the girls current in order to be screened for overseas duty. Don't know if DOD civilian workers are held to the same criteria or not, but if you have any sort of overseas medical screening process, that's going to be the biggest hurdle.
The reality for me is my middle child is now 28 months and only current through 9 mo and my infant has never been vaxed (she was born after we arrived in Korea). The requirement to be current for medical care is not, at least in my experience, closely policed. It was definitely required, however, to get that overseas screening. The CDC and all youth programs also require current shots, so my 28 month old is not participating, thank you very much.
Oh, and one suggestion would be to ask for the instruction (military-speak for policy) that states the vaccination requirements. That's not an unreasonable request and should hopefully give you facts to work with instead of the "he said, she said" crap.
I'm sorry I don't have better news for you. Hopefully being a DOD civilian, you won't be held to the same standards. *crossing fingers*
ETA ~ Found the DOD instruction regarding vax, DOD 6205.2 ( http://www.dtic.mil/whs/directives/c...html/62052.htm
This may or may not help as well ~ http://www.vaccines.mil
One more thing ~ This is a DOD's school health services guide, the CDC might use the same forms. Immunization forms are on page 65 ~ http://www.dodea.edu/foia/iod/pdf/2942.PDF